Give me a boot up the arse over this!
DH & I have always had differing ideas of what a clean family house looks like - my ‘lived in family home’ is basically his ‘squalid slum’... I promise you that our house is perfectly normal & nobody would think we lived in a dirty or chaotic home, but it isn’t a show home. I don’t relish cleaning & would happily never do it, & we have a big old house that takes quite a bit of cleaning...
So DH has had a pay increase & suggests getting a cleaner to come once a week (lockdown permitting) & for some reason I feel offended?! I earn about 10% of his salary, & carry the majority of the domestic burden of 3 kids, admin etc, & I think I feel guilty at not ‘pulling my weight’ by doing the cleaning as well. But I don’t do the cleaning as much as some people (like DH!) would do, & I don’t want to... so I need to get over this feeling!