How to bag a wealthy man?

[Simonstrousers]

Realise I’m going to get flamed for this, but how many of you if you really were completely honest, would prefer to be with a wealthy man, given the choice?
How do you attract them, what type of women do they go for?
I live abroad, 10 minutes away are multi millionaire pound villas, extensive gyms and restaurants etc. I’ve seen these men with a mix of women..some much younger and glamorous (fairly obvious) but many of the wives are fairly quiet and quite plain.
How go these women generally end up with these men?

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles

I think the best way to bag ANY man is to use one of those large tartan patterned bags (you know the sort - they're sometimes used for taking stuff to the laundrette) Put something softish at the bottom, a small blanket or a piece of form rubber, something to keep 'your man' busy e.g. a piece of knotted string, a ribik's cube, a copy of Practical Motorist, a very tightly closed jar etc. Add a few biscuits and a small bottle of beer. Remember to make a few small holes in the bag for him to breathe and two slightly larger holes so he can look out. Then just pop your man in it and close reasonably tightly. That's it really. Good Luck.

I was going to suggest a lasso and tranquilliser darts...

@Simonstrousers From my experience, they do often go for their own ‘type’. I was involved with a man for years in my 20s who—despite the fact I am a very decent earner with a good career—told me he could never be serious about me because my family was working class. He ended up married to a woman with a trust fund. Social hierarchies are still alive and well in Britain.

Incidentally, I earn double and a bit DH’s salary and while it would be a bit nicer if he earned more that’s only because he has occasional spells of low self esteem and sadness because of it. I don’t think we disclosed our earnings to each other until we were discussing moving in together.

I don't know any men that care how wealthy prospective partners are or what jobs they have

This is so true IMO, but people always deny it on here for some reason.

I think going to the right places is a large part, OP. Also whether you want a playboy type or a businessman type as both will be quite different.

I have a very wealthy friend who inherited family money but also runs two successful businesses. He's a good looking chap and a very funny individual, plus a decent guy. He's told me he hates online dating/social media and always preferred to speak to people when he's out. Friends of friends and acquaintances etc. That's how he met his current fiancee.

This thread's certainly giving me the patriarchy paradox feedback loop.

Maybe the patriarchy doesn't actually exist and it's all women's choices after all. 🤔

But if it does exist, how can women like the OP just 'make their own money' like the rich bloke does? 🤔

I had a boyfriend when I was 16 who became extremely wealthy by setting up his own tech company, it mushroomed really quickly. He was also horribly abusive. I don't regret splitting up. After we split, he became extremely successful and probably a little bit famous in some circles. His fall from grace was also epic. He still occasionally tries to get in touch on social media, 20 years later

I met my now DH a couple of years later who has never been a big earner, but is kind, gentle and as corny as it sounds, is my best friend. I would never choose wealth over what we have. If we ever became very wealthy, (not going to happen haha) I would hope he doesn't change.

Money does make things easier, I get it, but other things are more important.

@Cocomarine

I had a wealthy husband - far from mega rich millionaire, but high earner with huge potential inheritance. I left him as he had a prostitute habit. His second wife is quiet and plain, fully aware of his habit -but chooses the money over her own self respect. So maybe that’s part of it, sometimes 🤷🏻‍♀️

Eye opener for you OP!

I met my DH when he'd just finished his medical degree and was working as an FY1. So he was earning a fairly low income given the amount of hours he worked, plus paying off huge student debt and having to fork out thousands for professional memberhsips, insurance and mandatory exams. So his take home was significantly less than mine was. We shared a room in a tiny 3 bed flat which we rented with a couple of friends. We didn't have much but we were very happy and in love.

Fast forward 10 years and it's a very different story. He's not a multimillionaire but he certainly earns well above average despite only having to work part time. We left the UK so he no longer has to suffer the NHS and is actually very well paid for what he does. It's enough for us and our children to live a very comfortable life.

So I suppose you could go trawling for junior doctors? And put up with then being very poor and working almost constantly for the next 10 years until they become consultants?Although they may lose interest if they realise you are only interested in their future earning potential.

Aren't there Websites dedicated to this very cause ? So there must be a market for women looking for 'wealthy' men and men looking for women of a particular calibre ... if 'calibre' is even the right word.. not sure how these sites works of course but it can't be any more complicated than Facebook right 🤔

each to their own I suppose 🌺

Aren't there Websites dedicated to this very cause ? So there must be a market for women looking for 'wealthy' men and men looking for women of a particular calibre ... if 'calibre' is even the right word.. not sure how these sites works of course but it can't be any more complicated than Facebook right 🤔

The website you're looking for is the infamous 'Seeking Arrangement'.

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1. Do lots of research by reading Mills and Boon books circa 1960.
2. Pay attention to personal grooming.
3. put yourself in a work position where you will meet plenty of candidates e.g.art gallery, interior design, asset management.
4. Be aloof and discriminating(it helps if you have a mysterious past (not prostitution unless you are taking the pretty woman route).
5. Do the 'rules' thing, e.g. wait a few days before returning phone calls texts etc. do not always be available. In fact that book should be your bible but hide it as your potential husband can never find it.
6. do the millionaire matchmaker thing and don't have sex until you are exclusive. Also no more than two drinks on a date so you stay ladylike and in control.
7. Do a background check to make sure your target is suitable (I.e.rich enough without too many drains on his income).
8. make sure he is generous with his money - no point marrying a millionaire with tight purse strings.
9. Be lovely to his friends and family. Before marriage at least. After marriage you can revert to your true personality with them if not with him. 10). I have it on good authority from at least 3 sources that the best way to keep your bagged millionaire is with a well timed finger up the nether regions while being intimate.
10. on the last point make sure he doesn't have any sexual kinks you don't want to accommodate before you marry him. Nothing worse than having to smile while changing your husband's adult fun nappy or applying a cheese grater to his privates if it isn't your thing. HTH

@Simonstrousers

*Often wonder about, wouldn’t say I always wonder about it... I am intrigued (or just very nosey!) to know what their lives are like, not sure why really 🤷🏻‍♀️

Watch the 'Real Housewives' series - start with New York and Beverley Hills. Then decide whether it's the kind of life you really want.

