To take myself to A&E

[PumpkinSpicedLatte]

Not sure if this is the right place , my apologies if not.
Quick overview - I’ve posted here before regarding PND.
DD almost 5 months now
I take Sertraline 200mg
Been a battle to get support so far as I didn’t meet the criteria for severity but I soon spiralled .
I have a husband and also a very close friend who have been above amazing & thankfully is in my bubble so she’s been and helped me many a times, because she ‘gets’ my situation more than DH-nothing personal to DH he just doesn’t get mental health the same as my friend seems to.

I’ve woken today feeling absolutely beside myself mentally . Extremely sleep deprived . DD is not sleeping well at all, I got 2 hours sleep the last 4 days broken into 10 minute intervals of DD waking. I just don’t feel good.
For the first time ever i am contemplating taking myself to A&E to get proper help, but my issues are:
Currently we are having to isolate as DH has covid , I’ve tested negative and have no symptoms , but I’m guessing that means I can’t leave the house to go to hospital due to isolating? The other issue is I also breastfeed my daughter exclusively and she will not accept a bottle , and I can hardly take her with me can I ? Also don’t know how to tell DH that I’m feeling that bad without breaking him.
I’m at a loss, can anyone help?
Please be kind , if possible .
Thank you

They can also link you in with other local support

@Syal thank you for the comment . Actually I do have home start support , and met another lovely mum who I meet once a week at the centre and we have a drink and her daughter is only 2 months older than mine so we have a lot in common and the girls love each other . The volunteers are great also. I just feel I think I may be in need of more intense help at this point but I’m not sure what. Perinatal have offered like peer support , talking to other mums via a Microsoft teams video call once a week, and the psychiatrist is phoning me on the 18th. I just feel stuck in this really dark place and can’t see any beauty which isn’t like me at all. I was that annoying person before who saw nothing but beauty in everything and everyone . Now I just feel numb

@Mif4 at Thai point I definitely would x

At this pint *

I would ask the psychiatrist about the MBU and whether it is an option - I think these things are often not mentioned because they worry that people will get anxious and disengage from support. I also think if you raised it would demonstrate that a) you really want to engage, and, b) just how bad you feel things are.

How are you doing today?

A and e won't help if you have mh issues. They just give you a fucking lecture , say contact your gp and send you ok your way , I've been there. They are useless and don't care.

@mumnowformerrockstar

A and e won't help if you have mh issues. They just give you a fucking lecture , say contact your gp and send you ok your way , I've been there. They are useless and don't care.

Also, from very bitter personal experience if you go to a and e with mh issues such as anxiety. The bastards contact ss as well.

@PumpkinSpicedLatte

Thank you for your kind responses, to answer the above questions- I have until Sunday 23:59 to isolate , so I can go out as normal (well as normal as can be in lockdown) from Monday. The issue with crisis team is they have refused to help me because I’m under perinatal mental health records , because a psychiatrist rings me every 6 weeks to ‘check in’ , so crisis team are not allowed to be involved as they are seen as treading on other professionals toes . My GP tried to get them to call me but they won’t . My friend can’t help today due to us isolating , and my husband could yes but he’s currently still in bed snd baby is napping on me now , finally . She could be teething as she is unsettled , and hopefully she’ll learn to take a bottle as I’m due back to work in April so she can’t be on the breast all the time then . I feel so lost

If you are experiencing any thoughts of self harm or harming the baby you must go to hospital- call 999 if needed. The baby’s feeding will be sorted somehow but the most important thing is that you are safe. The mental health teams at hospitals will not admit you unless you are at risk. They can only refer you back to your GP or other clinical metal health team who you are assigned to. If you are isolating I’m not sure they’d even take you to hospital. The best might be the ambulance team refers on your needs to the team. Can you get hold of the secretary numbers of the consultant you saw and call them asking for an urgent appointment before your next 6 weeks check. If not call your GP AND INSIST they get in touch with your consultant for an urgent appointment. Use the words that it is a safeguarding issue, that you feel unable to care for your daughter and are afraid for her- sorry but you need to raise the stakes to be prioritised as needing urgent intervention. Keep calling the GP until your consultant gets in touch. Yes, the Gp will get annoyed but it will get them to sort it out. Alternative is to ask GP to review your medication- 200mg sounds like a high dose so not sure if GP could increase it. They may be able to prescribe a short term course for a few days of alternative meds to help you through and ensure you rest and get some stability back. Sorry OP, my DH had a crisis in aug last year and it took until December to get an appointment-and that was with me being really pushy and making a nuisance of myself and hand delivering letters to the consultants secretary. They are incredibly stretched- even more than normal crappy overstretched mental health services. BUT if you are having thoughts of self harm you get yourself to hospital by calling 999 but also explaining you are isolating. Take care💐

@Mif4 is it ok if I message you about MBU?

I spoke to my HV today when she came to see me, she’s lovely and can’t fault her she’s so wonderful but even she was like ‘I don’t know what to do’ and she seemed concerned but said she felt helpless . I will mention how bad I feel to the psychiatrist when he rings me next week and maybe could mention the MBU to him , especially now my husband is being redeployed to ICU on night shifts I’m going to struggle mentally even more x
Thanks everyone you’re so kind x