How to react to this...

[BurningRed]

Hi MNers, I need your advice...

I uploaded a photo onto social media over the festive season in which I was wearing a skin coloured outfit.

The amount of comments I’ve had to deal with ‘what the hell are you wearing’ ‘how old are you’ publicly and also via DM’s was astonishing (including a message from a close family member basically telling me I am an embarrassment and need to act my age?!)

Outfit was a nude coloured bodycon dress. Nothing was exposed and there was a lack of skin showing.

It’s got me thinking about how best to respond to this. Should I delete these comments and ignore or challenge head on?

I am early 30’s and in good shape just for further info. Not that this should bloody matter.

Why do people think this is acceptable behaviour?

@CrotchBurn

Did this....actually happen?

You know some weird people. I cant see a single person I know commenting let alone a bunch of them

This went through my mind too to be honest......

Posters always write 'jealousy' on these threads. I don't get that. Why would you be? Because a good figure is something anyone can get if they want. So how would you be jealous of a good figure?

@pelosi it was a frigging joke about the fact innocent photos can often look different, pull the rod out of your arse!

@finkking
😂👏👏👏

Clearly others appreciate my sense of humour 😜

Honestly, nude material is not good in photos. My Mum had a nude T-Shirt and every time a photo of her cycles through the camera roll, I do a double take because she looks naked.

The fact that you don't want to post the picture of you and the fact that someone even text you a message about it, tells me that it really didn't look great when photographed.

If you can pull if this dress then go you I say

When I first read your post I wasn’t sure what to imagine but that dress is perfectly decent. Not showing acres of flesh, not skin tight either. Tbh even if it was, that doesn’t give them to the right to air their shitty criticism. I bet you looked very nice. YANBU.

@ElizaLaLa

How can it be nude/purple? Is it one of those that looks nude to some people but purple to others?

I really want to see it 👃

The dress is on page 1. Around the 20th post in

I saw that but op said it was nude/purple, and LIKE the one in the picture.

I'm surprised you had so many negative comments. Whenever any of my friends posts a photo of them all dressed up, whether it's a flattering outfit or something less so, people comment positively. You know some very rude people!

I honestly can’t understand why someone would comment or DM something so negative about how another person looks.

It is odd that so many people did it with this one photo isn’t it!

I’d be tempted to go through the photos of everyone who send me a message/commented and send them some critical comments about one of their photos then ask how they feel about the comment.......though blocking and unfollowing is probably more sensible!

Sorry, to confirm, the photo I posted is the dress I wore. To not identify myself, I posted that one but the dress (and the colour of the models skin) is the same as mine.

@Lougle as above. The dress was flattering - as I said previously, covered boobs/nothing poking out etc.

@MaelyssQ me too, hence the post. Instagram was fine, Facebook was not. I’ve never dealt with this before - I’ve uploaded holiday bikini snaps and had no negativity.

Very strange.

Fuck 'em. I'd be tempted to up the ante and wear this

@thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter

Fuck 'em. I'd be tempted to up the ante and wear this

@thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter

Next NYE I will..

[quote BurningRed]@thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter

Next NYE I will..[/quote]
You know I'm sad enough to set a reminder for this

You literally have the strangest Facebook friends ever.

Most people could post a pic of themselves looking as rough as a badger's arse and the only comments they'll get, are akin to "Gawjuss hun" etc.

Never ever have I seen anyone being slagged off by the people on their friend lists.

I'd put the negative commenters in a group and only select them to see major news posts if you have to keep them as friends for politics sake.
That dress is lovely, it looks like a slip on purpose they are called slip dresses.....
I can't wear nude because I'm too pale and I can't wear slip dresses because I'm too fat...but otherwise I'd wear that to a family party without blushing....and I'm 10 years older than you!

Unless worra, they're not friends at all. Simply numbers, the higher of which means the more popular you are. Or something.

@arethereanyleftatall one was a long term family friend - used to babysit me 25 years ago! Others are former work colleagues and school friends.

Think I need a cull.

The dress is a nude/purple stretchy knee length cotton vest dress. That’s how I’d describe it. The point is, as pp’s have said, it’s not the dress/post as frankly there was nothing wrong with it BUT the rudeness of the comments.

I’ve seen some horrendous ‘pile on’ negativity before on Facebook - one person says something and others pile on and add to it. Just never thought it would happen to me.

Not knocking you or the dress op but how is it nude AND purple? It's one or the other or patterned, no?

If everyone wore clothes that truly were flattering, half of style and beauty would be defunct. Many people think they are wearing flattering things, but they're not. I say this as someone with 0 interest in fashion

@thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter

Fuck 'em. I'd be tempted to up the ante and wear this

@TinySongstress I attach the original dress and something of a similar colour. True nude to me would be skin colour - the dress has some purple in it. It is not the same colour as my skin.

@Lougle I agree. But I’m 180cm and a size 6 so I’m going to go with that I looked fine. Hence the photo was posted and not deleted!

180cm and size 6 means nothing, tbh. Someone who is a size 12 can look stunning in a dress that looks terrible in a size 6 and vice versa.