How to bag a wealthy man?

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Realise I’m going to get flamed for this, but how many of you if you really were completely honest, would prefer to be with a wealthy man, given the choice?
How do you attract them, what type of women do they go for?
I live abroad, 10 minutes away are multi millionaire pound villas, extensive gyms and restaurants etc. I’ve seen these men with a mix of women..some much younger and glamorous (fairly obvious) but many of the wives are fairly quiet and quite plain.
How go these women generally end up with these men?

@Chuckleknuckles that's kind of what I was trying to say but you put it better.

Just become really successful yourself and you'll mix in the right circles.

Also even if these very successful men ultimately want their wife to stay at home they also want

• good genes to breed clever, good looking children
• a well educated woman to make sure the children are successful
• an intelligent woman to bring to work events etc

So for the first wife anyway, they will go for someone attractive, intelligent and well educated who moves in similar social circles and can be a good mother to their children.

Tbh it all sounds ghastly. Just work to make your own money and marry some one hardworking who you love for their own sake not the amount of money they have.

Another couple of things.

I work in the city and know a lot of men who earn good salaries etc 6 figs not mega footballer money but a lot.

The number of men I know who have

Met a woman at work or uni when younger
Got married
Been happy etc but not wanted kids just yet, not ready, etc etc
Then when they hit about 32
He goes off with a woman 10 years younger and immediately has a load of children
And if course the ex is stuffed having hung on waiting etc and then dumped when realistically it's going to be tricky meeting someone and etc in time for babies

So many men do this. Why? Fucking arseholes. I wouldn't want to be with a man like that.

Prostitution?

This thread is obviously going to bring out the rich people bashers. And the only people hated more on MN than rich people are those who admit they want to be one through marriage.

The best advice is to meet men while in university or graduate jobs where nobody is earning much. These are the formative years where money doesn't play a big role so friendships and relationships are pleasantly devoid of the "gold digger" dynamic. Medical students, junior business consultants and law trainees are ones who will almost definitely end up as high-earners within 10 years. Be wary of general jobs in "finance" of "business" (too broad), self-proclaimed entrepreneurs (basically MLMs for men) or men who seem obsessed with appearing rich (usually broke af themselves but want the ego boost). Software engineering, IT or international relations are also areas with well-paid jobs, although these generally provide an upper middle class lifestyle and not crazy money.

It's actually incredibly difficult to be self-made wealthy in the current economy. A really successful career for anyone might be 1-3 million in assets (including property) over a lifetime. This is far from the stereotypical Instagram luxury lifestyle that people picture with private jets, crazy cars and endless designer things. To get that kind of lifestyle, you need someone with old money, inheritance or a job that earns millions net a year and chances of that are vanishingly small (CEO, tech genius, household name Youtuber etc).

Though as PP mentioned as soon as men get rich, they can immediately sense who are after them for their money, and some get a kick out of that. Those are probably the men you don't want to be with anyway. The couples we know who came together as "wealthy man, non-wealthy woman" were ones where the woman genuinely acted like she couldn't have cared less for a single penny of his money. Sometimes slightly ridiculously so, I know one who makes a point of cycling everywhere for the environment, is very leftist/anti capitalist/anti cars but never mentions the fact that she lives in a 1M penthouse entirely paid for by her husband.

Of course, I'm not implying those women were manipulative at all as I believe they genuinely didn't set out to marry for money. But at the same time I don't believe that with all things being equal, they would have chosen a poorer partner over the richer one.

@MerryDecembermas Yes, I totally know what you mean!

@ApplesinmyPocket Did you follow your mums advice? 🤔

I can’t judge any woman who enters a relationship for money and security first. Not everyone feels love in the same way or at all such as autism etc. So you only live once and if being financially secure is important to you then there is nothing wrong with bagging a man like that.

There are youtube channels dedicated to this concept.

