To be annoyed by people who claim they live in a different area due to snobbery reasons?

[Rosehip10]

Why do people do this? Are they so insecure they have to pretend they are somewhere else?

I know much of this rubbish comes from estate agents, but some people seem to take it to heart......

Two classic examples from people I know.....

1.) "I live in North West Hampstead" (They live in Cricklewood)

2.) "I'm on Farnham Borders" (They live in Aldershot)

Ridiculous.

When I was growing up, and until I left Croydon, our address was very much Croydon, Surrey.
Until I joined mumsnet I didn't know that it was now considered London

No, it's not. It's not determined by boroughs. Croydon doesn't even have a London postcode. I hear people say Bromley is part of London too but it doesn't have a London postcode either. Simple as that. They're not in London just because they're easy to get to from London.

Reverse snobbery - some simply can't bear you to say you live in Surrey or Kent, it's off to Inner London with you😁. Especially if they live further into Surrey/Kent than you.
This game's been played for years.

@Lindy2

"Weybridge Garden Centre" is most definitely not in Weybridge, it's in Addlestone.

I imagine they actually loose customers because of people going to Weybridge and wondering why they can't find the garden centre there.

St George's College Weybridge is also in Addlestone, but don't tell the mummies and daddies paying the extortionate private fees!

I used to live in a bit of ‘Clapham North’ that was most definitely Brixton!

@DeeCeeCherry

*When I was growing up, and until I left Croydon, our address was very much Croydon, Surrey. Until I joined mumsnet I didn't know that it was now considered London*

No, it's not. It's not determined by boroughs. Croydon doesn't even have a London postcode. I hear people say Bromley is part of London too but it doesn't have a London postcode either. Simple as that. They're not in London just because they're easy to get to from London.

Reverse snobbery - some simply can't bear you to say you live in Surrey or Kent, it's off to Inner London with you😁. Especially if they live further into Surrey/Kent than you.
This game's been played for years.

But it is the London Borough of Bromley...or so my council tax says...

When I addressed this year's Christmas cards I just put Croydon and the postcode on the envelope. I left Surrey off.

The Eastward expansion of Putney over the last 14 years has been quite remarkable.

Ah the new hall and church Langley folk of HARLOW spring to mind 🤦🏻‍♀️

StReatham now has its own village. Pronounced Villaarge.

@jillypill

Tbf there are lots of places in Surrey I can't afford but I agree that a London is cooler. Also London wasn't so desirable in the 80s/90s, I had an geography school book that described my birthplace as a slum 🙄

Hate to tell you this but London and Surrey are rather large diverse areas . Sure, Notting Hill used to be is nice, it was when I lived there a few years ago, but Newham, not so much. There is nothing cool about poverty, deprivation and inequality.

Certain parts of not really Surrey are dire but there are many, many gorgeous parts of Surrey that are WAY more sought after than huge swathes of London, Shere, Mickleham, Ripley, Oxshott, Brockham, Abinger Hammer, Bramley to name a few of the idyllic villages that are hugely desirable due to their bucolic surroundings, outstanding schools, low crime statistics, clean, good quality air and friendly communities. Surrey always gets a lot of stick on MN, but then, so do lots of unattainable things..

As a mature adult, I'll take beauty, peace and serenity over (very subjective) 'cool' any day you can keep your grimy, deprived, crime ridden, frankly depressing London!

No, it's not. It's not determined by boroughs. Croydon doesn't even have a London postcode. I hear people say Bromley is part of London too but it doesn't have a London postcode either. Simple as that.
🤦🏼‍♀️ Mitcham has a CR postcode, it's not determined by postcodes.

They're not in London just because they're easy to get to from London.

You think that's the criteria?

Historically Croydon was part of Surrey but the border was moved.

Hate to tell you this but London and Surrey are rather large diverse areas

Where did I say otherwise? Did you actually read my post? I was responding to a poster who first made the point about London being more desirable.

As a mature adult, I'll take beauty, peace and serenity over (very subjective) 'cool' any day you can keep your grimy, deprived, crime ridden, frankly depressing London

Enjoy Surrey then!
As a mature adult it seems silly to to get offended by the fact London is often considerd one of the coolest cities in the world in terms of fashion. art etc. It doesn't mean parts of Surrey are not nice.

Similar principle to the area thing, I once met someone who told everyone he 'went to University at Cambridge', turned out he meant Anglia Ruskin not University of Cambridge. Had quite the opposite effect to the one he intended. I wouldn't have judged him at all for going to Anglia Ruskin but I judged him like hell for suggesting he went to Cambridge. Lame.

