My selfish family

[GarytheRedNosedUnicorn]

My Mum is an 84 year old widow, living in Dartford, Tier 4. She has gone to stay with my sister in Surrey (also tier 4). From 23rd Dec to 27th. She thinks it’s justified as she’s not going by public transport and won’t be leaving the house. My sister has not been isolating, going to the supermarket everyday. Added to which, my sisters two kids, who live in Bromley and Wood Green went over to stay on Christmas Eve and will leave on Monday. My mother is insistent she won’t get it. I have been doing all her online shopping throughout, since March, and been looking out for her. I have lost my job as a result of industry closures and told her that the family’s selfish behaviour would only prolong lockdown. She took complete umbrage and told me I was only looking for an atguement. The dreadful thing is, there will tens of thousands of families doing this up and down the country, and we will take longer to come back from this. AIBU to be really sad and frustrated at people blatantly breaking the rules, thinking they are above them, and putting others at risk?

YANBU

We had my Mum down as a support bubble to find out she was then heading back for Boxing Day with my brother and staying over there too. In laws have had various people in and out their flat & found it odd we would only see them outdoors.

I have seen people meeting up with family today & pretty sure that the 23-27 December was cancelled last weekend? So your DSIS should not have had people over night.

I teach and am gutted that we will have to shut schools to some year groups the first week back and then again for who knows how long - just because people haven't kept away from each other. It's important for children to be back in school & this will possibly be at risk now just because of people mixing over Christmas.

@converseandjeans

YANBU

We had my Mum down as a support bubble to find out she was then heading back for Boxing Day with my brother and staying over there too. In laws have had various people in and out their flat & found it odd we would only see them outdoors.

I have seen people meeting up with family today & pretty sure that the 23-27 December was cancelled last weekend? So your DSIS should not have had people over night.

I teach and am gutted that we will have to shut schools to some year groups the first week back and then again for who knows how long - just because people haven't kept away from each other. It's important for children to be back in school & this will possibly be at risk now just because of people mixing over Christmas.

OR... we could just chose to prioritise children’s education and continue sending children to school. Remember when that was a thing?

Lots of ' support bubble ' stretching within our family also. MIL in tier 4 went to another Tier 4 household who also had another family member over who is living with a women and her son . So that was a fail.
Uncle and his wife had their son stay over for Christmas. They are tier 4 , he isn't but drove 250miles to get to them, will obviously be driving back and stopping off places for coffee / comfort breaks etc.
I personally find it crazy that people all over the UK have doing this , but never mind , it's Christmas 🤐

@Duggeehugs82

SHE DOESNT NEED TO SPEND IT ALONE IF SHE IS IN A BUBBLE MY GOD WHY IS THIS SO DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND!!!!

@Duggeehugs82

Instead of shouting at that poster (how rude) RTFT and see that nowhere does OP say her mum had another option for Christmas, including with OP. So it’s possible she would have been alone.