No wonder your boyfriend didn't want you..aibu?

[bedandted]

I had a argument with a friend today.
I hate arguing but she turns everything into a argument and plays the victim.
We were in the street as we were walking back from the local shop,we were discussing something and I told her she was in the wrong (owed me £30 and hadn't paid it back when she said so I asked her for it and she went on the defensive )
She said "omg you think il run away with it"
I said "no of course not,I'm just a bit short this month so could do with it back"
She started screaming "I'm sick of people speaking to me like shit"( I never do,I'm the pushover )
Then I said "why are you screaming in the street,just speak normal"
She screamed back "because of you,I'm done with you,no wonder (ex ) doesn't want to be with you,standing there like your it"
Then walked away ..I was left embarrassed as people were looking.
I don't think I can forgive her saying that to me.
Aibu to think there was no need?

[quote bedandted]@ilovepixie she's 39!!
She made me feel about 2 inches tall [/quote]
And that's why she does it. To you and anybody else she can make feel small. Because if you're 2 inches tall, she gets to be bigger than you. Even though she's only 2.5 inches tall.

She has a tiny ego she needs to defend. Don't be part of this game.

Life's too short to put up with this kind of behaviour from an adult. I don't think you will ever see your money, so would just cut all contact with her.

Message her every day and say "Can you send me the £30?" and if she ever does, never speak to her again.

Ditch her. If you have to write off the £30 it’ll be worth it just to get rid of her. That was a needlessly horrible thing to say/scream at you and how she behaved says a lot more about her than you.

She sounds horrible, I’d ditch her immediately without any further contact.

Tbh, I’d still message her - “when can I have my £30 then?”

I’d still chase her for the £30 as well. Just to put her back in her box. Cheeky cow.

She's not your friend, she's a user.
You shouldn't feel two inches tall, you helped her and got abuse in return. Don't let anyone diminish you like that.
And btw never lend money again you can't afford to lose. She played on your sympathy knowing she wouldn't or couldn't pay you back.
Keep away from her in future.

What a horrible person! She's no friend of yours. I would write her and the money she owes you off and forget about her. You don't need crap like that in your life

She was never a friend at all. No loss to the OP apart from her £30 which may never be repaid but what a shitty thing for this woman to do.
I had a similar thing with someone years ago. I lent her some cash and she said I would get it back in a couple of weeks. No sign of her offering it after a month so I asked for my money and she was quite curt and grumpy with me but at least I got my cash back.
Nasty behaviour from someone but they show their true colours so don't deserve respect after that.

I could move past the fact she doesn't pay the money but I don't think I can move past the words.
The "no wonder he doesn't want you"
And "standing there like your it"
Why even say that.

Tell her to shove the £30 up her arse and have no more to do with her.

Horrible woman.

"Grimsby fish wife" as posted by a PP is spot on, I'm actually from Grimsby and am familiar with this type unfortunately.

@Athe

Tbh, I’d still message her - “when can I have my £30 then?”

I'd totally do this too.

You sound lovely OP. No one needs that in their life, especially if she has previous for the shouting and drama. Another vote for ditching her.

Do you know when she's getting paid next? I would message her on that day asking for the money and then I wouldn't have anything more to do with her.

Get your money back if you can then bin her. Tantrums aren’t endearing when children throw them, but at least they grow out of it. She hasn’t, and it’s high time she did.

Ooh! I don't think I could stand by and let her get away with that.

"Keep the £30, buy yourself some some lessons on manners" - probably on Facebook. And then block her on everything. Tell your friends you've finally come to your senses (there's bound to be one or two who have mentioned her shite behaviour before), don't let her get her 'pity me' version of the story out first.

Basically use all her usual methods against her. Bullies and users have no qualms about being public and vocal, it stops most people from sheer embarrassment. Give it a whirl yourself!

She just doesn’t want to give you your £30 back.

She sounds like a dramatic beast. I’ve been friends with people with victim mentality who believe you owe them something. It’s draining. Don’t bother with her anymore. She doesn’t care about you.

She did this as a deflection technique to avoid paying you the money. So insist on the money, as she is probably banking on the fact that you will be too cowed by the scene she created, or too fed up with her to try and get it back. Tet her to insist on repayment, then ditch. Life's too short for histrionics like that.

Sorry, that was Get her to repay.

I'd text her and ask for my money back.

Then leave it at that once paid.

"Hi Leanne, could you transfer the £30 you owe me please. I need it back asap. These are my bank details. Thank you"

I'd ditch her as a friend but would ask again for the money due to the principle of it and you're short this month.

Her outburst is her hoping not to pay and sadly even if you wrote off the debt and still didnt bother with her I doubt she'd miss you. If you I sust on the cash I daresay say she'll say iu broke up a friendship for £30. It happened to a friend of mine in a similar way. The friend tried to blackmail her by saying " I cant believe you're acting like this and ruining a friendship over £50", luckily my friend had wised up to her by then and said " it wasnt the money it was the way you treated me" it was the final straw after several incidents.

Text her you bank details at 4am tomorrow morning asking for the £30 back, then never speak to her again.

I would have ditched her after the first time she dared to treat me like that. You’re too soft. Cut the contact. Don’t lend anyone money unless you can afford to never get it back.

Write the debt off and be clear of that toxic waste , learn the valuable life lesson don't lend money to friends!! Basic