DD is 8. She has a little friend 'E' who is quite an emotional child (e.g. at dd's last birthday party a large part of the party was spent consoling E who was in floods of tears because she wasn't as good at the activity as the others). It's fine, they're little.
I was sitting with a group of mums recently when someone asked E's mum how E was dealing with the change of classroom, as apparently E had been crying a lot at school about it. E's mum said that she was not crying about that, but because someone had told her she was a bad friend. Everyone clucked and cooed and sympathised, and E's mum said that E was absolutely devastated to have been told such a horrible thing. She really stressed how awful it was for E.
Hmm... there was something about the way she said it... so later that evening I asked DD about it. "Oh yeah," says dd, "that was me. We had an argument because (another child) was being horrible to me and he said my picture was ugly, and E was laughing at me along with everyone else. I was really upset and angry and I told her she was a bad friend. But it was ages ago and we're fine now".
I'm just... really irritated about E's bleddy mum sitting there knowing FULL WELL that it was my daughter who had called E a bad friend, and coyly garnering sympathy. She basically told the whole group, in front of me, that my dd had done a shitty thing, without mentioning my dd's name. That's a bit crap, isn't it? Or am I just being defensive because it's my dd?
I'm not remotely interested in getting involved with long gone 8yo squabbles. I'm sure my dd gets it wrong sometimes, they all do.
I kind of want to say something to E's mum when I next see her though. Just let her know I realise she was talking about dd? And I kind of want to tell her I think it's weird she said all that in front of me without naming dd? Like, if you have something to say, say it!
Tell me to let it all go and rise above.