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rabbitheadlights · 2021-01-10T21:26:41+00:00

I know when we were younger it was seen as inappropriate/ a bit tarty. Does it really matter these days? Would you advise your DD's against it?

HoboSexualOnslow · 10/01/2021 23:00

I personally like it as a look, I was doing it as a teenager 20 years ago. It's a bra not a strap on

Branleuse · 10/01/2021 23:04

I think id tell her that its seen as good style sense to coordinate your underwear to the outfit so it shows through as little as possible, but id also make sure she knew that it wasnt a judgement if thats the look shes going for, buy its just one of those things, like not wearing brown shoes with black trousers.

badg3r · 10/01/2021 23:05

I would mention it in a neutral way, could you offer to order her some bras in skin tones too? I have no idea if it is fashionable these days, although plenty of us did it at school in 2000!

RosesAndHellebores · 10/01/2021 23:19

I agree with Branleuse. My dd is 22 now and I don’t think she has ever worn a black bra under a white top or blouse. It’s a sort of mother/daughter thing isn’t it, teaching them what goes with what and how to co-ordinate. When we bought her first bras we certainly discussed colours and what to wear them with. If she was wearing black under white as a fashion statement I think that’s ok but what’s not ok is not doing it on purpose.

Branleuse · 10/01/2021 23:33

@InTheNightWeWillWish
Youre not really supposed to wear white bras under black tops either, but its not quite as bad as black under white.

CherryRoulade · 10/01/2021 23:35

Like most things, a time and a place.

Beansbitch · 10/01/2021 23:39

Used to love this look, Carrie Bradshaw started it.

TooManyKidsSendHelp · 10/01/2021 23:48

@InTheNightWeWillWish yes, I was thinking the same thing - there are a lot of colour bras that could be noticeable under a white shirt, including white!

My mum always taught me to wear a skin coloured bra under white IF I didn't want it to be noticeable. Perhaps that's the key here - rather than tell your daughter that she should or shouldn't wear it, or what people might think of it, maybe just explain that if she wears something skin coloured it won't be visible, but most others colours will be. Then let her make her own decision from there.

apalledandshocked · 10/01/2021 23:52

I would make sure she knew that it was visible - its the sort of thing that could mortify some girls. But I would assume that she does know and thats the point. I can remember my mum saying in a very neutral voice "gosh that skirts very short, I didnt think it was fashionable anymore. Arent you worried bare legs will look odd in winter?" I can appreciate what she was trying to do. But it didnt work.

LizDiz · 10/01/2021 23:55

Dd went through a phase of wearing a black bra under her white school shirt.i told her could see her bra, she said she knew so I left her to it. The school will tell her off if they're bothered and I figured the less attention I paid the better. She soon went back to white bras under her shirt.

Cattenberg · 10/01/2021 23:55

I wouldn’t wear a white bra under a white top, let alone a black bra. I think white tops need a skin-coloured bra. It doesn’t have to be a close match with your skin tone.

NoProblem123 · 11/01/2021 00:12

Black bra/white shirt - very Uma Therman.
Let her crack on.

I draw the line at twisted, bubblegum grey, skanky bra straps on show though.

BackforGood · 11/01/2021 00:24

My mum always taught me to wear a skin coloured bra under white IF I didn't want it to be noticeable. Perhaps that's the key here - rather than tell your daughter that she should or shouldn't wear it, or what people might think of it, maybe just explain that if she wears something skin coloured it won't be visible, but most others colours will be. Then let her make her own decision from there.

This ^
I mean, I'm middle aged. I'm not supposed to like "fashion" that my dcs' generation like. Every generation wears style that previous generations feel aren't a great look. Indeed, looking back at their parents clothes from when parents were young, I suspect every generation thinks the previous generations styles were shockingly bad too

achainisonlyasstrong · 11/01/2021 00:40

Not relevant to the OP, but if you have dark skin, it is prob best to wear black bras under a white shirt for them now to show. If you have dark skin and wear white bras they will show up more under a white shirt than a black bra.

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rabbitheadlights · 11/01/2021 07:46

So the consensus is, so long as she's aware it can be seen then leave her to it. I would never tell her what to wear as such anyway as I don't think for one minute she would accept fashion advice from me. DD Is nearly 15, thinks she knows everything but is actually very naive.

I asked the question so I could gauge wether it were necessary to even mention the connotations linked with it were still present and wether or not I should prepare her for that as she would be very upset if someone were to say anything.

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Belinda554 · 11/01/2021 07:58

I mentioned to my teen that her navy leggings and back top were considered a fashion crime.
I got told I’m old and out of fashion. I didn’t even listen to the lecture I got🙄

peak2021 · 11/01/2021 08:27

I just think it looks awful, would never consider it tarty. As for work clothing, it should be such that underwear is not visible, as it is not clothing worn out of choice.

cosmikdebris · 11/01/2021 08:50

if its for school, chances are the school would say something (as odd and creepy as that is, my school would make girls wearing visible bras wear their jumper all day and go home and change it). but its absolutely fine outside of school. let her wear whateever clothes she wants. it builds confidence and personality :)

Hoppinggreen · 11/01/2021 08:52

Over the summer I mentioned to my DD that her bra straps were showing, just in a did you realise kind of way
Apparently that’s “not a thing now”
I used to (and still do) struggle with strapless bras, clear straps, clips for the straps etc etc but now apparently you can just show them off

CremeEggThief · 11/01/2021 08:55

I've worked in offices with women my age or slightly older (mid-40s) who do this all the time, so I think it must be an outdated fashion "rule'.

Changi · 11/01/2021 09:55

I used to (and still do) struggle with strapless bras, clear straps, clips for the straps etc etc but now apparently you can just show them off

I don't like the look either. I can't that I pay much attention to those that do though, unless the straps are particularly grubby.

If my bra shows, I wear something else or (shock horror) ditch the bra altogether.

callmeadoctor · 11/01/2021 10:12

All the girls do that at High school now. Nobody bats an eyelid xx

SapphireSeptember · 11/01/2021 10:18

I'm still confused as to why bras showing through clothes or bra straps being seen is an issue? It's 2021 for goodness sake. I sometimes wear corsets, and you can definitely see those under my clothes (or over, depending on the look I'm going for.)

unmarkedbythat · 11/01/2021 10:24

Don't care. Never have cared. If you feel alright wearing it, wear it. There's a weird obsession with keeping girls and women's underwear hidden as if it is offensive. If the wearer is old enough to make her own choices re clothing and is aware her bra is visible and doesn't mind, no issue at all.

An0n0n0n · 11/01/2021 10:25

Say nothing. The crap I used to wear and noone told me! I felt confident, what's the harm if she's confident.

Bring it up indirectly if you have to. Wear the same and ask if you can get away with it because hou normally wear nude bras under white. See what she says and if necessary proper by saying you need to order more nudes so you dont run out, does she want some on your order too? Maybe she's embarrassed to ask for new bras