To put a note through their door anonymously?

[studychick81]

We live in quite a built up area and have houses around the side and back of us so I am used to noise and know it's to be expected when you choose to live in a semi detached house. I am not one for making complaints about things.

However, the neighbours at the back of us have obviously just got a puppy during lockdown or Christmas and I am becoming increasingly frustrated with what I consider to be very inconsiderate behaviour. I wondered if others would think this is inconsiderate?

Whenever they let their dog in the garden it barks and barks with no attempt from them to correct it/call the dog inside. This is mildly irritating during the day but not too much of a problem. It's when they let it out about 10pm that I find it very inconsiderate. I ve been really tired recently and try to go to bed early to get extra sleep, I am just drifting off around 10pm only to be woken up by the dog barking. I then find it hard to drift back off and can't for some time so there goes my early night! The same in the morning, I am trying to have a nice lie in and the dog starts barking about 7.15 most mornings. I think 10pm is far too late to let your dog out and allow it to bark for a period of time, fortunately it doesn't wake the dcs but bet it does some other peoples. I just want to be able to have an early night sometimes without listening to that.

I am not good with confrontation so was thinking I would just post a polite letter through their door. I know it's tricky to stop a dog barking but they don't seem to make any effort, I don't think they go out with the dog and make no effort to call it back for try to calm it down.

@Wheresmykimchi
it's absolutely nothing like letting your children out , unless they pee in the garden

Not sure why you needed to direct that to me as it's not what I said 🤔

Bizarre.

Earplugs are marvellous if you like like to sleep at times others are still up living . 10pm is last wee 7 am is first wee and im afraid dogs bark

Dogs bark - move on

My dog barks when he’s first let out in the garden, it’s like 5 seconds, but it’s really annoying.
His is not let out by himself after 7/8pm, he gets put on a lead. Next door have younger kids. Same for weekend mornings.

You could phrase it with some helpful hints about dog training

Be a grown up & go and speak to them for goodness sake.

Hi - I couldn’t believe your post as I could have written the same word for word. I was especially uptight as I’m deaf so was escorting dog out to ensure it didn’t run around barking. I felt vulnerable when I got a notification from Council. Likewise, I was cleared. My Mother made calls to Council on my behalf and lady at Council said I shouldn’t worry as dogs do bark but I was evidently doing my best to ensure dog wasn’t barking in anti social hours. Thanks for your post. It helped me. Best wishes, Rosie

They r training the dog. Same has when u train a child to stop throwing strops, u ignore them. This is why I’m moving from a built up area, too many judgemental arsey people

This would drive me nuts! I have 4 dogs and have NEVER in 20 years of being a dog owner allowed my dog to bark outside especially at those times. Anyone who thinks this is ok is crazy! We have a 10 week old puppy. I go outside with her still atm to prevent this!

@toomanypillows this happened to me too. I was so upset because whilst he barks when someone walks by the back of the house he isn't out a lot yet they went out of their way to report it. I then started recording when anyone else's dog barked to show the environment people. They actually said it's not up to me to prove its not my dog it's up to the complainer to prove it. I eventually found out who it was and they apologised said they jumped the gun because it was time of the month and she was feeling angry 😬🙄

Op- unless it's for a long time every night /morning get some ear plugs , it's a puppy.

Buy a bark stopper from Amazon for about 35 dollars. Don't get the egg shaped but get the bird house shaped one. It eats batteries but is worth it. Put it near your back fence and turn it on and the barking stops. I live in a condo and people next door bought huge dog with a very loud bark that went on all day. I bought the bark stopper and turned it one and the barking stopped. Every so often he would bark to see if it was still on. My friend was being evicted because of her large barking dog and I gave her one. Now eviction has stopped. Good luck.

If you know of anyone local who is experienced with dogs but has lost their job, contact them and tell them a puppy trainer is needed by your neighbours. It could be an opportunity to make new friends and do a good turn.

Why take the passive aggressive anonymous note approach? Why not actually speak to your neighbour instead of moaning on here?

