HES BLOODY BOUGHT ME A PRESENT

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We've just moved house and it's been an expensive year. I've just been sorting the kids gifts into piles and found one for me.

We agreed no gifts and I've got him absolutely nothing. Nothing from the children, I've stuck to the agreement.

He goes way above every year gifts wise and now I feel so guilty 🙁

Hi Op
Has he got any favorite interests/hobbies he is into then?(
this could be the theme for a gift from internet for him?

Or health spa voucher from online.

Groupon?

Give him a personal gift doing something he likes and your not particularly keen on

Wow, some of those previous gifts are awesome, lucky you!

Totally get what you mean though, we've agreed with friends to just buy for the kids this year and one of DH's mates just dropped off presents for DS... and us Really kind of them but now we feel shitty 'cos we didn't get them anything and what was the point of the bloody agreement?

If you both agreed to no presents then I don’t see what the problem is. I wouldn’t feel guilty. He shouldn’t be annoyed. What’s the point of making an agreement otherwise?

You could get him an e-voucher or some tickets? You make a little voucher for a weekend away and then book it in the new year when money is a little less tight maybe?

Also @peppita unless they're asking you to join in it doesn't matter what you think of the OP and her husband's bedroom activity! If it works for them and they're happy with it then it's not 'properly grim' at all

Can you get him tickets for something (I know not much is on) and print them out and wrap?

Or give him a gift for someone who's gift you're delivering after Xmas?

Bedroom vouchers makes me 🤮 too

@peppita

Did someone seriously say bedroom vouchers? Who does that? Gross. 🤢

Maybe it was an adult with a sense of humour.

Stop rushing around trying to match his gift.

Just receive it and be happy. Why do people feel they need to reciprocate? We are allowed to receive without giving back.

Instead of rushing to the shops why not write him a beautiful letter or Xmas card and explain to him why you adore him?

Put into words all the things you value about him and all his great qualities.

I think words, affection and small items (like a bunch of flowers) are far more meaningful.

If he earns more than you, why should you buy him something to match anyway?? That wouldn't be 'fair' either anyway.

Sex?

@TeenageMutantNinjaCovid

Homemade vouchers. Not to be opened in front of the children.

LOL!

@hansgrueber I watched die hard for the first time last night!

My dh does the same. I've learnt now.

We have bought for each other and from the kids but my DH always spends way more than I do on him! He enjoys spending when he can on us so I'm not going to burst his bubble.

I see this in the same category as dh making me a cup of tea even though I never make him one. It shows me he really loves me and isn't bothered about it being reciprocated.

We agreed no presents last year and on the long drive to see ILs on Xmas eve he asked if I had wanted a present. I said that I regretted agreeing to no presents and he said that was good cos he'd got me one anyway. I couldn't have been happier, no guilt!

Bedroom vouchers are only grim if you don't want to do the things on the voucher with the person you're giving them to surely?? I'm guessing OP is perfectly happy having sex with her OH so I don't see what's grim.

@peppita

Did someone seriously say bedroom vouchers? Who does that? Gross. 🤢

Martin Lewis actually recommended this I. Prime time tv

Why is he cross? He should've bloody hid it better.

I think bedroom vouchers are a great idea, some people seem to have no sense of humour, no ones being forced to do something they don’t want to do, it’s just a bit of fun.

Also a voucher for a date night (home with a take away or out) would be a nice idea?

@Sexnotgender

Tough shit! If you say no presents then you can’t be upset you don’t get one.

If he wants to buy one for you that’s on him, no need to reciprocate.

Exactly. If he wanted something he shouldn't have agreed not to. Bloody rude to make an agreement then break it

I feel so guilty

I wouldn't be feeling guilty, I'd be feeling really pissed off.

Why the outrage at bedroom vouchers?
Not everyone's cup of tea, but some of us love sex and get quite a lot of fun out of it! I don't think the OP is suggesting she unwillingly prostitutes herself and, if two people fancy the pants off each other, it is rather a lovely idea.

tickets to see Metallica in Portugal.
This made me smile. It’s quite niche!
Could you book a night out or a trip away and print the confirmation?

Omg just popping in to say I’m so envious of the tickets to Metallica in Portugal....I bet that was amazing!!