My husband and I do not have any financials worries now ... Whilst we are not mega wealthy we certainly dont want for much and our firends consider us to be well-off.

Rewind 13 years ago when we met .... He was going through a divorce, exwife accumulating legal bills in an effort to get as much as she could from him without actually taking the time to realise that his business was bankrupt and creditors were taking assets, he lost his house everything. Anyway, we stuck it out because we loved each other, worked our butts off and rebuilt everything from scratch to where we are today.

The point of it is... Those woman often predate the wealth and have stuck around through some pretty shitty times to enjoy the life they do now.

My husband and I were polar opposites
he was vanilla and wealthy, I worked in banking as did he but he was attracted to my SOH and the way I carried myself around the office and he particularly admired the way that I 'handled' and humbled the C-suite exec in the boardroom and on the floor. Feminine but firm...Married now 18yrs our collective wealth is now beyond our dreams. I now run my own small consultancy firm and I employee 30 people and he runs a hedge fund. My advice is to be the best version of yourself and be specific about what you want and make sure you bring your A game to the table...your A game does not have to be money....but it helps!...its the law of attraction...your life is the way it is because you attracted it!....Good Luck with your quest!🙂

@Legallyblondeish

My husband and I were polar opposites he was vanilla and wealthy, I worked in banking as did he but he was attracted to my SOH and the way I carried myself around the office and he particularly admired the way that I 'handled' and humbled the C-suite exec in the boardroom and on the floor. Feminine but firm...Married now 18yrs our collective wealth is now beyond our dreams. I now run my own small consultancy firm and I employee 30 people and he runs a hedge fund. My advice is to be the best version of yourself and be specific about what you want and make sure you bring your A game to the table...your A game does not have to be money....but it helps!...its the law of attraction...your life is the way it is because you attracted it!....Good Luck with your quest!🙂

I think I've seen that film.

How does anyone meet anyone?

Online dating; shared interests; mutual friends; meet before the man is rich and work as a team to improve the family finances; have lots of plastic surgery and market yourself as a trophy wife freshly graduated from the Stepford Academy.

Why would anyone choose a partner based on their bank balance, isn’t that a bit prostituty?

There are special websites for people who want a sugar daddy.

My first partner earned essentially nothing when we started dating, within 18 months he was earning an incredible amount of money.

My second partner was a teacher, so earned just below the average salary.

My current partner was a trainee when we met, so not earning a large amount at all.

I in theory could marry someone for money, but I’m unlikely to be happy and fulfilled in that sort of relationship, it would also set a terrible terrible example to my son.

@Legallyblondeish

My husband and I were polar opposites he was vanilla and wealthy, I worked in banking as did he but he was attracted to my SOH and the way I carried myself around the office and he particularly admired the way that I 'handled' and humbled the C-suite exec in the boardroom and on the floor. Feminine but firm...Married now 18yrs our collective wealth is now beyond our dreams. I now run my own small consultancy firm and I employee 30 people and he runs a hedge fund. My advice is to be the best version of yourself and be specific about what you want and make sure you bring your A game to the table...your A game does not have to be money....but it helps!...its the law of attraction...your life is the way it is because you attracted it!....Good Luck with your quest!🙂

That's what I love about MN. I actually cannot tell if you are being serious. And if you are, god help us all.

A game? HAHAHAHAHA

Met before the wealth. Hopefully will stay together if the wealth diminishes.

But I did choose someone financially competent (as a student, who did fun things but didn’t piss his loan away), ambitious and hard working. If he hadn’t lucked out in his career we would still be okay.

This thread is gross.

My husband is not wealthy and likely never will be. But he is kind, handsome, thoughtful, loyal, funny, hardworking, a good lover and a wonderful dad. He contributes half of the domestic labour and child rearing duties. He cares for me during periods when my depression makes me hard to live with and understand.

That’s worth a million millionaires to me.

My sister is married to a wealthy man and I think she'd swap situations for mine, where he does more than his fair share of the parenting (and better quality than mine). She came to stay once and couldn't believe that DH made all the kids lunch unprompted

Regarding your question though, I lived in London for over a decade and mixed in some richer circles at times... the old money crowd wouldn't marry outside of an SW3 postcode one of my university friends' families was in this set.
I got chatted up by a famous England footballer once but turned him down, he was a lovely bloke but there was a queue of women waiting to speak to him and I couldn't have dealt with that, I choose to live more of a worry-free life!

Pre-COVID you had what were called Essex Husband Hunters who would pile into the city and Canary Wharf in the evenings after work to try to pull an investment banker. They were done up to the nines, it was wonderful to watch

FYI...whilst I summarised and extolled the virtues of our good life...My husband suffers from manic depression and has high functioning Asperger's....so no it has not all been a bed of roses. I have, and still am taking the rough with the smooth and it is by no means an easy feat despite the wealth and access to the best medical and domestic help that money can buy...Its been a labour of love and one that I have wanted to walk away from several times. But I adore my DH and I want our children to be raised in a home with both parents, despite the intermittent dysfunction....there is never a dull moment tbh!....but I have great friends, family and social life (sans lockdown) that keeps me going plus the odd G & T🙂

I know a few women and men who have very wealthy husbands or wives, some in the millionaire category. In every case the couples got together before there was any real wealth on either side and all seem fairly successful marriages. Not sure what that tells you, maybe they got together for other reasons???