How to react to this...

[BurningRed]

Hi MNers, I need your advice...

I uploaded a photo onto social media over the festive season in which I was wearing a skin coloured outfit.

The amount of comments I’ve had to deal with ‘what the hell are you wearing’ ‘how old are you’ publicly and also via DM’s was astonishing (including a message from a close family member basically telling me I am an embarrassment and need to act my age?!)

Outfit was a nude coloured bodycon dress. Nothing was exposed and there was a lack of skin showing.

It’s got me thinking about how best to respond to this. Should I delete these comments and ignore or challenge head on?

I am early 30’s and in good shape just for further info. Not that this should bloody matter.

Why do people think this is acceptable behaviour?

It’s a gorgeous dress! Where’s is from please?

Fuck them, they’re just jealous! I’d change it to my profile picture 😂

I've seen plenty of woman wear dresses like that :S so I don't understand the comments. Might just be jealousy if you look good in it

Hi Op
I think its a free Country .!!!
You can wear whatever you like,despite census of Facebook opinions.!!!😁
We are not living in the middle east or something !!!

Even though its definately not something I would wear personally

I am curious on what this outfit looks like as it caused such a furoe on social media

@Namechangedforthisoct2

It’s a gorgeous dress! Where’s is from please?

Fuck them, they’re just jealous! I’d change it to my profile picture 😂

This "New Year New profile pic"

Maybe people thought it was a see through dress rather than flesh toned. I've got a body con dress in nude colour with a black lace overlay and I've had people doing a double take and saying "omg I thought you were naked under that" (the lace bit).

If someone told me I was a disgrace and should act my age I'd laugh at them and tell them if they don't like the view then don't look!

I'd probably think in my head that it looked a bit but I would never say it to you! They're being very rude.

Interestingly, it was only Facebook and via text that attracted the negative comments. Instagram only had positivity.

Sign of the times?!

I just find the whole thing bizarre. Even if I was naked, it doesn’t give anyone the bloody right to comment.

Oh the joys of social media. They are rude but I guess entitled to their opinion.

Unfortunately if you post to social media you kinda have to accept the risk that the responses will be mixed.

None.of that should stop you wearing what the hell you like when you like.

Just don't rely on comments and likes for personal validation because it won't go down that way for a multitude of reasons. None of which are any reflection on you it says nore about them than it does about you!

Ps im 40 fat and pale I can only dream.of looking as nice in.a dress like that as the model wear it!

Absolutely nothing wrong with that dress in my opinion!

I would actually delete their comments and block them though. It's bullying and you're well within your rights not to want them viewing your pictures anymore and posting hurtful comments.

I just find the whole thing bizarre. Even if I was naked, it doesn’t give anyone the bloody right to comment.
Actually it would. I don't want to see naked friends so I would probably say if you could put a warning next time.
Tbh I would unfriend someone posting their naked pics on SM shared with mates

I don’t think skin coloured clothes do anything for anyone. They always make me do a double take as it looks like the person has forgotten to put their pants (or whatever) on. My brother in laws girlfriend is 30 and dresses like an 18 year old with her arse hanging out of everything. It’s not a good look. I do think it’s rude to actually say that to someone though.

This sounds very bizarre. Was there anything else in the photo or were you doing some random pose that elicited the reactions as otherwise I can't see why someone would be saying you are an embarrassment

What were your motives for posting the photo?

I think older people may think it's underwear - my mum would think this was a 'slip'

@SchrodingersImmigrant

That's pretty rude of your friends. Did they not look properly and thought you are naked?

This is what I think happened although no excuse for them being so rude.

I suspect they were shocked and reacted without thinking. Again, no excuse.

You’ve a right to wear what you wish. And no one has the right to comment. I do wonder what your motivation was though in putting the image on social media for everyone to see. I guess it was for attention? You thought it looked sexy? These things are fine, there is nothing wrong with showing off, but you will get both positive and negative comments though if people who know you suspect that’s you’re motivation .

The model is tanned and the dress is not skin tight. Maybe it looked more inappropriate if it was tighter and the same colour as your skin.

Whatever, you habe a right to do it. Uou can post naked images of yourself or images that make you look naked, it’s no ones business.

@KatherineJaneway tbf if the people actually thought it's a naked pic I think it's wxcusable. It's rude to push your nakedness on others without warning.
I don't know ehat else could lead to that reactions tbh

Fuck 'em. Wear what you like. People love a fb pile on, makes them feel better about their own insecurities.

@SchrodingersImmigrant

See I don't think there was any need to say what they did to the OP. I can under stand their shock but I wouldn't have actually said anything.

See I don't think there was any need to say what they did to the OP. I can under stand their shock but I wouldn't have actually said anything

Personally I would not gine an opinion publically to a friend as I thinknthere are better ways but if someone asks you what you think and you don't think it looks nice is lying doing them any favours either?

Personally I think letting someone go out having not told them you can see their underwear through their dress or that they could use a bra or whatever and setting them up to be the joke of someone e else's drunken face book post is far more mean than telling them.

But there's definitely a nicer way to go about it

I would assume that the people who thought you were naked are a bit dumb tbh. Sure, at a glance nude colour outfits can look like you're not wearing any clothes, but surely you would look closer and see actually no, Sarah who I went to school with did not just upload a full body naked pic to social media.

Ignore them OP. I dont understand the age comments either. Put it as your profile picture on all media platforms and make it the cover of your next christmas card, strange people. Who would actually go to the effort of messaging someone abuse over an outfit?

Sorry, cross-posted.

They were probably envious of you having the figure for it.

Clearly jealously OP. And it says a lot more about them than it does you. I know it's hard but try not to let it affect you.

It's the shitty world we live in and the likes of the Daily Fail that makes people think it's ok to constantly critique and criticise women's appearances.

Who cares even if you were naked? Haven't they got more important things to get worked up about?

I would completely ignore them. Don't give them any of the attention they're seeking or let them know that their comments mean anything to you.