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Neighbours having a gathering for 20 people tonight!

351 replies

fluffy71 · 31/12/2020 19:48

We live on a private drive tucked away with 5 houses. Our neighbours (very sociable, always breaking Covid rules) invited us neighbours out earlier for a socially distanced drink round a fire pit on his drive, spilling over to ours. Didn’t fancy it tbh. Glad I didn’t cause he’s obviously invited loads of his friends too! So fed up of this now! Selfish people making it worse for everyone else! I wouldn’t mind but he’s always moaning about covidiots on Facebook.

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1forAll74 · 01/01/2021 03:24

My local area police department said this week, that they wanted people to report gatherings of this kind.

Frownette · 01/01/2021 07:14

So, @fluffy71, did you report?

Emeeno1 · 01/01/2021 07:37

After reading this thread the conclusion can only be that we deserve the dystopian future we are building for our offspring.

Do you honestly believe that we can ever even return to where we were 12 months ago? People have clearly changed into censorious, credulous beings scared by the reality of death into all sorts of condemnatory behaviour.

We can beat this pandemic without turning on each other with such glee.

LakieLady · 01/01/2021 07:44

@Yoshinori

Good for them ! We’re having a party of around 20 people as well and I dare anyone to challenge. We know we don’t have covid.
Ffs. And do you know that none of your guests have it? Have you all been tested in the last few days and got negative results?

Not everyone who gets infected gets symptoms, and even people who later develop symptoms can be in the incubation phase and don't show them yet.

I hope someone reported you.

LadyPenelope68 · 01/01/2021 07:47

Absolutely report them, no hesitation.

AIMD · 01/01/2021 07:50

I wouldn’t be bothered about this if it was them and a few friends outside around a fire pit. Having loads of people round is just plain silly though.

I would have considered reporting to 101 (I’d never call 999 for that).

LakieLady · 01/01/2021 07:52

Clearly some people enjoy leading a low quality of life and get mad when other people want to enjoy LIVING !

No, we want everyone to enjoy living, for as long as possible. People who have parties etc don't give a shit about anyone else that might get Covid as a result, or those who aren't getting essential treatment for non-Covid health problems because the NHS is struggling to cope with Covid cases, or how much longer restrictions will have to stay in place because a few selfish arseholes are breaking them and contributing to the spread of the virus which makes longer and stricter restrictions inevitable.

The end is nearly in sight, just hang on a few more months, for fuck's sake.

LakieLady · 01/01/2021 08:08

@Anotherpointofview1

And the evidence of asymptotic spread is fuck all. So yes I hope all those people at the party do have a great time. Wine
Oh good, I'll tell that to my boss, who was very nearly hospitalised after catching Covid from her asymptomatic 8 year old daughter a month after the kids went back to school in September.

She was shielding, and her police officer husband had been staying with family to prevent her becoming ill, so there's no doubt of the source of her infection.

Verrucapepper · 01/01/2021 08:34

What a pointless thread. Moan moan, didn’t do anything about it.

LakieLady · 01/01/2021 08:41

It's thanks to selfish arseholes who think that somehow their "fun" is more important than other people's health and lives that we're now seeing things like this

www.theguardian.com/world/2020/dec/31/london-hospital-uclh-warns-on-track-become-covid-only

And the doctor in this piece sums it up wonderfully imo

www.theguardian.com/world/2020/dec/31/london-hospital-uclh-warns-on-track-become-covid-only

So there you go, you selfish, non-compliant fuckers. This is what your anti-social irresponsibility leads to.

Wannabangbang · 01/01/2021 08:55

Looking at the fact Op hasn't commented for some time i can only assume she didn't ring the police. What a waste of a thread......

Lifeispassingby · 01/01/2021 09:04

@Anotherpointofview1 but it’s not strictly asymptomatic spread if it’s the infectious period prior to getting symptoms?? No one knows if they will wake up tomorrow with symptoms who is spreading it today because they don’t have symptoms

EmmanuelleMakro · 01/01/2021 09:07

YABU to post this curtain-twitching shite outside the Coronavirus topic, where all those with polished haloes should be quarantined. Xmas Grin

TibetanTerrier · 01/01/2021 10:12

@User158340

fluffy71

Yeah all other neighbours were going. So only us not attending. My dads 87 and not had the jab yet so don’t want to risk it. Think I’ll just ignore it. They’ll suspect it’s me if they get nabbed.

