To expect a proposal by now?

[Allispretty]

Bit of background...been with DP 5 years we've travelled about a lot to lovely cities places a proposal would be lovely, Paris, Venice, Barbados etc. I've always said from the beginning how I feel about being married and it's really important to me. We have a house together and living as a married couple so why won't he propose? We have enough money so that's not the issue. I'm 33 now I didn't want to be a nearly 40 year old bride, every year I feel like he's going to and it doesn't happen, is this a sign he just doesn't feel like I'm the one?

And a very important contract it is too! It provides protection and rights

When you say “protection and rights”, what do you mean exactly?

I got married because DH wanted to. I have since found out that it has screwed me financially should we divorce, or should I die without a watertight will.

I think the only “protection and rights” i have gained is nok for medical decisions etc.

In my circumstances I would have been better protected not getting married, but sorting POA/wills/pension seperately.

I sit down and explain that you want different things, marriage and a family etc or whatever it is you want. etc him know that you are not going to be hanging around if he doesn't want these things and will be moving on as life is to short to be waiting

My dh (didn't actually propose but did the when are we getting married then?) was really weird about it, he had my engagement ring resized in December 2009 but was adamant that although everyone knew we were getting married soon (actually it was feb 10) he wouldn't be engaged until the next year. So I put the ring on on New Year's Day. We already lived together and I was expecting dd1 he was the one who was bothered about us being married for her being born so she had his last name.

We already lived together and I was expecting dd1 he was the one who was bothered about us being married for her being born so she had his last name

He does realise that being married doesn’t automatically give the baby his name?

Since you want marriage so much you are going to have to push the idea- and live with the consequences if this upsets what seems from your description, a good balance.