Group on FB

[UnshakenNeedsStirring]

So I joined a group of women on FB. To support each other during lockdown and generally have a chat and a nice time online. Ater a week or so the admin changed a photo of the group to one with 5 women holding hands, the pic was taken from back, so no faces. IT was a painting or so from 50's I think or could've been done in retro style. I pointed out that the picture was not inclusive as it was only showing white women and didn't have other women of colour or ethnic minorities. I got a lot of abuse back. Was I wrong? I am a bit shocked and disheartened that in 2021 I had to raise this and no one really was bothered and nearly all the women asked me to shut up and not talk about it

@Burnthurst187

Well that won’t help people in the long term.

@AwaAnBileYerHeid but it wasnt a photo of black women. How do you know how I would have reacted?!!

Not fb but I’m part of a large WhatsApp group of mums from school. If this was suggested everyone would immediately say omg I’m so sorry I didn’t think about that, let’s change the picture to something else. . . Because they’re not twats!

I’m sure there would be some very discreet eye rolling from the odd member but to outright have a go at you for this - not nice people

@Burnthurst187 I did leave. However its always good to speak first and make your voice heard. I thought it was not the right photo so I said so. They ganged up against me, so I left

Also anyone who thinks the OP is ridiculous but also thinks the events in America last week were awful - have a long think. This knee jerk anger at someone suggesting inclusivity and diversity in this country is worrying

OP you’re not not not unreasonable

:blueangel19 again, I said that the photo was not a correct representation of the group. Thats all. If that is all that it takes to piss people off, then fine! I just think that its easy for people to just brush difficult topics under he rug and not talk about it.

@TheFuckingDogs thanks

What is the name of the group in FB?

@OverTheRainbow88 its easy to find a more inclusive photo. There were plenty of choices as well, posted by one other lady. However, the majority just jumped on me for saying that the photos will all 5 white women wasnt inclusive

Virtue signalling at it’s finest 🤗

@OhCaptain no idea what you are trying to read

I'm in a hobby type group on FB and the exact same issue was raised ( not by me ) but I think it's a fair point actually. Surely a group identifier pic should relate to the people who are in the group?

@sst1234 I am really interested in knowing how, I, in this case of merely pointing out that the photo wasnt inclusive, been self promoting?!! Mind boggling.

[quote UnshakenNeedsStirring]@AwaAnBileYerHeid but it wasnt a photo of black women. How do you know how I would have reacted?!![/quote]
Oh, I have a fair inkling...

Fucking hell OP, I think the responses to this post demonstrate quite neatly the point you are making. What a pile-on. Good for you for saying something, not that you should have had to, representation is not that difficult

you would have really got my hackles up by complaining about racism where there was none. I'd be avoiding you in the group from now on.

@FreshFreesias thanks not

@TheFuckingDogs

Also anyone who thinks the OP is ridiculous but also thinks the events in America last week were awful - have a long think. This knee jerk anger at someone suggesting inclusivity and diversity in this country is worrying

No one has a problem with someone suggesting inclusivity and diversity. What they do have a problem with is someone creating such a drama out of....what exactly? Does every photo from now on need a token person included, whether that be black, white, disabled etc?

@Oblomov20 your choice, bye

@AwaAnBileYerHeid take 2 to clap, I raised the topic. I was jumped upon by the other women. So, please. I didnt do anything other than let them why I thought the photo was not right. Sorry to expect a bit of decency in 2021 and have a photo that represents the group as a whole.

And OP, you never really answered my question....how would you react if it was a photo of 5 black women? Would you have been jumping up and down that there were no white folk? No one with overt religious wear ie headscarves?

@MargotMoon thanks, it does boil my blood that a simple request can blow up in such a way. Many people dont think its wrong here. I am really surprised. 90% of the women in the group didnt think the photo was wrong. Ah well.