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Would you date a woman?

276 replies

Whatisthis543 · 27/12/2020 20:38

Chatting to my friend tonight (who is gay and this is relevant to the thread)

She was saying that now she’s single again she thinks that things are a lot more open and more women are open to dating women even if they’re not ‘defining themselves’ as gay. I thought it was an interesting one. I’m in a hetero relationship and have never really thought about it, but have you? Would you?

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nancybotwinbloom · 30/12/2020 00:12

Men not Ben he's not called Ben lol

WhatTheFuckHappenedHere · 30/12/2020 00:26

I would. I’m coming to terms with the idea that I’m very likely bisexual.

BluePeterVag · 30/12/2020 02:05

Yeah I would. Currently happy with DH, but if that changed then I’d be looking for another soulmate, male or female.

MrsWhistledown · 30/12/2020 02:09

Yes I would

I believe i could fall in love with someone whether they were male or female (I'm married but if anything were to happen in the future I wouldnt have a problem with being in a relationship with a woman if I happened to meet someone I liked)

Sceptre86 · 30/12/2020 06:35

Nope.

StarlightLady · 30/12/2020 07:32

I’ve responded earlier in this thread with a big yes! I’m right down the middle on the Kinsey scale.

To add, l’ve said elsewhere on MN in the past that l believe female sexuality can be fluid and been shot down in flames for that. But l still think it.

Moving on, there are definitely some benefits from 2 identical bodies being together and their owners being familiar with their workings. To slightly misquote an old song lightheartedly, women really do taste of “sugar and spice and all things nice”. 🌈

PollyDarton1 · 30/12/2020 07:50

I'm bisexual, so sure!

jaydereilly · 30/12/2020 14:22

Yes

Eviebeans · 30/12/2020 14:27

Never say never

Porcupineintherough · 30/12/2020 14:28

Its interesting to see how many people are open to the idea. Previously my impression was that most people were either heterosexual or gay, with very few "on the middle ground" as it were. Likewise I know several women who have left heterosexual relationships and entered relationships with women but none of them identify as bi, rather as lesbians.

TangoWhiskyAlphaTango · 30/12/2020 14:31

@Oooohbehave

No. I prefer the company of women but ultimately I love a bit of cock!
Grin
Lampzade · 30/12/2020 14:46

No,
I am not attracted to women

belinda789 · 30/12/2020 14:53

@LongPauseNoAnswer
And it’s OK sell your daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21.7. Stroppy teenage daughters take note......

NataliaOsipova · 30/12/2020 14:53

@DixieLandReject

I would for the sex but I don't think I could do a long term living together type thing.
Funnily, I’m exactly the opposite. Could see myself living with a female friend in a “long term companion” sort of way....but the idea of getting it on in any way with a woman makes me recoil in horror. (No problem with anyone else wanting to do it, of course, but definitely not for me.)
Babyg1995 · 30/12/2020 14:55

Yes but I'm bisexual.

TrialOfStyle · 30/12/2020 14:56

I generally think women are more attractive than men, so I did briefly consider it when starting dating again.

But I just don’t think I’m sexually attracted to women so probably not.

Guineapig99 · 30/12/2020 15:57

‘She mentioned it as was talking about asking a woman at the coffee shop out. I asked her if she knew she was lesbian/bi but she said she would just ask her anyway and if she wasn't interested she could obvs say no!

I thought fair enough but just wondered what others would do in this situ. I think I’d be flattered, say thanks but no thanks‘

Well, if you don’t ask... I’m gay and have been politely turning men down for 30 years with the ‘I’m flattered but no’. I learned early on that saying I was gay rarely got them to leave me alone, the opposite in fact, so I used to say I was married ...

Norwayreally · 30/12/2020 16:13

I tried it as a curious teenager. Two of my best friends were gay and both came out to me before anyone else. I remember feeling like I was somehow really boring and average being Hetero so I decided to try dating one of the friends. She admitted she’d had a crush on me since we met so I didn’t force myself on her or anything weird Grin. Anyway, it lasted about a month but I just felt too weird so ended it. I had an identity crisis in my late teens and had sex with a female friend but again, it wasn’t for me so I never bothered again. I’ve accepted I am just a boring heterosexual.

PatsyStone39 · 30/12/2020 16:18

Yes. I did...and married her!

Craiglang · 30/12/2020 16:21

I would. I'm bisexual, I'm just currently in a heterosexual relationship/marriage so I'm unlikely to be dating anyone, of any sex, anytime soon.

Meowchickameowmeow · 30/12/2020 16:23

No, I have no interest in women sexually and I don't think my husband would approve!

FairfaxAikman · 30/12/2020 16:23

Nope. The idea of getting up close and personal with another woman's genitals is positively repulsive to me.

DressingGownofDoom · 30/12/2020 16:32

[quote inchoccyheaven]**@dressinggownofdoom* and @keratinsmooth* you can use toys to penetrate though. Usually without the mess lol.
I don't mind some penetration but much prefer everything else.[/quote]

I'm not really into sex toys, penetration with a penis shaped bit of plastic or whatever doesn't do it for me.

jaydereilly · 01/01/2021 18:20

It might be a New Years Resolution for me if only it weren't for the current restrictions, I think sexuality is a lot more fluid these days.

TimetoHesitate · 01/01/2021 19:13

I certainly do notice and appreciate attractive women but not in a sexual way. Also, I'm aware of just how many awful men there are in the world. I'd also imagine that a woman would be much more understanding on another woman's needs in general (not everyone of course!).

But a no because, on the sex side of things I just couldn't get over sticking my head down between another woman's legs ... on the other hand of course I would not be able to see the head down between my legs and a woman would know a lot better what works :) But still a NO