How to bag a wealthy man?

[Simonstrousers]

Realise I’m going to get flamed for this, but how many of you if you really were completely honest, would prefer to be with a wealthy man, given the choice?
How do you attract them, what type of women do they go for?
I live abroad, 10 minutes away are multi millionaire pound villas, extensive gyms and restaurants etc. I’ve seen these men with a mix of women..some much younger and glamorous (fairly obvious) but many of the wives are fairly quiet and quite plain.
How go these women generally end up with these men?

@Yakkadeeee

Life is never perfect and never goes exactly to plan, but I do have the life I always wanted.
I've worked off and on for short periods throughout my relationship to support my husband with starting new businesses etc. But in general he provides everything. We have all joint money and accounts, I have access to every penny and what's his is mine, and there is no resentment. It works for us very well, but I understand it wouldn't for others 😊
I am so very lucky.

Obviously there are the "trophy wife" types...but if you actually look at the very successful men out there, they seem to go for personality and substance over anything else.

Really...

@isitsummertimeyet

Lol, not a Loose Women fan, and I find plenty to occupy my time like volunteering and doing things to help my husband's business.
Not entirely sure what weight has to do with it, but of course, you're entitled to your opinions.

@Mykidshave4legs can I ask what it is that you bring to the partnership?

@TheOneLeggedJockey from what I've seen / in my circle that's my experience.

[quote Mykidshave4legs]@TheOneLeggedJockey from what I've seen / in my circle that's my experience.[/quote]
I think you miss my point.

@BarryWhiteIsMyBrother

I bring unwavering loyalty throughout the stressful time of him starting a new business in the early years of our relationship, I have stuck by his side through some serious health issues.

I am educated, widely read.
I host well, can cook to a high level.
I am his partner and bring him credibility and respect when in social situations.
I support him having to travel, work long hours and be away for important things in our life without complaint.
I go the extra mile to make sure he can focus on work, I take care of everything else, including our budgeting and accounts.

I volunteer, I paint.
I make him laugh and he is my best friend.
We wouldn't have it any other way.

[quote Mykidshave4legs]@BarryWhiteIsMyBrother

I bring unwavering loyalty throughout the stressful time of him starting a new business in the early years of our relationship, I have stuck by his side through some serious health issues.

I am educated, widely read.
I host well, can cook to a high level.
I am his partner and bring him credibility and respect when in social situations.
I support him having to travel, work long hours and be away for important things in our life without complaint.
I go the extra mile to make sure he can focus on work, I take care of everything else, including our budgeting and accounts.

I volunteer, I paint.
I make him laugh and he is my best friend.
We wouldn't have it any other way.[/quote]
I bet you'd be getting a completely different reaction were you a high flying female exec being facilitated by a SAH husband.

@GodOfPhwoar
You're probably right!
I knew what I was getting myself into, replying to an AIBU thread...but I'm really proud of my husband and he is proud of everything I do.
He absolutely couldn't do his job without me holding down the fort.

I bet I know who you are!

Are you Elizabeth Bennett ??

@Mykidshave4legs

@Mykidshave4legs credibility? How?

@BarryWhiteIsMyBrother

Being a "family man" is quite important in business circles and it is widely acknowledged that a man with a supportive wife at home can achieve more than his single counterparts. Hearing that he has my blessing to go and work those long hours has set potential clients and business partners at ease.
I also plan Christmas parties etc and make him look good

@Mykidshave4legs I am familiar with how business circles operate - I run a company. However I wouldn't say what you described is credibility. Stability maybe.

@BarryWhiteIsMyBrother you're probably right. Poor choice of word on my part

[quote BarryWhiteIsMyBrother]@Mykidshave4legs I am familiar with how business circles operate - I run a company. However I wouldn't say what you described is credibility. Stability maybe.[/quote]
Unless she is also his beard.

[quote Mykidshave4legs]@BarryWhiteIsMyBrother

Being a "family man" is quite important in business circles and it is widely acknowledged that a man with a supportive wife at home can achieve more than his single counterparts. Hearing that he has my blessing to go and work those long hours has set potential clients and business partners at ease.
I also plan Christmas parties etc and make him look good [/quote]
Its quite important in professional circles too. A responsible family man image is pretty standard if you want to progress in the traditional professions, if you want to fit in and be given business. If you want to socialise with people who might turn business your way professionally, a wife who can organise successful dinner parties and put people at their ease is a great asset.

@GreenlandTheMovie
That has definitely been our experience.

@Mykidshave4legs

I know this is a controversial topic, but from my early teen years, I always knew I wanted to be a stay at home mum and the wife of someone who could provide a comfortable life for me.

So, I decided that it was only fair to make this very clear to everyone I dated.
I was always happy, polite and friendly, but I would say that this was a non negotiable for me unless there were extenuating circumstances down the line like physical/mental health issues.

I find if you're very clear about what you want, people find it refreshing, you don't waste time and you will easily find someone who's goals align with yours.
As for how to attract them?
I am a plus size girl with an unconventional look...but I am very confident and believed that I deserved everything I wanted out of life.
I am also opinionated and no doormat.
Most highly successful men want someone sensible, loyal, supportive and intelligent who can dress well.
Obviously there are the "trophy wife" types...but if you actually look at the very successful men out there, they seem to go for personality and substance over anything else.

Be yourself, have interests of your own and be confident in your look.
Say what you want out of life, and you'll attract people who want the same things 😊

I get what you are saying but its a bit more nuanced than just personality and substance. Most wealthy men seem to want someone slim, because they want slim kids, and if education is important to them, they will often find someone well educated, if they can get someone like that. I'm not sure an "unconventional look" is really up there on the typical wealthy man's list of requirements either. Most people have confidence and personality so thats not really setting you apart from anyone else. As always, there are of course exceptions.

To meet such a man you have to move in his social circles, understand them and fit in, presumably. So you probably come from an affluent background too.

The only rich men I met with the ex Eton boys at Uni. We were from different planets. I wouldn't have fit in and didn't want to.

[quote Mykidshave4legs]@GodOfPhwoar
You're probably right!
I knew what I was getting myself into, replying to an AIBU thread...but I'm really proud of my husband and he is proud of everything I do.
He absolutely couldn't do his job without me holding down the fort.

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I am aligned with you, as happens.

I am no longer a low earning part-time or SAHM, but I was and my husband would not have been anywhere near as successful had i not supported him. Certainly not freeloading but very hard work and compromising a career for the greater good of the family.

My willingness to be the supporting role meant we both benefitted enormously. I am now back in a well paid job which I enjoy very much and for which I have his full support.

There’s always a pay off with wealthy men. And a serious power imbalance. From what I’ve seen with friends who have gone after them anyway.
I’d rather be skint and happy on my own than sell my soul and trade in my self respect.

@sleepyhead1980

Some of my friends have went after wealthy men. They went after the ugly ones and had sex with them a lot. It wasn't difficult 🤷‍♀️

That's so sad and degrading

The stereotypes on this thread are bonkers! “Wealthy men” are no more one homogeneous category any more than “plumbers” or “tall men”. Some are lovely, some are atrocious. Some are philanderers, others are devoted family men. Etc....