Ex didn't message the day of funeral ..aibu to be upset?

[maxxyboy]

My ex and I broke up in January but remained friends.
Spoke all the time and still got on well.
He was a prick sometimes but I just looked past it.
My grandma died in December and she brought me up and was a mum to me.
Anyway he said he was sorry etc then started being a bit nasty to me.
Anyway we had a argument two days before funeral.
The day after I apologised and said I was under a lot of pressure and was upset and felt like my world was falling apart (I wasn't even in the wrong but I always apologise to him as he never does )
Anyway he read it and no reply.
The day of her funeral arrived and no message.
I text after the funeral saying "that was so hard,I really don't know what to do now"
He read it and ignored
Never spoke since
Aibu to be hurt ?

I get it, you supported him through a Jon loss because he had been a massive part of your life and you cared for him.
It must be horrible that he hasn’t done the same, you deserve better. I agree with pp move on.
Sorry for your loss.

He doesn’t give a shite about you.

Move on.

He's your ex. Stop it.

Why were you doing all of that for him when he lost his job? Did he ask you for help or did you just take on the girlfriend role and start doing it? My guess is the latter. You're clinging onto him; he is not interested. Move on, stop trying to put yourself into the supportive girlfriend role and stop with the "please dont be angry even though I've done nothing wrong" apologies. He is your ex.

He isn’t someone you should be in contact with every day. I wouldn’t be staying in contact with him at all, to be frank. Of course he seemed engaged in maintaining a friendship when you were helping him get a job; it was about HIM. Now you’re the one who needs something, he’s nowhere to be seen.

Don’t think of it as losing someone who has been an important part of your life. Think of it as recognising he is no longer important, and that his absence creates space for someone or something that is.

He has moved on now. Sorry.

I'd bet my bottom dollar that he hasn't. He just doesn't want anything from you at the moment.

When he does, he will get back in touch and feed you tidbits of the person you had those lovely conversations with to reel you in. He will then use you and drop you once he's had what he wanted.

You need to do more than stop contacting him and move on. You need to block him in every way possible and be determined not to get sucked back in when he decides he wants something again.

YABU to expect anyhing but shit from such a horrible man.

Sorry for your loss

Hi Op
Sorry about your recent loss of your Gran

Your ex is an ex for a bloody good reason..
Make it one of your New Years Resolutions
To stop getting in touch with your ex..
He is no friend.!
He is No good for you,
And sounds like he never was really !
(You need to explore why you are so Needy /insecure that you settle for the little crumbs of comfort he gives you,
He only seems to want to continue this , so he gets lions share of taking advantage of your kindness
He is Just one of Life User'

Find out which therapies,theories to see which ones will beneficial for you..
xxx

He’s your ex. You need to move on.

@WhereverIGoddamnLike no he messaged me with the job application and asked what he should write,as he is useless with things like this.

You need to wake up and see him for what he is. He only messages you when he needs fussing over, when he needs sympathy or support but he doesn’t want to support you when your having a tough time? All he cares about is himself. Why are you still in contact with this prick? Stop contacting him and move on, you can’t be friends with a narcissist ex, and a narcissist never changes their behaviour.

Sorry about the loss of your grandma, OP.

It sounds as if you've not really got over your ex and that you still rely on him for emotional support? I think you need to look elsewhere for it and perhaps not contact him for a while. I can understand you don't want to lose him in your life as a friend but it seems to me that you're not ready to move on to that stage yet?

Why are you giving so much of yourself to someone who quite clearly doesn’t care about you? It really is time to move on. Sorry for your loss OP but hope you find support from people who have your back, not a toxic Ex.

He obviously doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about him.

Cut contact and move on, it's for the best. Sorry about your grandma.

He’s your ex not your friend. If he started being nasty and then cut off contact then in all likelihood he’s met someone else.

[quote maxxyboy]@diddl I just don't like to loose people from my life who have been important to me.
I wanted him in my life still [/quote]
Learn from this that you will never need this prick in your life again, and make sure you block all contact with him.

@ChronicallyCurious he's a player,there is always other people.

Sorry for you loss.
New year, new start, forget about him, block him on everything. He’s not your friend.

He’s using the fuck clean out of you.

Sorry about your grandma, but you need to find your support from elsewhere. You shouldn't be relying on an ex for it.

I don’t imagine he would have been any support to you even if he wasn’t your ex. Some people really don’t do emotional support.

He’s not good for you. You might be lovely and useful to him but that’s a very one sided sort of friendship. Please delete him and stop looking at whether he’s online.

His silence is your answer.

Sorry about your Grandma. Tell us about her if that helps?

YABU expecting him to change, and also to keep behaving as you want him to behave.

Move on, OP. You can't keep control over everyone, especially exes.

He clearly does not care about you. Just move on and cut him out. Make new friends who are more caring and sorry about your Grandma.

He’s a taker, not a giver, sorry OP. And sorry for your loss