To not have eaten the meal DP cooked for us?

[NameofTheWind]

For context: DP will eat pretty much anything, he's more of a quantity over quality type and open admits that fancy food is largely wasted on him. He would choose a larger, normal cut of steak over filet, for example.
I'll eat most things, but am a bit of a foodie so get excited about a good meal.

DP's cooking style could be described as... "pot luck dining" - if it's in the fridge, it's in the pan. Most of the time it's vaguely edible, if a bit eclectic.

Today he decided on curry - Jar of sauce, chicken and maybe some onion and pepper... Or so I thought.

I've just been presented with a curry comprising of chicken, sauce, onion, pepper... Courgette chunks, sweetcorn and button mushrooms.

The sauce has turned to coloured curryish flavour water because of all the veg, and something has happened to the chicken to make it indistinguishable from the mushrooms.

I made a really valiant effort to eat it but its so grim

I've had to admit defeat and DP has obviously noticed. He's such a lovely man and I feel like such a cow, but this is a terrible meal right??

@NameofTheWind

MN really is pretty bloody awful on most threads at the moment, try not to take it personally.

You say your DH is lovely. If he's that lovely can you not explain to him that while you don't expect him to whip up 'made from scratch' gourmet meals, you do need him to understand a few basics to serve up an edible meal.

I'm not sure where you'd find some instructions/lessons on line that just teach the basics -such as how to add vegetable to a jar of curry sauce without turning it into grim soup, but there must be some!

As a short term 'fix'. Can you agree on some meals he doesn't destroy? Bakes potatoes, nachos etc or other things you know he makes a reasonable job of?

My ex didn't really cook, but he had some meals he could reliably make that were VERY good (and the local Indian takeaway knew our order!!).

We have curry with peas, mushrooms etc in. You seem weird op!

@y0rkier0se

My DP is similar! He once made a curry, and we didn’t have any chopped tomatoes so he put in a tin of tomato soup. Then, it was too tomatoey, so he put in a jug full of chicken gravy... it was inedible! YANBU

Omg that is disgusting! What was he thinking?!

@NameofTheWind

So cooking method was:

Fry chicken, add sauce, add chopped veg, boil all together, serve.

Ah sorry I should have read all this first. Yes he didn't cook it properly. But nothing wrong with mudrooms in a curry!

😂 he needed to cook the veg first and then reduce the whole thing. Well done for trying your bowl of baby food mush!

I would have just stirred the rice in to soak up the sauce and got on with it. Too much food waste in the world

If you’d refused to even try that would have been rude. You tried it, you didn’t like it, I don’t think that’s unreasonable at all.

On paper it sounds like something I'd eat. But he's clearly not cooked it right

Well...I guess I’m a crap cook because I have no idea I was supposed to cook veg differently before adding to curry. When I make a curry I get some curry paste and some of that garam masala powder stuff and pop it in the slow cooker with veg and meat and leave it until cooked then eat 🤷‍♀️

I would find sweet corn an unusual addition though. But however rubbish I probably still would’ve eaten it because I honestly can’t remember the last time someone else made me food.

Your DP should know you well enough to realise you wouldn't eat it!

simplycook.com/invite/JN4003?via=app direct him to the above . It's for a free box of 4 meals ....... well the spices and the recipe card but most thing you will already have in and it's simple enough to swap meat/fish and veg to your liking its a win win he won't spend more then 20 mons cooking and you'll be able to excites about food. I a big foodie too and I LOVE! SIMPLY COOK! . its restaurant quality made easy and in the comfort of your own home. Everyone I have referred is now a regular customer no1 has been disappointed only egar to order their next box

Mushroom alone are full of water. The ingredients would be perfect for a stir fry, maybe break that to him nicely. Couples cooking classes once we are ‘back to normal’ would be a nice idea

Excuse the typos please

Send it over here please

How can one be, "a bit of a foodie" and, "ambivalent to cooking" I've never yet met a foodie who doesn't enjoy being active in the kitchen.

I personally would have just eaten it and then said something about maybe the sauce having a change of recipe.

All those things are absolutely fine and normal on a curry.

When your husband hasn’t liked something how does he tell you? He will have disliked something at some point.

Wait a minute..your partner cooks?! Wtf am I doing with my life can I have some tips as to how you achieved this (by no means) feat? Genuinely..

I’m so sorry but YABU. My DH does sod all so maybe I’m salty

YANBU this is precisely why when we order indian food I order the veg curry without the veg 🤣🤣🤣🤣 (I'm vegetarian) but when there is too much veg and not enough sauce I don't enjoy it. I would tell him a bit too much in there. Less is more sometimes.

My husband cooks quite often, as do I, and we've both served up a few horrors over the years. On the whole, we eat what we've made, but there have been one or two occasions when we've had to bin the lot and get a takeaway. There was one meal that has passed into family legend as 'the piece of cod that passed all understanding' - a woeful attempt at a Jamie Oliver recipe that was completely inedible. We just laugh about it now.

I would love to have a meal cooked for me by someone else. The meal sounds nice enough to me! Sorry OP but you seem really rude and snobbish.

She explains, the balance of veg against the sauce is higher and has created more water. Sounds horrible.

Haha that’s hilarious! Straight down loo!

It doesn't sound like a gourmet meal but as an everyday meal made with a jar sauce - meh, seems passable to me. YABU

After 12 years together, my husband has still failed to grasp that I don’t like really spicy food. Sadly I often can’t eat what he cooks!
I know he tries to keep the heat low, and insists that ‘this won’t be hot’ but he fails nearly every time. I literally hid the chilli flakes last time he cooked.