Puppies need to be let out early in the morning. We used to let out 2 out at 6.30am when they were tiny puppies. It is only for 5 minutes. 7.15am seems very reasonable to me. 10pm is s normal time to let a puppy out before bed for a wee. Again 5 minutes. When our 2 were pups they went out at 2am too for a couple of weeks until they learned to hold their wee for longer. From 4 months they dropped the 2am wee. Now they can now hold from 9pm at night until 7.30am as they get older they can hold their wee longer like a baby. Are dogs barking for 4-5 mins or for half an hour each time. You just need to comment to the owners that they have woken you up a few times. Are owners stood just inside door watching the puppy or inside with door closed? Try to remember some babies cry for hours on end but eventually grow out of it. Puppies are like babies. They too will grow out of the barking. Until they have had vaccinations they can't be taken out for a walk. Once they can walk on leads outside or era will probably take them on early and late walk. I actually think it is quite rude to send annonomous notes. Far better to have a quiet word with owners.

OP. You say in a PP that you’re not even certain which house it’s coming from? I lost all respect for your complaint at that point!

You could, if the noise continues, have a word with the local council. We had neighbours who left their dogs out virtually all day and night. They barked almost non stop, at passersby and any animals eg foxes, day and night. The neighbour next to them simply went to the council and asked what if anything could be done. A council official immediately went round for a word and the dogs soon disappeared! Never saw the dogs walked. The council will not say who complained but is the noise really that bad?.

@studychick81 Have you considered foam earplugs? I know it doesn't solve the problem, but at least it would help you get to sleep..

@Undies1990

I don't think 10pm or 7am are unreasonable times to let the dog out for a wee. I can understand how annoying a barking dog can be but what do you want to achieve by sending an anonymous note?

In the meantime, I'd get some earplugs and use them!

I agree. How long is the dog barking for? At least it’s not constant. 10pm is the dog’s last wee and 7am is the morning wee. The owners probably wake up at that time to take the dog out and then get ready for work. The majority of adults aren’t asleep 9pm-9am.

Lets just hope it's not just one of those Have a puppy for Christmas or Lock down dogs. The people with the puppy must be aware that yapping is very annoying for neighbours. I don't suppose putting a note through their door will do much, they have perhaps had complaints already. One can only hope, that they know about puppy training, but depends what kind of people they are.

One of my two can be a barker, she throws her head back and starts barking at nothing 😳 I hate it and get her in straight away!! As a dog owner I let mine out early and about 10pm at night but won’t stand for them barking at anytime. I agree that 10pm is too late for barking dogs.

We have the same issue as you OP. I didn't say anything for ages then just saw red and absolutely lost my rag. I shouted over the fence "Can you please stop your dog from barking all the time, it's driving me insane". They didn't respond and things didn't improve.

We were sitting in the garden one evening in the summer, having a glass of wine and it just wouldn't shut up. DH then lost his rag and shouted over "Can you shut that fucking dog up!" Neighbour said "it's what dogs do And what are you doing in your garden at this time of night?" It was 10 pm FFS.

I think you'll find that a lot of dog owners think that it's perfectly reasonable for their dog to disturb everyone by barking because "it's what dogs do". Well it isn't ok, it's selfish and anti-social.

I too get woken up early in the morning and late at night with its barking. I'm getting to the point now where I actually hate dogs because of this.

Cheeks burning as I read this one and praying it isn’t me!! Our dog never used to bark, but since foxes have moved into the area, he barks REALLY loud at last wee ( about 10 pm) and sometimes in the morning (6.45) as well. We always call him back in, but acutely aware there are children nearby and me shouting just adds to the annoyance- so I usually end up hissing : “ come HERE; IN!!” It lasts 1-2 mins and I am mortified ( only sporadically) but not sure of alternative as dog won’t do business on pavements and nearest park a good 10 mins away. Please don’t hate me!!!

Would you do the same if it was a newborn baby crying?

Erghhh drip drip drip 🙄

It’s a puppy, they are obviously trying to toilet train by letting out last thing at night and early morning. If it is impacting your life so very much then go round and speak to them like an adult instead of posting a childish anonymous note through the door.

But letting your dog out at 10pm and 7am isn't unreasonable, as most people sleep between those times.

Don't send an anonymous note, they always come across as rude. Just drop in and ask if they can bring it forward to 9.30pm and back to 7.30am till the puppy gets trained properly.