To think that a friend who dropped me 4 years ago and has now made contact again is not sincere?

[Livinginthecity]

My first response is to ignore her like she ignored me 4 years ago. She's just popped up saying she wants to "catch up." Trying to work out if this is some kind of mind game.

I'd be on my guard too.

What happened? Did she ghost you?

Is she an MLM “babe” now?

If someone ignores someone for 4 years then gets in contact. They will do the same again. And you will feel rejected time after time.

I would not let someone play mind games with me like that.

She might be ill and wants to make amends.

@FelicityPike

Is she an MLM “babe” now?

I would be suspicious of this ⬆️ I had a friend who got in touch after years of ghosting to try and sell me juice plus

''You start with an apology and an explanation for ghosting me 4 years ago.''

I’d be extremely wary. In fact, I will probably ignore the message completely - unless you want to know what happened? If so, perhaps reply, ‘before we catch up, would you like to explain why you dumped me 4 years ago?’

Mlm

Don’t respond today! Not sure how you should respond but keep her waiting.

I wouldn’t even bother responding. Polite ghosting can go both ways. Just ignore her.

Do you miss her? Could there be any explanation for why she dropped you (depression etc)? How close were you? Do you want to give her an opportunity to explain why she vanished? If so, I’d be inclined to reply something along the lines of ‘really nice to hear from you; I would like to catch up and perhaps talk about what went sideways four years ago’.

If you’re not keen to get back into it, then I’d reply ‘Hi, hope you’re well. Thanks for the offer but it’s not really something I’m keen to repeat, but I wish you all the best’.

MLM 100%!

This year has been so crap (no shit Sherlock) - maybe it's just made her realise how important friends are.

Another vote fir MLM!

She's a "Boss Babe" now...

I would block her.

We didn't have any specific falling out. We went on holiday together and she didn't seem to enjoy it. I don't know why. I don't think I did anything terrible. I know from her Facebook page that there haven't been any marital problems. After we got back, I suggested we meet up for coffee and she started making excuses and then went silent. I'm inclined not to reply.

‘Let’s play a game of fuck off. You go first!’

It's just seasonal nostalgia, ignore

Give her a damn good ignoring. Don't give her any satisfaction or anything to talk about. She doesn't deserve your time or thought.

@BashfulClam

‘Let’s play a game of fuck off. You go first!’

haha!!

After 4 years I think it's definitely ok so ignore her message.

I was drawn into something similar twice over with an old friend. It hurt quite a lot to be ignored after being open hearted. Twice.

Yanbu to assume an ulterior motive and I think that the MLM theory is probably right. Block and forget that she contacted you cheeky mare.

Agree she’s into MLM

Someone I used to know really well did this to me, ghosted me, only turned up when old mutual friends from out of town came to my home, then one day asked to meet me for a
Coffee, proceeded to probe me about some clinical people I'm working with, I think it was to
Help get her further forwards in her job,
Then dropped me like a stone again - I can't be arsed anymore
I'd Ignore personally

is MLM something to do with bondage?