I grew up with a mother who regularly said "It's just as easy to love a rich man as it is a poor man." Maybe she could have had the easy life she so obviously wanted, they looked like a perfect happy money-focused match for many years, but she just moved from getting a meal ticket husband to trying to make her children into her next one - maybe she thought we'd be easier to control. She and my father ended up with addictions, debts, and houses being foreclosed on (he wasn't well off enough to be paying for her and his own home when she tired of him). I never really felt they were happy together, just happy with the idea of how things should be. I'm glad I got out and married someone with a range of great qualities without really considering wealth.

Money makes many things easier, so yeah don't financial connect yourself with someone who is continuously terrible with money or has very different ideas around it as that will be a major source of stress, but not everything is automatically easier - not relationships or just figuring out how to connect with people as people and not tools. Really, the people who pursue easy across their whole lives are probably not going to be satisfied - it seems to be just a way to not accept that life has suffering or personal responsibilities. My mother - and many women like her that I knew growing up - still talk about those who won't provide for them, whether their now-exes or children or other family members, as traitors/back-stabbers/similar.

I met DH when we were both starting out in average paying jobs. He is now a high earner, I work part time to allow for childcare while he works silly hours. It works for us.

You have not been on MN before if you ask that question here 😂😂😂

Oops and the other one was

When we went out after work I was always confused why in the fancier places (which I don't like, I like a traditional pub) the women were all so young and tall and glamorous and, to be honest. Really unfriendly.

I'm a bit dim with this stuff. And I said to someone. It's so weird. In work all the women don't look like this or get so done up. Where do they work? And whoever I was talking to was like FFS they're here to try and pull a rich bloke.

And I was like. Oooohhhhhh!

God I'm so naive sometimes!

Anyway. I mean after that totally obvious revelation it was clear who was there for what.

I never liked those places anyway tbh. Expensive, posey etc. And tbh loads of men even with dosh are a bit scared of super glam model types

I preferred the other sorts of places and luckily so have the people I've worked with.

And also I mean the city is full of people who are from Essex and yes stereotyping but I know a fair few girls and women from work who are my mates and they are v glam but it's a different kind of glam.

Anyway in all my work life it's been more work mates with different ages looks etc who are like minded cheerful drinkers. Which I prefer tbh.

Oh! I did meet a multi millionaire type a little while ago! Friend of a friend. He was single too. Bit dull though.

Make your own money if at all possible. Choose men you like and get on with and fancy and who fancy you. Some may be rich, some may not.

The whole loads of young women done up to share a city bloke was a bit desperate though. The men who would go for it, if not young free and single. Again, are areseholes

Most successful relationships are from common background/ interests/ work/ etc. Not all obviously.

Sorry rambling!

OP I don't think it's all its cracked up to be tbh.

Christ, this sets women back 100 years. Men don't own women anymore and wanting to be a trophy wife is not a life goal, it's tragic really.

User38385463 It's actually incredibly difficult to be self-made wealthy in the current economy. A really successful career for anyone might be 1-3 million in assets (including property) over a lifetime. This is far from the stereotypical Instagram luxury lifestyle that people picture with private jets, crazy cars and endless designer things. To get that kind of lifestyle, you need someone with old money, inheritance or a job that earns millions net a year and chances of that are vanishingly small (CEO, tech genius, household name Youtuber etc).

That really is one of the most damningly accurate and realistic summaries of the current British economy that I've read.

[quote Simonstrousers]@sparticuscaticus Why 🤷🏻‍♀️ I reckon most people would want that, life is very hard, if you’ve ever struggled financially, things change, your mindset changes. Most of these women are set up for life, it’s an easier life is it not?![/quote]
I’d rather be poor and happy with DH than miserable and wealthy with some bloke I didn’t love.

I know some very wealthy people who are stressed, money obsessed, miserable and don’t even really get to enjoy their wealth. It’s not all it’s cracked up to be.

Hmm. Of course, the be your own rich woman approach has the control and the security and a measure of self respect. But disingenuous to suggest it's better.

