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To really hate the loud, selfish celebrations & fireworks people have outside on NYE?

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LdnMum94 · 01/01/2021 00:12

I'm laid in bed exhausted and pissed off.

My autistic three year old has been woken three times in the run up to midnight, by endless fireworks exploding outside our house, so loud and close that they terrified him out of a deep sleep. By the third time he was woken he was so distressed he was smashing his head on the floor Sad

In between the hundreds of bangs coming from all angles there are drunk people screaming "happy new year!" and "woohoooooo!" that can be heard in here as clear as day, as though they think it's welcome, or simply don't care.

Not everybody is seeing in the new year by getting drunk, and not all of those who are having a drink feel the need to take their fanfare into the street, giving not one shit about elderly/vulnerable neighbours or people who have to be up for work.

Do you think I'm being unreasonable?

OP posts:
Meowmeow20202 · 01/01/2021 03:13

Yabu and i have a autistic son whos awake due to the fireworks and a ferry horn?!? people are just having fun.

garlictwist · 01/01/2021 03:19

I think yabu. It's unfortunate your son is upset but fireworks and New Year's Eve are a joyful tradition for many people.

AlwaysLatte · 01/01/2021 03:24

I don't think it's necessary to be loud and antisocial by shouting outside at any time, to be honest so YANBU. Also, fireworks are for November 5th! Nothing wrong with having a good time - just don't wake up the street doing it.

squeekums · 01/01/2021 03:49

@LdnMum94

People who have voted YABU, please elaborate.
its one night People are allowed to let their hair down from time to time

I dont get the "im in bed by 10 so all should be or be silent" logic

PreRaphaeliteMotherhood · 01/01/2021 03:57

I’m sorry your DC has had a rough night OP. However it is new year and it really is to be expected. (And I say this as someone who was asleep by 10pm!)

doasitell · 01/01/2021 04:12

I think this year I've noticed more people doing it maybe because most have had to spend NYE at home. The fireworks started at around 11.30pm and went on until 1am where I live which is near central London. I totally understand as it's not ideal and I have a toddler as well that woke up several times but 1-2 hours once a year is fine and people have had such a shit year that they kind of felt so excited about leaving 2020 behind is understandable. I'm sorry about your dc and hopefully next year we would be back to normal and more people will be too busy partying than staying at home lighting fireworks. Happy New Year to you all and I really hope this Covid just pisses off asap.

JamieLeesCurtains · 01/01/2021 05:00

It's not the fireworks per se, it's the type of fireworks.

TheOneLeggedJockey · 01/01/2021 05:38

It sounds completely shit, OP - sending sympathy Flowers

I get that you’re venting, because you know full well it’s NYE and people are going to celebrate and be noisy, especially at the end of this year - but sometimes I wonder if MN is the best place to do that.

I bet you feel even worse after this thread.

Takethereigns · 01/01/2021 05:44

@DipanKrispanEven

Struggling with the headache, nausea and brain fog of coronavirus, I must say I have difficulty in feeling goodwill to people celebrating noisily. Consideration needs to be given to a ban on noisy fireworks after, say, 11 pm at the latest.
Not read the full thread yet but just want to point out there already is a ban on fireworks after 11pm, with a few exceptions ( new year being one of those)
To really hate the loud, selfish celebrations & fireworks people have outside on NYE?
lovelemoncurd · 01/01/2021 06:04

There's many people celebrating that have gone through terrible times this year. Lost loved ones, lost jobs, lost friends. I personally don't like fireworks because of my dog but I was happy to hear people being happy.

Perhaps you feel bitter and angry and need to talk to someone op.

KatherineJaneway · 01/01/2021 06:12

I am sorry your ds was distressed but YABU. Agree with it or not, on NYE fireworks are expected, especially this year. They do go on all evening now when they never did before.

