To hate my DH

[Whatsalot897]

He isn’t a bad person and will do anything for me and spoils me but he just isn’t the person I fell in love with and I feel myself shudder when he touches me. He has put on 25kg in 2 years, insists on having his kids here 50/50 but when they are does nothing with them ever and makes excuses to pop out for hours leaving them with me- doesn’t contribute towards the additional food etc I am expected to cover it all.
Is lazy and spends hours playing either computer games or games with my kids on devices then do 10 mins of cleaning and say he has helped.
But would it be unreasonable to tolerate it for the next 9 months and I am in a position financially to leave to him but we on count down until then

Well done - you're not available, and even if you were he should have asked first!

Well done OP!

Are you in the UK?

How did he take it?

Good work op

He did the exact same thing as every time I say there is an issue- cried and played the victim. He slept on the sofa last night and for the first time in weeks I slept properly it felt like a weight has been lift from my shoulder, he is sat around the house this morning but my kids are sat with him so will be waiting till they are out of ear shot or back at school tomorrow to ask when he will be moving out as this is not a suitable environment for my kids to be in

Well done whatsalot, well done.

He's going to pull every trick in the book to stay, you know that don't you? There'll be tears, anger, pleading, excuses galore (nowhere to go - not your problem; need to save for deposit - not your problem; new place not ready yet - not your problem; etc etc etc); he might even resort to telling your kids and getting them to beg you on his behalf. You need to move him out asap else it'll drag on for months/years and you'll be so used to it you'll forget he was leaving.... I've seen it happen.

Good luck getting rid of such a loser.

I am absolutely flabbergasted !! What a cheek of a man. Glad you’re getting rid of such a lazy-assed piece of work. You sound very independent - brilliant and good luck with all your studies.

So glad you’re done with him. Is he going to move out? What happens when the children come round, will you be at home? Could you WFH somewhere else so they don’t dump the kids on you?

Well done, is the house yours? Good luck

Harden up in your response to him.
Once he sees that the tears and guilt trips don’t work, he will make his move.
It may be anger and digging in his heels or acceptance and move on.
Good luck

How are you getting on OP?
Been thinking about you with the recent lockdown.

Just caught up on this, well done OP! Hope you have continued to make progress

You are unreasonable to hate your DH, but you are not unreasonable to hate living with him.

How have things been the last few days OP?

Good on you OP 🌺

Yanbu for falling out of love with him, but I voted YABU for dragging it out any longer, just leave him and get it over with

@Whatsalot897 - how are things?

Make plans and go. Or line those ducks up for shooting, then go.