DD black bra, white blouse?

rabbitheadlights · 2021-01-10T21:26:41+00:00

I know when we were younger it was seen as inappropriate/ a bit tarty. Does it really matter these days? Would you advise your DD's against it?

PurpleDandelions · 10/01/2021 21:28

I think giving teens fashion advice of any sort is doomed to fail

And I'd not want my dc to think is normal to make moral judgments based on clothing.

Almostslimjim · 10/01/2021 21:29

Depends. School shirt? I'd probably mention it. 'fashion' blouse and I'd say it's deliberately done.

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 10/01/2021 21:31

Maybe not for school, but since it's probably not that, let her wear that if she wants.
More of a thing for underwear to be visible than a few years ago?

There was a time when black bras were quite racy - and you wouldn't want to hear my mothers opinion on brightly coloured and/or patterned bras - or the women that wear them.

WeeDangerousSpike · 10/01/2021 21:34

It was a thing when I was at secondary in the late 90s. All the popular girls wore dark bras under fitted white blouses.
I wouldn't be surprised if it's still a thing with all the celebs that wear sheer outfits.

EBathory · 10/01/2021 21:35

Such bullshit that we should all challenge.
Women wear bras, known fact.
Some clothing that covers a human torso is not opaque, known fact.
Why should the above facts become an issue due to the human wearing these cloth's are female?

Northernsoullover · 10/01/2021 21:36

I remember wearing a fine net top with my bra on show in the 90's . Sorry for the digression OP

B33Fr33 · 10/01/2021 21:37

I would ask in a neutral tone, which takes practice this isn't a you're wearing that? type moment, do you know that bra shows through? That way you can impart that, to you, it's a fashion no. But practice bei g nonchalant if they say that's what they were aiming g for.

For my teens this is a huge no but I've noticed one of their cousins does this.

KitchKlassic · 10/01/2021 21:37

Yeah it's tacky but utterly pointless telling a teen that if that's what they're all doing now. Like the whole leggings as trousers thing. I'm still agog that people go around like that and not even old!

B33Fr33 · 10/01/2021 21:38

Oh yes I had a lovely bra that went under a cobwebby mesh top. And under my velvet jacket. I wouldn't do it now though bbbrrrr

Seeline · 10/01/2021 21:40

Go for it. I wish we could have shown our bras when I was young! Having always had quite large boobs, I could never go without a bra. Which meant I couldn't wear any of the pretty strappy tops and dresses my friends wore because girls who showed their bra straps were definitely not nice

Harveypuss · 10/01/2021 21:41

Yeah, my young adult daughter wears black bras under white blouses. I think it looks awful. I tried to tactfully point out it wasn't a great look and that advice went down like a lead balloon! I've given up now. I have accepted I'm just old fashioned!

Sexnotgender · 10/01/2021 21:43

It’s absolutely fine.

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rabbitheadlights · 10/01/2021 21:44

Such bullshit that we should all challenge.
Women wear bras, known fact.
Some clothing that covers a human torso is not opaque, known fact.
Why should the above facts become an issue due to the human wearing these cloth's are female?

I very much think like this, but wondered what the general consensus was, I didn't give a toss what people thought of me in the 90s and nor do I now, but DD is a sensitive soul and if it's still a bit risqué then she would need a heads up as she would be terribly upset if someone pulled her up on it.

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rabbitheadlights · 10/01/2021 21:45

Quote fail @EBathory sorry

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AIMD · 10/01/2021 21:45

I’d leave her too it.
I’d maybe point out her bra was visible if I though it was unintentional and she wasn’t aware it was showing. It’s it’s a fashion statement though I’d leave her too it. I don’t think much good can come from trying to manage what a teenager wears.

SnackSizeRaisin · 10/01/2021 21:49

It was a thing when I was at secondary in the late 90s. All the popular girls wore dark bras under fitted white blouses.

Same here..they used to get made to change if the deputy head noticed.

I think it's quite a sexual thing and likely to attract attention so it depends on the age of the daughter - if she's 16, confident, can deal with possible comments etc, then ok. If she's 13, not aware of the connotations, I would probably dissuade her.
Also depends on context - fine for a night out on the town, bit odd for hanging out in a park in January...

SusannaSpider · 10/01/2021 21:49

It's not acceptable at DD's school, which makes me seethe. It's a bra, get over it, I judge any teacher who is taking too much interest in the colour of a young woman's underwear.
But outside of school I'd also not mention it, why does it matter? I wear contrasting colour bras under sports vests with my bra straps showing. I'm far from being a teenager. I also can't stand the word 'tarty'.

Butterymuffin · 10/01/2021 21:53

Given that Madonna was doing this to push the boundaries THIRTY FIVE YEARS AGO, you'd think the world would have got over it by now.

That said, if you think your DD would react badly to comments about it, I would mention it so you can be her safety net, as it were.

BertieBotts · 10/01/2021 21:55

Let her know it's visible, she might not realise especially if she's a younger teen.

BTW white bras are just as visible, it needs to be red, yellow or tan to make it disappear, these are closer to (white) skin tones. I assume she is not dark skinned or the black bra wouldn't be obvious.

I don't think it's inappropriate, but if she's likely to feel self conscious about people seeing her bra, then she might appreciate some advice about which colours disappear. Or this time of year, she could also wear an undershirt if she wanted to be discreet.

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rabbitheadlights · 10/01/2021 21:56

@Butterymuffin thats exactly why I'm asking.

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EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 10/01/2021 21:59

Anyone else think it was a thread specifically about bra colours and larger cup sizes from the "DD" in the title?

ShirleyPhallus · 10/01/2021 22:01

I watched Bridget Jones over Christmas and she goes in to work in a black bra and sheer top. That was the late 90s I guess innit

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rabbitheadlights · 10/01/2021 22:02

Sorry @EveryDayIsADuvetDay it didn't even occur to me, I'm not particularly blessed in that department.

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Lemonpiano · 10/01/2021 22:03

@BertieBotts

Let her know it's visible, she might not realise especially if she's a younger teen.

BTW white bras are just as visible, it needs to be red, yellow or tan to make it disappear, these are closer to (white) skin tones. I assume she is not dark skinned or the black bra wouldn't be obvious.

I don't think it's inappropriate, but if she's likely to feel self conscious about people seeing her bra, then she might appreciate some advice about which colours disappear. Or this time of year, she could also wear an undershirt if she wanted to be discreet.

I was thinking along the same lines.

If it's something that will make her self conscious she might really appreciate some guidance on colours - especially the point about a white bra underneath a white top being just as visible/highlighted because it's doubling up the layer of white (same as black under black also highlights your underwear rather than hiding it unless the top layer is completely opaque).

mumwon · 10/01/2021 22:06

raised eyebrow - "so past it dear they use to wear that in the (insert decade) - I always think black bras make white shirts look - dingy"
or
"is this deliberate? or fashion statement? bit old hat (appropriate current term instead) Do you need some new bras?"
or
"that's nice dear" (daughter looks horror struck at dm approval rushes off to change)