Opinions you have that aren't popular on mumsnet(2)

[Lockdowner35]

As the last thread reached 1000 posts

I will start

Jo Swinson would have do a better job than Boris on Coronavirus

Perhaps you could chosen better wording than 'superior' given that you could already see such phrasing was bothering people?

I hate other people trying to police people's thoughts and conversation. Particularly on a thread about unpopular opinions. Clearly breastfeeding is generally superior as a food, if it's possible to achieve. And I say that as someone who bottle fed. Big deal.

@FoxyTheFox what word should I have used, Big Brother?
Better?
Greater?
Non-inferior?

If grown adults can't handle a bit of semantics then they shouldn't be on an unpopular opinion thread. It's not my job to childminder the sensitivities of people o don't even know exist

Titling a thread "unpopular opinions" doesn't remove the need to act like a decent fucking human being.

@RunningFromInsanity

Flights should have a combined max body weight+luggage allowance.

If I’m only taking up 9stone of the plane weight, and someone else is taking up 14stone, I should be allowed more luggage weight to make up the difference.

hell yes!

I find it so weird that I was attacked for posting information about nutrition in breastmilk and the person who said this wasn't

If you don't want to breastfeed because its icky, or too hard, or bottle fed babies are eaiser, then you need to have a think about whether motherhood is for you.

Which I think is a load of bollocks BTW

Titling a thread "unpopular opinions" doesn't remove the need to act like a decent fucking human being.

Likewise. If you don't like it #bekind to yourself and don't read it. Rather than try and make people behave exactly as you want.

Considering that post was deleted I'd say that what they said really wasn't acceptable. Seriously though, read the room. You could see people were upset by the post so why make it worse with wording like that? When people say its made them feel inferior don't then go on about breastmilk being superior. There's a time and a place, that wasn't it.

I used "formula is damaging" to represent the tenor of many messages on many threads on MN over the years that I have read.

Well could you not lump it in with what I said because that's nothing like what I posted. That's like me saying "well you're obviously saying I'm a smug bitch because that's what MNers before you have said".

I can assure you that I am not "wobbling" or crying, but neither am I your "mate"

You 100% wobbled. You took what I wrote, rewrote it yourself to suit your "stop bein horrible" agenda, and made it about you feeling bad. And I wouldn't be mates with a woman-child anyway so I'll get over that thanks

Anyone who hashtags stuff on a forum or uses phrases like be kind/Karen/snowflake automatically gets ignored as they've indicated they're not worth the discussion.

I apologise @JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows - in this instance you are probably correct in that it was the previous poster who should have received my wrath.

I also agree that these threads are not suited to those of us who can see the complexities of human behaviour and are likely to be offended by blanket statements about issues that may be upsetting for some people. For that reason I shall try to avoid them in future- but it's been a boring day and I'm only human.

It would be nice to think that unpopular opinions didn't have to descend into criticism of parenting choices but I appreciate that this is improbable (or perhaps even impossible).

Anyway- it's certainly been interesting...

Having seen your last post referring to me as a woman-child I retract my apology.
Good day

If you truly cared about the environment you would have a max of 2 kids and you definitely wouldn’t have a dog.

@FoxyTheFox

Considering that post was deleted I'd say that what they said really wasn't acceptable. Seriously though, read the room. You could see people were upset by the post so why make it worse with wording like that? When people say its made them feel inferior don't then go on about breastmilk being superior. There's a time and a place, that wasn't it.

Because that's the best word to use to describe a substance - which is what I was describing, not a person. It's not my fault if someone has read it and thought "Oh that means she thinks I'm an inferior mother". I don't pander to those with bad reading comprehension or those who wilfully twist/change my words thank you.

Anyone who hashtags stuff on a forum or uses phrases like be kind/Karen/snowflake automatically gets ignored as they've indicated they're not worth the discussion

Are you speaking for yourself or taking it upon yourself to speak for every user of every forum.

#controlfreak

Can we get back to the unpopular opinions now?

This is not ao much an opinion (but anything to change from that debate...) as a information I think many on MN need to know.
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@JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows But they aren't facts though. What is the source of that chart you posted? Is it from an organisation like La Leche League? Because they're far from impartial and much of their information isn't based on solid science.
Yes, breast milk is "better"...in the same way that home grown organic veg are better than the ones from Tesco grown in greenhouses. You'll be perfectly fine and healthy eating the latter.
The difference in long-term health in breast fed and FF babies really IS marginal once other factors are adjusted for. Multiple studies have shown that. I guarantee you there's 0 difference between my FF baby and your breastfed one.

@Tollergirl Seriously, ignore these people. I'm sure you're a great mum. Infant feeding is such a small part of parenthood in the long-run. It's laughable there are people who think breastfeeding defines you as a mother.

Yes , pre university I worked in a few different crèches, so , so grim. Nope your 12 month old isn’t “socializing” with the other babies/toddlers there and pre 3 years old its not a good place to be. I just remember a lot of crying for parents all day long and it was all so mechanical as obviously they need to run efficiently so understandable but underpaid staff doing a very hard job is not a good combo no.

My unpopular opinion is that you should speak to people online in the same way you would if they were standing next to you. (I rarely venture on AIBU boards now!)

Nope your 12 month old isn’t “socializing” with the other babies/toddlers there and pre 3 years old its not a good place to be.

No I don't think it is either. My kids went at that age because I had no choice, but I don't think it's great for small children really.

my post was not in reference to the more recent spat a few posts before, just making a general point.

Why don't people seem to know that 'private school' is actually 'public school'?

Because it isn’t.

Actually private and public schools are different. Public schools were originally funded by benefactors like a king and free to students. The biggest ones still have huge bursary funds to cover fees for those with scholarships and some, like St Pauls offer a "needs blind" admissions process. Private schools were just that - privately owned and operated for profit (think Dotheboys Hall or the one Jane Eyre went to) but they now operate as charitable institutions with any profit being ploughed back into the institution. They can usually only afford to offer limited bursaries / scholarships. They charitable status has to be shown by providing "public good" in the form of sharing facilities etc.