To not have eaten the meal DP cooked for us?

[NameofTheWind]

For context: DP will eat pretty much anything, he's more of a quantity over quality type and open admits that fancy food is largely wasted on him. He would choose a larger, normal cut of steak over filet, for example.
I'll eat most things, but am a bit of a foodie so get excited about a good meal.

DP's cooking style could be described as... "pot luck dining" - if it's in the fridge, it's in the pan. Most of the time it's vaguely edible, if a bit eclectic.

Today he decided on curry - Jar of sauce, chicken and maybe some onion and pepper... Or so I thought.

I've just been presented with a curry comprising of chicken, sauce, onion, pepper... Courgette chunks, sweetcorn and button mushrooms.

The sauce has turned to coloured curryish flavour water because of all the veg, and something has happened to the chicken to make it indistinguishable from the mushrooms.

I made a really valiant effort to eat it but its so grim

I've had to admit defeat and DP has obviously noticed. He's such a lovely man and I feel like such a cow, but this is a terrible meal right??

Well at least he cooked a meal and used up the veg that you had.
Sometimes food is just that... food.

Sweetcorn in a curry? No thanks. Other veg is fine but would benefit from charring, browning, mushrooms in at last minute. The jar sauces vary a lot and some of them are rank.

Curry is a terrific way of using up the last bits of veg. Any veg.
Anyone who cooks for me gets a huge thumbs up. I hate cooking.
And I have no idea why a filet steak is better than any other sort. Just sounds like foodie snobbery to me.

Courgette, sweetcorn and mushrooms in a curry? I'd have thought onion and pepper was enough

We always have onion, pepper and courgette, sometimes cauliflower.

Never sweetcorn or mushrooms though. We always soften the veg first, which probably takes some of the liquid out, thought I suspect the sweetcorn wasn’t drained in your DH’s effort which is why it was a bit watery.

@HappyTimeTunnelDinosaur

How has it been made worse by the addition of veg? YABU.

Agree with this.

The other night I cooked a pot luck meal based on the odd and ends in our kitchen it was not good at all. My Husband ate about a third and said 'I'm sorry Juice I just can't eat anymore of this' we laughed about it. Yeah I had spent ages on it but there as no denying it was gross.

I would never accept him leaving a perfectly good tea, but if it isn't good it isn't good, nothing wrong with you leaving it

I always put sweetcorn and mushrooms in curry. DH wouldn't dare complain

He should have cooked the onions first, then the chicken, then the mushrooms, then any wet veg. Then added the sauce after.
I don't think the ingredients were the problem as much as how he cooked it. Big chunks of boiled onion must be yuck, courgette also is not nice boiled - I once put a marrow in a stew, ruined the whole huge pot of it :-(

This is bizarre. It's normal to put veg in a curry, and those veg won't have had the impact you describe on the sauce.

Do you normally like your meals to be veg-free?

@hellejuice91

The other night I cooked a pot luck meal based on the odd and ends in our kitchen it was not good at all. My Husband ate about a third and said 'I'm sorry Juice I just can't eat anymore of this' we laughed about it. Yeah I had spent ages on it but there as no denying it was gross.

I would never accept him leaving a perfectly good tea, but if it isn't good it isn't good, nothing wrong with you leaving it

Yeah, everyone has mishaps. I once made cheesy spinach pasta... Which genuinely looked like someone already eat the sauce It was a lumpy mess with texture no one could really stomach... Dh really tried to eat it😂 We still sometimes laugh about it. My improv is generally better that that

@BrieAndChilli

I put mushrooms and courgettes in curry all the time! Maybe not sweetcorn but it wouldn’t be a dealbreaker for me.

Same here, I have a toddler so hiding her has become a talent 😂 the only think I wouldn't have is the sweetcorn. But if you didn't like it you didn't like it, there's nothing wrong with that

Was I this only one thinking. For. That sounds lush! Though when I’m well im a vegetarian. But that sounds delist without the chicken!

@NameofTheWind

So cooking method was:

Fry chicken, add sauce, add chopped veg, boil all together, serve.

This is where he went wrong - he should have fried the veg off with the chicken and added the sauce afterwards

YANBU did he not taste it. I made a dinner once that was so inedible we ordered takeaway. Hope you did the same :)

I think it's OK to not eat it as long as you are polite and as long as it's not all the time. I am a cook and dh isn't, though he cooks some things very well. I didn't eat part of the meal the other day and he noticed and apologised, I didn't lie but didn't make it a big deal. I guess he will take care next time. I am wondering if he might consider properly learning to cook in the future - but honestly he and dd2 can take food or leave it, dd1 and I live for nice food and flavours. So I guess he can't really tell a huge difference.

Why is the chicken rubbery? I have veggie curry - loads of veg, always courgette because I love it, and a jar of sauce. No idea how he made it watery?

He cooked, you tried it but didn't like it, where is the issue? You weren't rude ro say it wasn't nice, unless you said it was rank and has put you off curry for life? I use vegetables in certain curries but that sounds like a free for all and unless you are cooking a vegetable biriyani, the traditional kind does not contain carrots! Just because someone chucks inside curry paste ir sauce doesn't make a curry in my eyes. I wouldn't have been pleased to eat what you have described.

My H is utterly utterly shit at cooking and he gets worse with age. Last night effort was Iceland frozen lamb steaks that were as rank as what I thought they would be when he insisted on buying them. Thankfully, I usually do the cooking and find him other stuff to do.

I often have courgette and mushrooms in my curry. Sweetcorn though might make it taste a bit weird. Get him some pataks paste pots, much nicer than a jar.

I wouldn't use jar sauce but would probably eat it if somone gave it to me. I don't eat meat so can't comment. I add loads of veg, but do think of texture and if it works together so wouldn't just chuck the courgette in and have it go mushy.

It's a bit daft to force a meal down if you're finding it unpleasant so yanbu. But the assertion it had too much veg is odd to me.

Next time, tip "curry" through colander, boil sauce to reduce to a nice consistency, stir bits back in.

DH once made cucumber and gnocchi curry, it was gross.

@ShrikeAttack

Many years ago a bloke I'd just started seeing asked me to his and said he'd cook me a curry. I was looking forward to it and was really pleased he was into cooking as I'm a really keen cook.

He made me chicken korma. From a jar.

The relationship did not progress.

So your a stuck up snob?

Courgettes and mushrooms are awesome in curries but you fry them golden first. I wouldn’t want watery, bland curry.

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@peak2021

Could you not have eaten some of it? As I regard food waste as a sin.

I gave it to him and he ate it.

I used to be really funny about wasting food; but IMO forcing down food you actively don't want is wasting it anyway.