You have a responsibility to report them. 1000 dead today.

She's too gutless to report them. Just a keyboard warrior who whines here but does nothing to stop those who are harming people in case they guess it was her. Pathetic.

madcatladyforever · 01/01/2021 10:13

I'd have rung the police.

jacks11 · 01/01/2021 10:20

I am astounded at the number of people who just don’t give a toss about anything other than their own wants. We know that mixing is the main source of transmission and we are dealing with a very virulent virus. It is impacting on our ability to manage anything non-covid. I would be very seriously concerned about becoming seriously unwell with ANY illness or injury just now. Why do people find that so hard to understand?

The selfishness is unbelievable! You cannot know you don’t have covid- unless you have had a negative test and isolated since the test was done until you get the result. Once you come into contact with others again you cannot know if you are still negative. Yes, most people who get it will be ok. So ,YOU might be fine. That’s all that matters, right? If the only person who would be affected by choosing to follow the rules or not, then I’d say it’s fine to just take your chances. But that’s not the case, is it?! You can infect other people, what about them. They may become very unwell, even die. All so you can have a party/nice Christmas lunch/laugh with your friends and family. I find that utterly, completely selfish. Especially if the people who you come into contact with are not those who are also just doing whatever the feel like- in which case they’ve made the choice to take their chances- but people doing their jobs etc. Your choice to take risks could cost them dearly. I view it as having blood on your hands. Of course, many people will never know they did this and will think they did no harm. Truthfully, we’ll never know if you did cause harm or not, in the majority of cases. But is having a party really worth someone else health, possibly even their life?

I’ve just come back from my night shift working in the ICU/HDU. We have needed to open up a second HDU (so less beds for patients with other things), expanded ICU to our absolute capacity both in terms of physical room/equipment but in staff. All leave is cancelled. We are having to work longer hours, fewer days off because of colleagues being unwell or having to isolate and waiting for tests. We are ON OUR KNEES.

As of this morning ICU is full. HDU has one bed. Anyone seriously ill is going to have to be transferred to the nearest hospital with an ICU bed- currently next county but at morning briefing we were told they are also nearly at capacity so after that it will be at least an hour away. Whilst they have beds. Elective care is already being impacted and this will only worsen. This will cause suffering. People will become more unwell than they would have done. People will have died who could have been treated and cured. Can people really not understand this? I despair!

Otellie · 01/01/2021 10:27

I would be very seriously concerned about becoming seriously unwell with ANY illness or injury just now. Why do people find that so hard to understand?

Because they're a combination of selfish and as thick as mince.

DragonMoth · 01/01/2021 17:41

@yellowmaoampinball

If I could make one wish for 2021 it would be to not see one more person ridiculously throw around the word Stasi.
Hear, hear! Stupid people that don't know what they are talking about and are 100% disrespectful.
DaddyCool60 · 01/01/2021 17:44

Report the fuckers. That’s taking the piss big-time. Nit even being discrete!

Yogalola · 01/01/2021 18:04

You did the right thing

Daftgymbae · 01/01/2021 18:04

I would be annoyed with them. But Im not sure I would report in case they knew it was me and I had to live next door to them.

caringcarer · 01/01/2021 18:09

I ey report them. The hospitals are full in many areas. Not 999 though!

DHdweller · 01/01/2021 18:11

@Yoshinori i’d challenge you you utter cretin

Rtruth · 01/01/2021 18:23

YABU because if you ain’t ringing police to stop it then you are complicit as they are.

Ddot · 01/01/2021 18:42

I agree I'm trying my best to be safe. New years eve I always spend with friends in my home. This year I had one bottle of stout sitting outside with one neighbour two meters away freezing my skinny ass off. my next door neighbour had a bloody party. I put earplugs in at one and swore abit.