Would you date a woman?

[Whatisthis543]

Chatting to my friend tonight (who is gay and this is relevant to the thread)

She was saying that now she’s single again she thinks that things are a lot more open and more women are open to dating women even if they’re not ‘defining themselves’ as gay. I thought it was an interesting one. I’m in a hetero relationship and have never really thought about it, but have you? Would you?

Yes, if I was interested in dating again it'd either be a woman or nobody.

If a woman would consider dating her then I guess that's all she needs in terms of gay-definition

I generally prefer the company of women to that of men, I also find women are generally nicer to look at, but I'm not sexually attracted to woman at all, so no, I wouldn't date one.

Yes, I'd definitely take the opportunity to date women if single. Fancy both men and women but happily married to dh. Lots of my married female friends are attracted to women to varying extents

If I met a woman and there was a mutual sexual attraction, I guess. I've never yet fancied a woman though. 🤷‍♀️

I have never dated a woman but I do fancy women so yes. I don’t think I would have the confidence to ask out anyone I met in a coffee shop male or female.

As I have only dated men I do feel a bit of a fraud. I have joined some dating app but I worry that the women would not be interested in me when they find out that I have only dated men. I did kiss one of my friends at university but she thought it was a bit of a joke but I really liked her.

@Whatisthis543

She mentioned it as was talking about asking a woman at the coffee shop out. I asked her if she knew she was lesbian/bi but she said she would just ask her anyway and if she wasn't interested she could obvs say no!

I thought fair enough but just wondered what others would do in this situ. I think I’d be flattered, say thanks but no thanks

Well this is a different question. Do I think all men and women should feel safe to ask any gender out in the right circumstances? Yes.

Would I date a women? No. As far as I know I am heterosexual. I have never felt any attraction of felt I wanted to be with a women. However I have just read Philip Schofield's book and apparently he had no idea he was gay until he was nearly 30 years into a heterosexual relationship so who knows, I might be gay but haven't realised it yet 🤷🏽‍♀️

No, I'm 100% hetero unfortunately. I don't have a huge amount of respect for men as a class, but I do find them sexually attractive. I'd much prefer to be a lesbian, but I can't imagine wanting to have sex with a woman. I know lots of friends who talk about 'girl crushes' or had a kiss or flirt with a girl or two when they were younger. I've never even been curious. It would make my life so much easier, as a staunch feminist, I'm annoyed by the fact that I want a man in my life!

Yes if it was Daddy from Orange is the New Black. Only woman I have ever felt attracted to.

I would. I've known I'm bi for a long time. Just haven't acted on it before simply because I have a monogamous nature and wouldn't date more than one person at a time, and I spent 30 years in an abusive relationship with my ex.

But he's now dead, and I've been separated from him and healing from the relationship for the last 3 years. I now feel open to the idea of dating next year, and I won't be restricting myself to men.

No never been attracted to women

No, I'm not interested in dating women. I don't find other women sexually attractive, so there'd be no point.

Tbh, I'm not sure I'd be interested in dating anyone, if something ever happened to my husband. The very thought is exhausting and anxiety-inducing.

If I was single?

I don't think so.

I have had a few drunken kisses and fumblings with women (first time with 16, last time as a young adult). But actually dating one didn't occur to me.

And I'm married. So... There's that.

Well no because I’m heterosexual.

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Have absolutely no attraction to women at all.

Yes.

As a gay woman, if I were dating (have been with my wife for 18 years, so not likely!) I would have no interest in dating a woman who wasn’t gay/bi. So bicurious/fed up with men/would like to sleep with a woman but not be in a relationship/I wish I was gay as I prefer women’s company/am drunk so will give it a try etc, absolutely not. We’re not just there to be experimented with by straight women.

I would if I met a woman and had a romantic spark rather than just friendship feelings, although it would kind of take me by surprise

Coldilox

Makes sense. I'm sorry if my comment made it seem like simply using a woman for sexual experimentation was OK.

(For me personally it's always been clear that I'd date men and probably end up marrying one, seeing as I'm neither bisexual nor gay. Which I did indeed end up doing. And DH really is rather lovely and DS is the best thing that's ever happened to me. so it all worked out.)

I would. I knew from the start that I’m attracted to both men and women. I don’t exactly advertise it though:)

No because I am not a lesbian.

Yes. Women are amazing.

I am bisexual, so yes. I've always found it's down to the person, not the sex, though I seem to go through periods of preferring one sex over the other (currently single).

Yes I would, but I am openly bi-sexual so there's nothing unusual with me saying that. I have dated women in the past, but never had a serious relationship with one.

Bisexual, so yes. That's probably not very ground-breaking though.

Those of you saying you’re 100% straight but “wish” you were gay or bi, sorry, but as an actual gay woman, that rubs me the wrong way. It doesn’t mean that your life would be easier. We have to face a lot of shit, and are still seen by a surprising amount of people as less than. I face so many micro aggressions on the daily - at work, from family, who don’t even really realise. And female partners are also more than capable of being abusive too, they’re not all roses. I wouldn’t change who I am for anything and I never wish I was straight instead but it’s not a walk in the park or some fun or quirky thing