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To not have eaten the meal DP cooked for us?

224 replies

NameofTheWind · 09/01/2021 18:12

For context: DP will eat pretty much anything, he's more of a quantity over quality type and open admits that fancy food is largely wasted on him. He would choose a larger, normal cut of steak over filet, for example.
I'll eat most things, but am a bit of a foodie so get excited about a good meal.

DP's cooking style could be described as... "pot luck dining" - if it's in the fridge, it's in the pan. Most of the time it's vaguely edible, if a bit eclectic.

Today he decided on curry - Jar of sauce, chicken and maybe some onion and pepper... Or so I thought.

I've just been presented with a curry comprising of chicken, sauce, onion, pepper... Courgette chunks, sweetcorn and button mushrooms.

The sauce has turned to coloured curryish flavour water because of all the veg, and something has happened to the chicken to make it indistinguishable from the mushrooms.

I made a really valiant effort to eat it but its so grim Blush

I've had to admit defeat and DP has obviously noticed. He's such a lovely man and I feel like such a cow, but this is a terrible meal right??

OP posts:
Whiskysoda · 09/01/2021 18:44

I think you’re just going to have to admit that your DH can not cook op! My DH is vegetarian, we enjoy some gorgeous veggie curries (admittedly not from a jar) but the difference is we can both cook. There’s no reason a well cooked veggie curry should be grey or watery!

Sack him from cooking, find him jobs more suited to his skill level. In the meantime, order a takeaway for tonight or beans on toast. Don’t eat his grey, watery slop!

PickAChew · 09/01/2021 18:45

Yuck. Sounds like he's just boiled it all together without browning anything. Mushrooms are terrible for making things watery.

ShrikeAttack · 09/01/2021 18:46

DH is a great cook btw, he's souviding a rack of lamb as we speak.

(Not as good as me, mind).

Nancylovesthecock · 09/01/2021 18:46

@DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou

Conversely, I have an annoyingly fussy husband. He's not really fussy that often but when he is, it's really fucking stupid.

He says he doesn't like parsnips, and I don't see how/wasn't convinced.
Then one time I made a chicken, cider, mustard and parsnip casserole. He asked me what the veg was in it and I said it was turnip. He commented that it tasted amazing and ate all of it.

A few days later I admitted it was parsnip.

I made the recipe several times since, following a Sainsbury's recipe and he refused to eat the bloody things.
Says he doesn't like parsnip Hmm
When I reacted wtf? He said I'd cooked them differently after the first time.

I really hate that kind of pointless fussiness.

Not that I'm saying you are OP, you may or may not be! I've no idea.

This is my 7 yeas r old at the minute.

Is your DH 7?

peak2021 · 09/01/2021 18:46

Could you not have eaten some of it? As I regard food waste as a sin.

ShrikeAttack · 09/01/2021 18:49

I regard food waste as a sin.

Pretty sure it's not in the list. The killer in 7even didn't go after anyone for not eating their crusts.

Nancylovesthecock · 09/01/2021 18:51

My DH cooks but he isn't a great one. It mostly tastes OK when he has finished but I just can't watch him cook it makes me anxious.

Tonight he has made Lasagne. The mince went into a cold pan, along with onions and chestnut mushrooms and was left to just kind of boil away whilst he poked at it with a spoon 🤮

No browning of mince or caramelising of onions no celery. I only interveined as he went to add the garlic and tomato paste without draining the broiling fat and liquid off the mince 🤮

Dontforgetyourbrolly · 09/01/2021 18:53

Sounds gross. However i would be so grateful for someone to cook something for me I'd be ever so polite and make an excuse . Have beans on toast later !

maddiemookins16mum · 09/01/2021 18:54

YANBU, it sounds awful.

TonMoulin · 09/01/2021 18:57

I put all sorts of vegs in my curry and tough it’s not supposed to be. My curries are delicious if I say so myself.

What your DH did wrong is that he didn’t thoroughly cook the vegs. And chicken before adding the sauce. Something that could easily be sorted for next time

Tenyearsgone · 09/01/2021 18:57

I voted YABU because anyone who describes themselves as 'a bit of a foodie' is always unreasonable.

june2007 · 09/01/2021 18:58

Well I thik you have made it sound worse then it was, lets face it a jar curry with addeed veg, it is what it is. YABU to come on here and moan.

AliceMcK · 09/01/2021 18:58

How is he supposed to know not to do it again if he isn’t told.

I suppose a way forward is maybe cook together so then you can question his reasoning to adding stuff you don’t think is appropriate at the time. You can also educate him on what you like to eat.

Shaniac · 09/01/2021 18:59

Yanbu. I cook vegitable curry with loads of different veggies but if you dont cook it right, eg cook the veggies make sure theres no excess water then you end up with thin pale horrible sauce.

KirstenBlest · 09/01/2021 18:59

@peak2021

Could you not have eaten some of it? As I regard food waste as a sin.
The way it was cooked wasted the food, not the rejection of it.
BettyAndVeronica · 09/01/2021 19:00

Don't really like the sound of it.
But it probably wasn't so terrible.

I like some of the meals DH makes and some not so much. The feeling is mutual. He hates my 3 bean stew. I don't like his sloppy lasagna.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 09/01/2021 19:01

The only issue would be the watery suace which may be unpleasant. Nothing wrong with all that veg (and that's coming from someone who says mushrooms are Devil's poop). I have even more veg usually.

Bluesmartiesandpandapop · 09/01/2021 19:02

IME you have to be a pretty good cook to get away with being creative with a recipe. You need to understand the fundamentals first. I have a parent like this who makes inedible food. I am a creative cook myself, but initially I was a rigid recipe follower. It's taken me years, and I still fuck up sometimes. When I do I don't serve it to other people

Georgyporky · 09/01/2021 19:06

I'm normally grateful for anything that friend/family has cooked for me - e.g. half-cooked bacon in a burnt toast sarnie for Mother's Day brekkie - although a bit of adult supervision would have improved it.
Not sure whether I would have eaten much of that "curry" though !

bert3400 · 09/01/2021 19:08

I'm with you OP, why do you even let him near the kitchen ?Confused

HollowTalk · 09/01/2021 19:12

I wouldn't have been able to eat that.

Why don't you both aim for three or four signature dishes each and make sure you have the ingredients in, so that he doesn't start to experiment?

SabrinaMorningstar · 09/01/2021 19:12

@ShrikeAttack

I regard food waste as a sin.

Pretty sure it's not in the list. The killer in 7even didn't go after anyone for not eating their crusts.

This made me laugh Xmas Grin

although the killer only went after the 7 deadly sins - not eating crusts would be in the minor league of sins surely?

tisnotthedamnseason · 09/01/2021 19:13

Just tell him what he did wrong. Me and my partner are more than able to (usually politely) point out when the other has royally fucked something up.

He could only cook two very easy things when we met and still needs quite a bit of guidance.

KirstenBlest · 09/01/2021 19:13

@SchrodingersImmigrant, it wouldn't just be the watery sauce, the chicken, onion, mushrooms and curry would have cooked in watery sauce instead of being fried.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 09/01/2021 19:15

[quote KirstenBlest]@SchrodingersImmigrant, it wouldn't just be the watery sauce, the chicken, onion, mushrooms and curry would have cooked in watery sauce instead of being fried.[/quote]
Good pointm i missed just chicken was fried.

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