One key worker, child should stay home

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Not sure if there has already been a thread but AIBU to think that if only one parent is key worker and other is WFH, child should be staying home as school provision is for key workers who cannot complete their important role if they have to look after child at home, not so that the other parent can continue with work without interruption?

My partner is a key worker, but I don’t consider us eligible as I am home and therefore technically can be with the children.

YABU- if there’s one key worker take that opportunity to send the child in.
YANBU- if there’s another parent at home, child should stay home.

[quote Schoolmummmy]@SueEllenMishke - Nor should you feel guilty. This is exactly what it was intended for. Hope it all goes well for you [/quote]
Thank you

Ok Jesus
Here we ducking go again
I’m a single mother working FT
My kids game all day
What else can I do ?

WFH means you are home

We all know the rules

@SueEllenMishke fair enough. Maybe PP were confused as you said upthread you were the only key worker and were hoping to still get a place at school on that basis.

I cannot do my job and homeschool two children at the same time

No one can , i can’t and you can’t

So let’s just forget this BULLSHIT and pressure
Schools are closed
Kids game and screen all day
We work and pay tax

I don’t mind schools being closed
I get it
But I do mind the constant fucking guilt
I’m a single parent I have to work
We made many so many Job cuts and i survived , earnt money and paid my well needed taxes
But my kids learnt jack shit

bob1234bob On the other hand I know of a key worker with a sah partner (without employment) who are sending their 3 kids to school. Presumably she wants a break.

Omg this gives me the rage, I would need to phone and complain to someone eg school/council or mp if I knew her!!

Persianparadise

Yes , I learnt that some arseholes in our class did this
Raging
I hope the cunts catch Covid
Sorry !!!!

[quote NCstaythefuckathome]@SueEllenMishke fair enough. Maybe PP were confused as you said upthread you were the only key worker and were hoping to still get a place at school on that basis.[/quote]
Yesterday we weren't sure if DH was classed as a critical worker.
UUK and the government confirmed this afternoon that all university staff are classed as critical workers.

Our school actually only requires one parent to be a critical worker.

Non key workers need to stop taking this personally. Yes it's shit for you but in this time of crisis certain peoples jobs are more important to the country and need to be done with their full concentration not whilst they juggle childcare/home school. I'm sorry for anyone struggling but the allowance is there for good reason.

Ramdogs
I’m not taking it personally
But it’s It’s a bitter pill to swallow as a single parent

I work in business , so basically I work 10 hours days
But - I’ve kept people employed
I’ve paid tax
I’ve helped keep the govt provided with tax , mine and my corporations

Yet some random civil servant that my taxes pay for is deemed as more critical than me and their kids get a place

It feels very messed up
I don’t want a place to be clear
But I want fairness
This arbitrary system isn’t fair or right

@Ramdogs - but schools should be making this mandatory for BOTH parents. The number of households taking places, who have one non-key worker, or one SAH..is simply ridiculous. As for some jobs requiring more concentration than others..that’s a hugely bizarre assumption on this. DH doesn’t get paid his six figure salary with permission to park his concentration elsewhere during lockdown. And neither am I?! Yet we have friend’s working in banking or other ‘financial service’ roles, who are deemed by this benchmark to require greater concentration?? The system really is a farce.

I'm a part time teacher and a single mum. For 3 days per week I have to deliver 5.5 hours of lessons each day. I am a key worker but because I can WFH I am not entitled to send my children into school. As it should be - it's gonna be hard, but that's life at the moment. I'd be pissed off if a key worker's DH "couldn't possibly watch the children" (I bet if he was a woman he could) and got a place above my children

Agree , BOTH
And some roles that swing it don’t seem bloody critical to me either
I can’t actually say as it could be so outing
But I can guarantee most would agree !
I need to hide thread as its upsetting me

I think people should do whatever they need to do to cope, as long as the school are happy with it
I agree with this!

It’s so frustrating. Just seen another thread about 75% of the school being in!!!
People exploiting the guidance to the max. This just isn’t how it’s supposed to be. All those ‘well I can do I will’ should be ashamed.

Cant people see that so many kids mixing is NOT going to help the infection rates. Schools have been closed for a reason. Yes WFH is stressful but it's only employers, not schools and teachers (who still have NO protection and no bloody vaccine in sight) who need to make allowances for that. For my work, the Head (who only usually teaches 2 lessons a week) and Bursar (who is a qualified teacher) are covering some lessons for those of us who have children so that we can realistically deliver education to our pupils without burning ourselves out with all our plates spinning.

If you are gonna find it hard WFH speak to your employer

My DH is a key worker this time round having taken up a new job in August. I'm not and I work from home. That means work. It's in my job contract I have appropriate childcare for my children while I am working.
Therefore if as a one key worker household we do not qualify for school / nursery places who quits work to look after the children?! Arrrgh!

@Pinetreesfall neither of you - it may be in your contract but a global pandemic where schools are shut and we can't leave our homes is a valid reason to temporarily nullify that condition. Everyone else has to manage, no one is too special to not have the kids at home while they work if they can adequately WFH - and by adequately, I mean that they can WFH with no security issues or confidentiality issues. For most people, that is not the case.

@JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows - I cannot do my job whilst sensibly supervising a 3 year old and one year old. It is not fair on them nor my employer. I cannot take calls nor undertake technical work without leaving them unsupervised which isn't going to happen. I did not say I was too special to work at home with the children present. I simply cannot do both so something has to give. My job of 11 years and masters degree would of course be sacrificed it's just quite upsetting to have to chuck it all in.

@Pinetreesfall surely your employer is aware of the national lockdown and school closures, you’ve discussed this with them and they are refusing to offer any flexibility in how your role is carried out despite the global pandemic?

@NCstaythefuckathome yes they are obviously aware but I'm not being furloughed due to my role being critical to business continuity.
I have to be able to answer calls during the day when needed so whilst I can do some things at night I simply cannot do a full 8 hour working day commencing at 7.30pm 5x days per week. Something will have to give!

I thought nurseries were still open? And only schools were closed.

@Fucket at the moment but some nurseries have already closed apart from keyworker / vulnerable places. I'm just thinking ahead

They may not shut nurseries. I don’t think the under 5s are driving the spread of this virus.

Teacher here. Just finished work for the day. Not sending DS into school but having him home means I am marking, planning and responding to emails well in to the night. Also loads of his home learning didn't get done today and he struggles at school so it isn't great that he's not keeping up with learning. Next week I am in school with my bubble and kw DH will be live teaching secondary all day. Ds will do bugger all home learning then. Not sending him in as we can keep him at home. Please don't take the piss with kw places. The more we mix the more people will DIE.

@HintOfVintagePink

Reading this thread (and others) with interest. DH is classed as critical worker as senior cyber security officer in international bank. He cannot work from home for security reasons. I also qualify though only on a technicality in my view (justice system). We can take up places for DS and DD from tomorrow if needed, but I am WFH. I cannot do my job and homeschool two children at the same time. My job involves conference calls and cases that the DCs cannot/should not hear and which can’t be disturbed. I will be physically ‘there’ but the likelihood is both will end up on screens for much for my working day. However I still cannot bring myself to take up two KW school places. I really don’t know what to do for the best.

@HintOfVintagePink I also work in justice and am a single parent. My children will be going to school for the reasons you mentioned re: sensitive/ distressing/ confidential nature of the work I do.