I'm the breadwinner, only rely on myself financially, earn a good salary and could aim higher. But I'm the one sleeping in the spare room so I can get enough sleep for work. Pre-covid, I was the one who often didn't see the DC mon-thurs because of long hours. I'm the one with no idea what's in the fridge and no control over what we're going to eat because DH is doing the shopping and cooking. I miss the sports days and the assemblies. I'm too knackered for a hobby and non-work friends.

I wish DH was the earner. I wish I was in the main room cuddling sleeping DD and not procrastinating about a deadline I'm too tired to focus on. I wish I'd married someone with an earning potential which allowed me to escape the choice between a financially very constrained lifestyle and working flat out. Making your own money while having a family is not all it's cracked up to be.

OneMoreForExtra :(

Eugh

Set up a profile on adult work?

@Bookworming

Did your mum never encourage you to be rich in your own right *@ApplesinmyPocket*. She failed you, it's almost like she thought women can't be intelligent or rich via education and hard work. Did you have any other issues with her, she does sound. I'll.

Well, Bookworming, since you ask me specifically my post was meant to be reasonably 'lighthearted' as they say on MN, but I will say my mother was a hard-working, intelligent woman who had not had the opportunities when younger (extreme poverty, large family, expected to contribute when a teenager - we are talking about the 40s/50s here) had a lot of unexpected and not-good things happening to her, who had realised it would have been easier for her had she married a man with money, who would have left her at least some security when he died aged 42 and she had a couple of kids to raise, rather than her having to work three jobs at once.

She encouraged me to do anything I wanted to.

My Mum didn't "fail" me at all - how bizarre. I guess that'll teach me not to bother to post on MN, sigh.

Sil's sister advertised in the Financial Times for a wealthy man

She got one ..At age 40.

He earns £1,000,000 per annum, but is such a tightarse he makes her buy Tesco own brand bleach in bulk.

If they got divorced, she'd be laughing.

They have a huge house with lots of land, but she isn't allowed a horse as too expensive.

Here's what you need to know: The fact you think all "rich people" have a "type" is exactly the sort of misconception that is stopping you getting anywhere with them.
Everyone is an individual. Everyone has their own thoughts, feelings, aspirations and dislikes. There's no one-size-fits-all way to find the right person. People don't get a boatload of cash then get a personality lobotomy that makes them all the same as each other. It's good that you know financial security is on your list of essential criteria for dating. It will help you filter. But do bear in mind, what goes up must come down. It's just as easy for someone with money to go bankrupt as anyone else.

I dare say that there are some women who are set on trying to find a wealthy man, but this type of woman is just showing what type of person she is,as in, she thinks that wealth is the most important thing in life for her. I think that some very wealthy men, would be quite switched on about women who they see as possible gold diggers, and run a mile so to speak.

I think the best way to bag ANY man is to use one of those large tartan patterned bags (you know the sort - they're sometimes used for taking stuff to the laundrette)
Put something softish at the bottom, a small blanket or a piece of form rubber, something to keep 'your man' busy e.g. a piece of knotted string, a ribik's cube, a copy of Practical Motorist, a very tightly closed jar etc.
Add a few biscuits and a small bottle of beer.
Remember to make a few small holes in the bag for him to breathe and two slightly larger holes so he can look out.
Then just pop your man in it and close reasonably tightly.
That's it really. Good Luck.

I am far too rich and smug to RTFT but surely the obvious answer is choose your parents and grandparents very carefully.

Expected this thread to be full of venom and it didn't disappoint.

This is one of those things where most of us doth protest too much but would honestly rather be with a wealthy man all else being equal. It's basically the female equivalent of 'he should love you unconditionally no matter what size you become', where everybody agrees that weight/wealth doesn't matter but then betray that sentiment with their actions.

You can bet your bottom dollar that a lot of women wouldn't be happy if their hubby quit his office job and decided he was happy working at KFC!