Batley
Well Anglia Ruskin is in Cambridge.
I get your point but he wasn’t lying!

Oxford Brookes (Oxford) MMU (Manchester) St John (York)... I would say Oxford, Manchester, York.

There’s a massive disingenuousness to saying “I went to university at Cambridge” when you went to university in Cambridge, at ARU/APU (depending on your vintage) though, Goodbye2020, to the point viewing it as prevaricating, at least, is not unreasonable.

It’s as usual to make the distinction between Southampton & Southampton Solent or Canterbury & Canterbury Christchurch as it is to specify at which London institution you studied. To be fair, I know a lot of academics, so it’s feck-all use them not being specific about institutions; but even amongst Normal People I’ve seen The Vague lead to some awkward “actually I meant Other Institution” moments.

There’s a massive disingenuousness to saying “I went to university at Cambridge” when you went to university in Cambridge,

Fawlty Towers:

"The Chefs from Dorchester"
Your chef worked at The Dorchester ?
"No in Dorcester - about 20 miles away"

@Goodbye2020Hello2021

Batley Well Anglia Ruskin is in Cambridge. I get your point but he wasn’t lying!

Oxford Brookes (Oxford) MMU (Manchester) St John (York)... I would say Oxford, Manchester, York.

Saying you went to Oxford rather than Oxford Brookes is disingenuous. I worked with somebody who frequently told people he'd gone to Oxford, which surprised many as he was very unremarkable, but he knew what he was doing. Turned out it was Oxford Brookes.

My sister has done this before. I don't get annoyed. I find it laughable.

@DeeCeeCherry Rubbish. Bromley was part of Kent prior to 1965, is is now part of Greater London as the London Borough of Bromley.

Note:
Do people who live in Bromley vote for the Mayor of London and in GLA elections and indeed pay for the GLA as part of their council tax - YES

If you have a problem with your bins and called Kent County Council, would they help - NO

All this rubbish that someone "feels" they are in Kent/Surrey etc is stupid. Boundaries change over time. I suppose people in Calais for example, can feel part of England, even so this changed in 1558?!

I know someone who told me that her daughter was going to go to Oxford to do business studies. I realised that she meant Oxford Brookes. Sometime later this girl's grandmother told me that she was going to go to Durham. I asked DD and she said that the girl would never have the grades to go there. It turns out that she had an offer for York St John.

No-one should be ashamed of where they go to for higher education, and trying to deceive people into believing that they are something they are not just smacks of insecurity.

I went to Leeds Polytechnic

Rosehip errmm why so rude?! But since you are rude - Shut your trap.

Bromley is in Kent. With a Kent postcode. & if you wrote a letter you'd address it 'Bromley, Kent'. Nothing at all you say changes that. If there's a problem with bins then you call Bromley Council you can't make up a Kent Council covers all can you?

You are blowing smoke so hard, maybe you live in Kent and feel Bromley-ites taint you or some such.

@DeeCeeCherry

Rosehip errmm why so rude?! But since you are rude - Shut your trap.

Bromley is in Kent. With a Kent postcode. & if you wrote a letter you'd address it 'Bromley, Kent'. Nothing at all you say changes that. If there's a problem with bins then you call Bromley Council you can't make up a Kent Council covers all can you?

You are blowing smoke so hard, maybe you live in Kent and feel Bromley-ites taint you or some such.

I live in the London borough of Bromley - the clue is in the name! When Kent went to tier 3 Bromley did not - because it’s not in Kent it’s in London.

Bromley is in Kent. With a Kent postcode. & if you wrote a letter you'd address it 'Bromley, Kent'. Nothing at all you say changes that.

Ok Trump! seriously just google & stop embarrassing yourself.

Some people say it because it’s easier for others to understand / visualise. More people probably know where Farnham is than Aldershot. So saying “Aldershot” could result in someone answering “oh, where’s that” only for them to say “Farnham borders”.

I used to do the reverse. Lived on literally the poshest road in my city (Monopoly Mayfair, basically). I'm not posh or rich - we were basically the caretaker tenants for a massive house whose owners lived abroad most of the time.

If anyone who didn't know me asked I'd say 'oh, yeah we live just off X Road (XRoad being very long with quite mixed housing surrounding it). I wasn't technically lying... but the few times people said 'oh, sadeyed lives on THAT road', I could see the reaction. So 'just off X Road' was easier.

People do this here. We have the same posh postcode but the village is a few mins drive away. The houses here are half the price. We do not live in prestigious area, yet people pretend they do