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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To think this woman is really insensitive....

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itsgoodtobehome · 08/01/2021 07:50

So, before I start, I know the standard MN response about FB posts that annoy you is just to ignore, delete, defined etc, but humour me on this one.

One of the Mums at DS school has posted on FB 'I love homeschooling' (not ironically) and then followed if up with 'I don't understand why people don't.'

How fucking insensitive is that? Oh, I should also add that she works PT and her DH doesn't work at all.

Clearly has no thought about all those families with 2 FT working parents, single-parent families, key worker families that feel guilty for sending their kids to a school that's meant to be closed etc etc.

I feel like putting all, of that on her post, but it's probably not worth the aggro.

So, Yes: IABU as I shouldn't get wound up by idiots on FB
No: IANBU: the post was really insensitive and the woman is an idiot

OP posts:

Lovaduck74 · 08/01/2021 08:05

I don't think it's insensitive, no. Glad she is enjoying it. Personally I find homeschooling like the 9th circle of hell but, you know, horses for courses.

CommanderBurnham · 08/01/2021 08:07

She's perfectly entitled to put that. I know some people who like it. I do sometimes.

You are perfectly entitled to unfollow her.

ThatBitch · 08/01/2021 08:07

There's one of these on my Facebook. She posts all her homeschooling activities on the village page with her 7yo who has written stories and illustrated them, baked bread, cakes and biscuits, learned pieces on the piano and cycled 20km in total over the last 2 days. I've hidden her posts. Good for her but I'm working my arse off in the hospital and dh is working his arse off in his critical worker job and the dc are dumped at school. I'm not letting her bother me.

justanotherneighinparadise · 08/01/2021 08:08

Why she needs to let the whole world know that god only knows. I’d just unfollow her and crack on.

borntohula · 08/01/2021 08:08

Comes off as a bit smug but I'm glad some people are enjoying it.

EggBobbin · 08/01/2021 08:09

A friend posted something similar, complete with smug hashtags #teamjones #toughtimesdontlasttoughteamsdo #winningatlife.... her DD later texted my DD to say she hated home schooling and didn’t understand anything... I was tempted to add this comment to her Fb but just decided to feel quietly smug instead.

(I’ve asked to be furloughed as I cannot handle juggling both a second time)

justanotherneighinparadise · 08/01/2021 08:10

To me social media is like parading a sandwich board around your locality. If you would be happy to write that on your sandwich board and head on out, then that’s a great comment for SM. If you wouldn’t and you think it might make you look like a twat, then don’t post.

Knitwit99 · 08/01/2021 08:10

If she enjoys it that's fine, if she wants to tell people she enjoys it thats also fine. But to put "I don't understand why people don't" would piss me off quite a lot. Its really thoughtless right now. I would seriously want to comment but I'm not sure if I would.

Rockinmomma · 08/01/2021 08:11

You will always get people like this on SM (I unfollow them)
‘Can’t believe how easy it was to potty train my 18 month old’
‘I love a tidy house’ (with picture of catalogue living room even though they have 4 kids who are likely to scared to move in the event they attract dust)

iVampire · 08/01/2021 08:11

It’s no more and no less insensitive than any of the threads here where an OP professes not to understand a very common stance. Some people really are that limited in their outlook

Alexandernevermind · 08/01/2021 08:15

I love it too, but I would never undermine people who don't love it or can't home school. I work full time but mine an come to work with me.

Roselilly36 · 08/01/2021 08:16

It’s her opinion that’s fine, and shared by a lot of parents. I think a lot depends on the child’s character whether home schooling works. Just unfollow, otherwise you may get regular updates.

Oreservoir · 08/01/2021 08:20

Yabu for giving it any head space. She's entitled to her opinion and her fb page is her business.
Scroll on by.

Smileyaxolotl1 · 08/01/2021 08:21

I think saying you love it is fine but saying you can’t understand why people don’t is dumb.
Depending on the child’s age home learning is almost impossible with Anything more than 1 parent to 1 child and I’m in awe of the people wfh who are simultaneously hone learning.

justanotherneighinparadise · 08/01/2021 08:23

I think it is different as on here you are axtling like a twat in a sea of strangers. One Facebook you’re doing it in front of friends/associates.

Boulshired · 08/01/2021 08:26

First part fine the second part shows that maybe she isn’t great material for home schooling as she clearly has no critical thinking is she cannot understand how home schooling can be problematic for others.

redcarbluecar · 08/01/2021 08:27

I wouldn’t be able to resist commenting on that. ‘Do you REALLY not understand?’

ivegotthisyeah · 08/01/2021 08:28

I've literally just deleted my fb account for this very reason, struggling enough without all the #teamsmith etc shit being posted, I did last lock down too it effects my mental health so much all these show off parents.

Scolha · 08/01/2021 08:28

Yabu. Good for her for being positive and setting a good example for her children.
Not everyone has the same opinion and that’s okay!

user1487194234 · 08/01/2021 08:29

I have temporarily left Facebook
Last straw was a couple of teachers going on about the extra time they have to do Yoga
It's difficult but I think the only thing to do is try and ignore what others are saying,half of it will be made up anyway,and concentrate on just getting through it as best you can

RoganJosh · 08/01/2021 08:31

I bet someone else replies!

I’d find it hard to resist replying with “bit different when you are both trying to work FT ”.

amymel2016 · 08/01/2021 08:32

She’s not being insensitive, maybe she does genuinely enjoy it? There’s nothing wrong with that. Some people enjoy going to the dentist or watching Piers Morgan.

Yikes2021 · 08/01/2021 08:34

You know what’s worse. People boasting that they got their kid into school. Said in a similar way that you might perhaps boast about getting spice girl tickets or tickets to go watch Hamilton. “No homeschool for me!” Etc

Some of these people are breaking the “key worker” rules in my opinion. And that’s why my school has nearly as many in school as at home.

Doingitaloneandproud · 08/01/2021 08:37

It is annoying and I just hide those posts, what I found more irritating on mine was someone posting how home schooling isn't that bad as it's only for a month (clearly forgetting last years months as well) but she doesn't have a child yet! I was so tempted to write how the fuck would you know?!

BabblativeBean · 08/01/2021 08:39

I hate home schooling, I find it incredibly difficult and stressful, but that post wouldn't bother me. Her experience is different from other peoples and she doesn't understand that. Sorry to come out with the Mumsnet standard, but I'd just ignore.

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