DD black bra, white blouse?

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I know when we were younger it was seen as inappropriate/ a bit tarty.

Does it really matter these days? Would you advise your DD's against it?

its not about it being offensive, its about teaching your kids about looking smart. Its better to know the general rules and then you can decide to break them/play with them.

Not that its a huge deal in the grand scheme of things, but teaching your kid stuff is not the same as shaming them

Out of school no issues as long as she is aware and she feels comfortable.

In school there should be a uniform or guidelines around what is suitable attire.

For teenagers school is there place of business.

I work in an office and I would never wear highly visible underwear to work- it is not the place for fashion statements. Maybe it’s old fashioned but I’d rather my colleagues (make and female) focused on my work contribution and not what my bra looked like.

Changi ditching the bra not an option with my 36Ds unfortunately

Not really sure why showing your underwear is liberating. But yeah, not appropriate for school or work.

“Hey DD you know you can see your bra through that top? Just in case you didn’t notice” then turn around and crack on with something else.
She will either look horrified and rush to change or she will shrug.
I once took my teenage goddaughter out for the day in a mesh top and shocking pink bra. It was very clear through the top and the teeny skirt she added didn’t hide much. I literally went “you sure you’re not going to be cold? My car doesn’t have heated seats like your dads remember?” And she shrugged so we carried on with our day.
Teens like to be “shocking” so it doesn’t surprise me that they are all still choosing to make “shocking” fashion choices

Was a thing when I was at school (00's).

I don't see it as a big deal though really. It's not like they are actually flashing or showing anything. It's low-level rule flouting at worst and the ridiculously short skirts are what I would be more worried about. Just leave them to it and let them feel rebellious :)

How is this arising at the moment anyway? Where is she going that it's warm enough not to wear a jumper??

black bras under white shirts is still a thing. I have never understood it personally. Hell, even n Madame Secretary, she regularly did the black bra under a white blouse!

I never had this issue as I've a darker skin tone but I know the 'popular' girls used to do it, while my friend would wear a white tank top under her shirt because she didn't want people to think she was a 'tart'.

Surely the real problem is that school shirts are made cheaply if they are thin enough to see your bra through?

I think it depends. I don't think it was ever a very good look, it tends t make people's body shape seem a bit odd. But in any instance, it's more an evening/going out sort of thing, rather than something you'd wear to an office job. I consider school to be more like the latter - more casual, but similar levels of coverage generally apply. Or if she is going to a PT job or something.

OTOH, if it's a fashion error, where she just hasn't bothered or realised, yes, a lot of girls will say it doesn't matter any more, but it does tend to look not very put together.

And if sh's a younger teen it is maybe a too adult look - it's meant to be a little sexy and I don't think younger teens are really at an age where that kind of attention is somethig they should have to deal with. Some older teens might prefer not to, as well.

It totally depends on your daughter's personality and where she is wearing it.

If your daughter is comfortable and confident and could handle any potential comments then no problem.

We do need to remember though if someone is making inappropriate comments to her that is on them and they are in the wrong. Your daughter should be able to wear whatever she wants and be free of harassment.