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What are your positives this year ?!

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Whattheactual20201 · 31/12/2020 21:28

It’s been a hard year, I have been out of work most of it due to lockdowns and DD7 having to shield ( post heart transplant )
I did give birth to a beautiful unexpected daughter ( knew I was pregnant for less than a month ) she is now home and beautiful addition to our family ( DS13 and DD7 )
I have just decided to put our house up on the market for a bigger place ( 3 bed to 4 )
I enjoyed having some time off work and spending some time with the kids which isn’t often something I get to do.
Hope everyone has a lovely new year well as much as possible ❤️

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Hollybutnoivy · 31/12/2020 21:29

Wow! Congratulations on your surprise baby.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 31/12/2020 21:31

Surprise baby, can't top that with my jar of memories 😂

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Whattheactual20201 · 31/12/2020 21:32

It’s so odd despite having absolutely no time to plan she seems to have slotted straight in like she’s always been here 🤣

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CoRhona · 31/12/2020 21:34

Baby news is lovely!

Best friend got a dog she adores; weather during the summer was gorgeous; family got on better that I'd ever have imagined; er...er...

Congratulations again on your baby Bear

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 31/12/2020 21:35

DD2 for me too- also am able to take a longer mat leave thanks to wfh and not taking any annual leave this yr- I’m grateful for that.

CakeRequired · 31/12/2020 21:41

Congratulations Flowers

I don't really have any to be honest. This year has just been a bit boring I guess. Nothing special has happened, but thankfully nothing awful either, been very lucky that no one in my family has died from covid. Just been a dull year, but guess that's good in a way considering how shit its been for some. Guess that's the positivity, that nothing major has happened.

TheIrishRover · 31/12/2020 21:42

My rather embarrassing surprise this year is that actually i CAN cope with my 3 dcs. I had terrible PND since i had my first dc and many years of anxiety and just not feeling like a good parent followed. If someone had ever told me I'd have had to somehow deal with them from morning until night every single day from March to September I would have run for the hills and then run for hills behind the hills. But apparently i could cope. Who knew?!

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Whattheactual20201 · 31/12/2020 22:09

@TheIrishRover ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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Crankley · 31/12/2020 22:11

Brexit, I'm hitting the bubbly shortly.

OoohTheStatsDontLie · 31/12/2020 22:14

Lockdown has had some positives and I know I've been lucky -
My health has been ok (last year was bad) and I think no commuting has helped with this
My husband normally travels a lot but this year he has been around
I've been able to watch my just turned 3 year old learn to talk in short then long then full sentences and learn how to use the toilet and turn from a toddler into a little girl, normally we are so busy but we have spent lots of time just pottering this year and it's been nice

ShipshapeShore · 31/12/2020 22:14

I started my dream job in January. I love it and I'm good at it! I had no confidence after being a SAHM for a decade but now I feel like a different person.

PurpleBirch · 31/12/2020 22:16

Just lots of lovely family time, enjoying my teens when in other times they’d be out with friends and we’d barely see them. They’re fab company as it turns out!

stclair · 31/12/2020 22:18

Chatting with dds - they’ve seen much more of their dad this year than ever before as he used to always be at work!

GalOopNorth · 31/12/2020 22:21

Congratulations on your baby 👶
This year I gave up alcohol completely and took up swimming in the sea every day. Haven’t lost any weight but I feel amazing!

Indoctro · 31/12/2020 22:23

Lots of walking , running and cycling with my kids who are 4 and 6. And my husband when he was home from work also .

I enjoyed that part of lockdown

arethereanyleftatall · 31/12/2020 22:24
  1. Got divorced!🙌🏻 (was loads of work doing consent orders so so lucky to have the time to do it)
  2. My girls have become so much more independent and their 'life skills' massively up, because we've had time
  3. Totally explored the beautiful countryside that surrounds us
  4. Sold my house (again, another massive amount of work which would be hard to fit in ordinarily)
  5. Had time to properly put my girls to bed every single night this year
  6. Made the decision to stop doing so many blooming extra curricular - they can run, walk, cycle, all free
elldog6 · 31/12/2020 22:24

Got married end of Feb and 1st lockdown only started a few days after we got back from Honeymoon.

Also got pregnant in October so I've loved 2020 Grin

joystir59 · 31/12/2020 22:25

Learnt that I'm part of an awesome supportive community.

arethereanyleftatall · 31/12/2020 22:25

Oooh

  1. Lost 8kg cos found a diet that's compatible with lockdown life - 16, 8
cactusdog · 31/12/2020 22:25

A new (non surprise) baby! My little silver lining.

Congratulations on yours x

formerbabe · 31/12/2020 22:26

I have a new niece, I had a holiday, dh got a new job

drspouse · 31/12/2020 22:28

DS now reads to himself and is a whizz at maths (he did about a year's worth over lockdown).
DD is really sweet (most of the time) and has got really into making Lego.
I was nominated for an award at work (didn't get it but the nomination was a big deal).
DH had numerous biopsies, all negative.
And we are all on first name terms with the cygnets.

thenewaveragebear1983 · 31/12/2020 22:29

I ran 1000 miles and climbed/ran twice the height of Everest
I did 2 big charity drives for food banks and other charity work
I got a new job in lockdown which I love
I gave up sugar, dairy and grains for 5 months (had a few days off over Xmas but restarting tomorrow!)
I feel like I have consolidated my identity a bit this year, grown into my skin a bit, found myself maybe. I feel happier in my own skin than I ever have in my life. Maybe from less interaction and pressure to do stuff?
I also know who is worth my attention when we can resume normal life again and who isn't worth bothering with and that's very empowering.

I know I have been very lucky this year to have a happy home life and our health and I don't think I'll ever take that for granted again Thanks

Forgetaboutme · 31/12/2020 22:30

Only positive I can think of is that we saved a lot of money due to not commuting and kids clubs all being cancelled. But spent a lot of money on useless crap too to pass the boredom Hmm

AngryFeminist · 31/12/2020 22:30

Separated from my son's dad and managed to stay friends and coparents, culminating in a genuinely lovely and healing Christmas break with a better family dynamic than we ever had while trying to make it work as a couple. Ironically I'm not sure we would have roken up or made it work without lockdown forcing us to face our issues and find a way through.

Watched son get really into all the classic books and films I loved as a kid and getting to bond over them.