Swaddlemeinplants · 01/01/2021 06:30

I’m with you OP.
We had fireworks here from 11.40pm to 1.30am ish.
The noise was absolutely deafening and constant, so much so that the vibrations set off our alarms.
None of my three children could sleep, my dog, who is normally alright with fireworks was terrified.
I am absolutely exhausted and really pissed off.
They are so anti social on every level and considering how busy the NHS are at the moment I naively did think people might use some common sense and not be so bloody irresponsible as to be buying fireworks, which injure people every year without fail.

Anycrispsleft · 01/01/2021 07:48

I just don't understand people. When I was young I did Hogmanay big time, but that was out at whatever street party there was going on - Princes Street in Edinburgh, or at the Embankment in London. There's very few people actually living on those streets and so you don't actually disturb many folk who are trying to sleep. I went home quietly and tried not to wake my neighbours. I'd have been embarrassed and ashamed if I'd managed to wake up a neighbour's child. It's just a night out at the end of the day, and when I came in from dancing I'd sleep for about 8 hours straight, nobody interrupted me, so why would I think it was all right to interrupt other people's sleep, particularly the sleep of children (who need it more) and parents (who don't get enougb)?

Celticdawn5 · 01/01/2021 07:56

I don’t think you are being unreasonable.

It’s not once a year either, although much worse on NYE especially where I live.

I get enraged by it all and the lack of consideration of others.

Dee1975 · 01/01/2021 08:04

It’s one night and it’s expected. I was woken in the night too. But it’s just one of those things. So yes you are being unreasonable. People have been letting off fireworks on NYE long before you had children.

Ineedaduvetday · 01/01/2021 08:04

We had fireworks here from 11.40pm to 1.30am ish.

We had fireworks from about 8pm here but they did finish before 1am.

lyinginthegutterstaringatstars · 01/01/2021 08:13

It's once a year so yabu. I do understand why you are upset though, I also have a dc who has autism.

lazyarse123 · 01/01/2021 08:18

@MyBossIsATwat

Also laying in bed exhausted and pissed off.

They people doing it are selfish cunts. I thought that before I had a kid too.

Solidarity.

That was me too. Round here they started at 4.30, it wasn't even dark. I could stand it if it was just at midnight but no it's been constant.
Sunshinedrops85 · 01/01/2021 08:25

YANBU. They started at 6.30pm where I am. Still going on for three more hours when I called it a night. Then the people upstairs decided to start their party.

JillofTrades · 01/01/2021 08:26

I do have sympathy for your little one. I think that this is an issue that's going to be around forever though, so it's really up to you to plan ahead. Where I am there was a massive drive to not light fireworks this year, but instead a candle for all those who lost their lives. Im so glad most people followed through. I didn't really hear any noise last night.

GrumpyMiddleAgedWoman · 01/01/2021 08:36

I had to get twice to settle the dogs (at 12 and 12.30) and then was up at 5.25 for the day. But it was NYE, as PP have said it's been a crap year, let people have some fun. I only get narky when it's ultra-loud and still going at 1a.m. on a residential street.

catpoooffender · 01/01/2021 08:37

I can understand people wanting to have fun on NYE. What I can't understand is people who live in residential areas thinking 'let's get in a shit load of the noisiest fireworks ever and set them off at midnight' regardless of what day it is. Pop open some bubbly and dance around your living room. Do the conga around your garden. Pull party poppers. Don't go into the garden and reenact the blitz in the middle of the night just because you want to let loose.

TurquoiseDress · 01/01/2021 08:43

I loved looking out of the window last night and the endless fireworks in our local area (suburban SE London)

NYE is just one night, 2020 has been miserable, I'd say it's ok for fireworks & noise on this occasion!

TurquoiseDress · 01/01/2021 08:46

I do sympathise with your LO being woken up and you being upset, that can be so frustrating when external noise wakes young children

But on balance, it's one night of the year so YABU

Seraphinesupport · 01/01/2021 09:00

I'm with you OP.. I'm sat here shattered ... My 2 year old and 1 year old were kept up all night and they are very emotional and tired today. Although doesn't help that my 1 year old had vaccines yesterday so is also Ill :(

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