No wonder your boyfriend didn't want you..aibu?

[bedandted]

I had a argument with a friend today.
I hate arguing but she turns everything into a argument and plays the victim.
We were in the street as we were walking back from the local shop,we were discussing something and I told her she was in the wrong (owed me £30 and hadn't paid it back when she said so I asked her for it and she went on the defensive )
She said "omg you think il run away with it"
I said "no of course not,I'm just a bit short this month so could do with it back"
She started screaming "I'm sick of people speaking to me like shit"( I never do,I'm the pushover )
Then I said "why are you screaming in the street,just speak normal"
She screamed back "because of you,I'm done with you,no wonder (ex ) doesn't want to be with you,standing there like your it"
Then walked away ..I was left embarrassed as people were looking.
I don't think I can forgive her saying that to me.
Aibu to think there was no need?

I used to have a friend who threw these sorts of tantrums. It was exhausting and I eventually stopped being her friend, though it took me far too long to do so.

Leave her to it. If this is only her first tantrum, believe me, there will be more.

she's not a friend op. Ditch her

I didn't understand why she felt the need to scream in the middle of the street.
Then the personal insults.
She's never in the wrong
She's always the one hard done by.
Everyone else to blame
Victim mentality
I can't be bothered anymore

Because she doesn't want you to ask for the money back again

Write it - and her - off

She's causing a scene to try and get out of paying what she owes you, hopes you'll be too embarrassed to bring it up again.

She actually said "standing there like your it" what age is she???? I'd dump the friendship just for that!

She did it to get out of giving you the money.

Yeah, she doesn't want to pay you back so is acting an idiot so you don't ask again. Pathetic behaviour. Ditch her.

@ilovepixie she's 39!!
She made me feel about 2 inches tall

She's no friend. Her tantrum was a deflecting tactic, I'd write her and your money off. She had no right to say the things she did. She's crossed a line.

Some people become overly defensive and lash out aggressively when they’re challenged (and know deep down they’re in the wrong). You don’t need that in a friend. I know you need the cash but please write it off, and her off too.

Dump her like radioactive waste. I’ve met too many people like that and they never change.

Lol I'm 49 and we used to say that sort of shit when I was 9.. 'she thinks she's IT in her new pencil skirt' 'she thinks she's IT because Miss gave her 10/10' etc!
Yes this is classic deflecting!! Ditch!

@Groovinpeanut

She's no friend. Her tantrum was a deflecting tactic, I'd write her and your money off. She had no right to say the things she did. She's crossed a line.

Yep and it has probably worked quite well in the past. Never get drawn in to the distraction. Stick to the point and if she contacts you again, ask her for your money back until it's (if it's) paid and then tell her to fuck off.

Now see, if someone pulled this kind of caper to make me too embarrassed to ask for my money back, it would have the opposite effect.

In my younger years it would have been different. Now? I would be bordering on doing it just to be thrawn.

Get it back (if you can) then dump.

Friends don’t do that shit.

She's a stupid, scruffy cunt who doesn't want to pay what she owes.

Consider it well spent to be rid of the loser.

She thinks you won't ask her for the money again. Make sure you do get it back and then bin the friendship.

There was no need for her to start screaming at you in the street or anywhere for that matter and I am not condoning her at all but is it that she is struggling to pay it back and that is what made her get defensive again not right if her to do at all.
People who get embarrassed then try to deflect the embarrassment onto others.
How long have you been friends for is she someone who you would actual be able to have a heart to heart with and say why did she act the way she did when you only asked for the money back that you loaned her because it’s yours and you need it and also why did she feel that she had to shout and scream at you in the street and then throw a personal insult at you because of it?

Grimsby fish wife with no class. Dump her.

why she felt the need to scream in the middle of the street.

It worked, though, didn't it?

You stopped asking her for your money back.

I'd write off the debt, and the friendship.

p.s. if she were struggling to pay it back, there are more appropriate ways to let you know

She's got form for this and normally I would let it slide.
One time I bought her a top (or something) and as we were walking home she started arguing (can't remember why ) so she threw the carrier bag(with the top in ) on the floor and walked off.
Then another time in a coffee shop started arguing top of her voice.
Anytime anyone sticks up for themselves she does this.

I would message her and say “look, I need that money back this week for food” / pay for my prescription or similar....

I'd make a point of getting the money back - then bin her.

She sounds like a delight!!!

I would end this friendship immediately!!!

Just bin her OP.
She's not worth it