To think this woman is really insensitive....

[itsgoodtobehome]

So, before I start, I know the standard MN response about FB posts that annoy you is just to ignore, delete, defined etc, but humour me on this one.

One of the Mums at DS school has posted on FB 'I love homeschooling' (not ironically) and then followed if up with 'I don't understand why people don't.'

How fucking insensitive is that? Oh, I should also add that she works PT and her DH doesn't work at all.

Clearly has no thought about all those families with 2 FT working parents, single-parent families, key worker families that feel guilty for sending their kids to a school that's meant to be closed etc etc.

I feel like putting all, of that on her post, but it's probably not worth the aggro.

So, Yes: IABU as I shouldn't get wound up by idiots on FB
No: IANBU: the post was really insensitive and the woman is an idiot

It’s not unsentimental to express her opinion on this.

Good for her, lots of people hate it, but she enjoys it.

Couldn’t get worked up about that

I think that people who know they have a reasonable point are happy to post it on social media. So the question is, why do you think it would cause a kerfuffle if you posted what you thought?

I posted in Education about how we were struggling and overwhelmed on day 1 of home learning etc. Yep, you guessed - had a lot of replies saying their little angels were doing all the work plus baking/singing etc.

I was saying to my gp yesterday how much I love lockdown, soon as it was out my mouth I was apologising profusely.

I have revised my opinion of several friends who wouldn’t see why anyone might have found the fist lockdown anything but ‘a wonderful time to spend quality time with my familam’ and ‘everyone chill and enjoy the slower pace’ as we simultaneously worked FT and home schooled a 4 and 7 year old. That they couldn’t see that other people might not have that luxury stunned me.

Yabu I am also really enjoying home schooling. I feel like I'm not allowed to admit that out loud incase it upsets people that aren't enjoying it. I work full time and I'm a single parent, but I understand though that not everyone finds it easy. I just happen to enjoy it 🤷🏼‍♀️
My Facebook feed is full of negativity around homeschooling, it feels more of a bandwagon to not enjoy it.

But if she had put 'I hate homeschooling' (not ironically) and then followed it up with 'I don't understand why people enjoy it.'

And you were a person who did enjoy it, would you still feel it was insensitive?

I have a couple of friends who are loving it and would post something like that, I just shrug and laugh at them because it's a bit of a naff humble brag kind of thing along with #makingmemories and #famalam hollibobs. I think they are trying to convince themselves as much as they are others. Glad they are enjoying it. I personally can't wait for schools to reopen....

The issue here isn't the woman's comments really, it is the fact you see her comments on Facebook.

Either come off Facebook, limit your feed to those you agree with, or find a way to zone out posts like that.

I've seen a raft if grammatically incorrect postz from parents saying they don't have time/don't know how to support their children's learning/don't understand the work.
This is KS1 and KS2 stuff and is basic general knowledge/simple maths/GPS.
I know it makes me sound bitchy but the stuff isn't difficult.
Before anyone says anything about dyslexia or learning difficulties I have friends in several of those categories and they manage to use dictionaries etc., I was raised in a household where the 2 generations before me had their schooling interrupted by war, and went to a school where the standard of teaching was mediocre at best.

Where do you draw the line?

What about people who live alone? They might get pissed off with people moaning about lockdown when they've got a house full of people for company. Lonely Joan's have their 4 walls and can only dream of having kids running about the place, other adult contact etc.

The grass is always greener...

Well she is allowed to say she enjoys it wo automatically having to think about those who struggle.

Just like I should be able to say I hate marmite or my life hasn’t changed with lockdown....

If you want “sensitivity,” either don’t have a Facebook account, only be friends with clones of yourself, or only friend people on Facebook if they actually are friends of yours, so that you can more easily forgive them for not being you...

I wouldn't have a problem with 'I love homeschooling' - fair enough. What would cheese me off is: 'I don't understand why people don't' - that is what makes her an insensitive idiot without imagination or empathy.

I would think of a million reponses, but I wouldn't post them - what is the point? Engaging with idiots on social media is like wrestling with a pig - you'll both get dirty and the pig will probably enjoy it.

I’d be reading between the lines on this one. Is she trying to convince herself or is she insecure and in need of attention?

I have three friends who are sadly in shit relationships. They are the ones who post on Facebook about their perfect DHs. One of them is about to end her marriage he’s such a dick.

Yabu. Good for her for being positive and setting a good example for her children.
Not everyone has the same opinion and that’s okay!

That’s not it though, if they just put their opinion across ‘I love x’ that would be fine. Great. Excellent. Good on them. Glad it’s working for them. Whatever. It’s essentially following it up with ‘I can’t see why others have a problem with it’ is where it’s extremely insensitive, and incredibly stupid if they are not being toady but truly don’t understand why everyone else may not be having their experience.

Fine to say she loves it.

To then put that she doesn't understand why others don't-well you then wonder about he quality of her kid's homeschooling...

@EggBobbin
That’s so funny

No reason she shouldn’t love it, but saying she doesn’t understand why others don’t, does make her a moron and also a twat.

However, she may just be insensitive and/or stupid - rather than trying to be deliberately nasty. Given she’s one of the mums at your kids school you probably don’t want to write either a sarcastic or well thought out response.

There is no cure for stupid, etc

Its just smug, isn't it? Its not funny or interesting... just put up to make a point about how much better she is. I hate stuff like this so YANBU

I don’t see the issue. It’s just her opinion and hers is just as valid as others all over social media who are complaining and talking about how hard it is,

One of my friends posted loads of pics of enjoying all sorts of activities with her kids recently. She’s just told me she was diagnosed with cancer a month ago and hadn’t told the kids over Christmas. Often what appears on Facebook is a screen for what’s really going on. Or it’s someone trying to make the most of a bad situation. If you can’t be happy for the person then either ignore it, block them, or don’t go on in the first place.

I home ed all the time and don’t get upset about all the people saying how terrible it is and they can’t cope. Their experience is different to mine.

Why is that insensitive? She clearly is genuinely enjoying it..I know some people are not having an easy time with it but it's her facebook page and it's how she feels.

Facebeook has an in-built twat-o-meter.

People who posts things like that without realising that others are not in a situaiton like them are sometimes twats. (Looking at you cousin who posts endless boasts about being mortgage free and how amazing it is to not be tied down into debt).

I would hide her posts for a bit.

You're only allowed to show active dislike for your kids on social media. Appreciation or joy is always perceived as smug or insensitive.