Lottery Win. AIBU.

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*Lighthearted... kinda...
OH has just purchased a new TV. He didn't tell me and we didn't need a new TV. I don't really watch much tv though so obviously, it wouldn't be a priority buy for me but, thinking back, he had been hinting at this purchase for a while.

Anyway, I decided to (in a lighthearted way) question him on why he made this purchase 'behind my back' and where exactly did he get the money from. He was playing along and said he was using his birthday and Christmas money but, then it transpired that he'd had not one but TWO lottery wins (not huge wins - £110 and £140) and he was also using that.

This irritated me, we do the lottery together so the winnings belong to both of us. I pointed this out to him but what annoyed me most was that he didn't tell me. I would have told him, I wouldn't have kept it secret.

He did eventually apologise but... the damage is done. Can I ever trust him again??

So, what to do. Do I graciously accept the apology and get on with life. The tv has a cracking picture quality btw
OR, do I cut my losses now and ltb?

YANBU at all.
I know you say 'lighthearted', but I agree with those saying it is really weird.
We're at a similar stage of life as you, and I can't imagine (even if it was not joint money), not telling dh if I had a lottery or Premium Bond win. It's 'conversation', if nothing else. A little joke about winning the lottery , then breaking the news that it was only £140 or whatever.
I'd be quite confused by the fact he hadn't said anything, tbh. Hurt too.

Even if we hadn't done the lottery using joint money I would be cross if DH won over £100 and kept it quiet! I wouldn't keep it from him if I won, I think it would be selfish to not consider your spouse. If he won using his own money he could make a case for spending it on something just he wants but I still think it should be a bit of a discussion and not a secret otherwise what else is OK to hide?

YANBU op. I am surprised so many people appear to have completely missed the point of this thread or cannot see the op's point. It is not the money or the tv that matters so much as it was a betrayal of the trust, if they both played the lotto together and are married then the dh should defo have told and yes he went behind your back and deceived you which is the real issue and is the source of the op's anger. And no this is not light-hearted, it taps into something much more serious-lies and betrayal in a marriage.

I am also surprised by all the people who are asking for her to get the next win or that she should get the notifications on the wins as it is completely missing the point. It isn't about the money, it is about the deceit and now the trust being gone/badly damaged. Whether it was 5 million or 5 pounds is totally irrelevant but the principle remains the same.

OP, I would have a serious talk to my dh about this and get him to understand that it is not about the money but all about the betrayal and the underhand tactics. Only you can decide to forgive but look out for any similar behaviour in future. It is essential though you talk to him about it and explain your resentment/feelings. Do not let it go as then you are undermining what he did.

It would be different had both agreed to have separate finances etc but this was not the case.

''I know you say 'lighthearted', but I agree with those saying it is really weird.''

Weird is not an adjective I'd use here as it undermines what he did-shady and sneaky are more appropriate words.