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What is an instant turn off to you?

282 replies

shitinmyhandsandclap · 22/12/2020 14:56

Following on from the instant turn on thread, what're your turn offs? Mine are:

Smokers
Dirty nails
Bad teeth
Black, shiny, pointy shoes with jeans (or slip ons)

OP posts:
ADRIENNEthroughbloodshoteyes · 23/12/2020 00:33

Attending the “University of Life”

PrincessNutNuts · 23/12/2020 00:37

Unkindness, rudeness, wilful ignorance

hazandduck · 23/12/2020 00:39

I’m not that fussy, I have fancied men of all shapes and sizes.

The worst turnoff for me is those disgusting white flecks of spit someone gets in the corner of their mouth when they need a glass of water. Urgh. I also am instantly turned off, and I know it’s not fair, if someone is too good looking. I just switch off immediately.

CrystalTits · 23/12/2020 01:00

Ineptitude
Low attention levels
No interest in popular culture

ginandwineandbaileys · 23/12/2020 01:02

Dirty fingernails
Beards
Dirty clothes body odour
Loud eating/drinking/breathing
Bad teeth, extreme white also off putting, I like a natural creamy white colour,
Bad table manners
Bad manners in general
Squeaky laughs
That weird walk with feet pointing outwards
Too much laughing at their own jokes
Picky eaters
Diehard vegans
Talking over my voice
Arrogance
Overweight (I'm extremely active and very fit, so feel I can make this judgement)
Right wing political views

ginandwineandbaileys · 23/12/2020 01:03

I also like a man that can pick me up, but that's a turn on. A definite turn off would be someone who can't lift my weight, so lack of physical strength is a huge turn off
Skinny men are a turn off too

ginandwineandbaileys · 23/12/2020 01:12

And I count macros, drink protein shakes, carb cycle etc., so tend to like men who do the same. Men who date me like women who workout and wear gym gear most of the time.
Gamers are definite turn offs

Nunoftheother · 23/12/2020 01:15

Bad personal hygiene, long toenails, pretentiousness, being sexually pushy, teasing.

Nunoftheother · 23/12/2020 01:26

Also... conspiracy theorist, fuddy-duddy wardrobe, being generally a bit wet/pathetic/needy, being short and tubby.

CoalCraft · 23/12/2020 01:31

Over-talking. Can't bear people who ramble on, especially if its loads of anecdotes about themselves or people they know. Bonus negative points if they keep trying to "inform" me with "interesting facts.

Other turn offs -

  • Smoker
  • Heavy drinking more than one or twice a year
  • Gambler
  • Religious
  • Intolerant of pets
  • Lives too far away
  • Significantly overweight
DougRossIsTheBoss · 23/12/2020 01:40

Skinny fat guys especially in skinny jeans with overhang (muscly and fat I don't mind so much)
Poor personal hygiene (BO, bad teeth, greasy hair)
Arrogant attitude, mansplaining
Rugger bugger hooray Henry city boy types

Skyline24 · 23/12/2020 01:41

These responses have really cheered me up today Smile... hahaha... so mine are :
Yellow/green/black/ missing teeth Including bad breath!
*Bad personal hygiene

  • feminine men
  • skinny jeans with no socks and pointy shoes
  • v neck t-shirts
  • no sense of humour
  • drinkers I'm sure there are many more!
Downunderduchess · 23/12/2020 01:41

Man child. Someone who can never be serious, I’m a pretty laidback woman & love to laugh, but I’m also an adult with adult views & opinions.

Also someone with no self awareness.

BadLad · 23/12/2020 01:42

@Divebar

Wow! Some harsh comments.

I’d love to see what men find a turn off

For me it's many of the same as other posters have mentioned.

Non-drinker
Vegetarian or vegan out of principle - if they just don't like the taste I can live with that
Tattoos
Overweight
Too skinny
No interest in foreign travel or learning foreign languages
Piercings other than ears
Unintelligent
Non-driver
Denim skirts
Smoking or any kind of drugs
Intolerance of differing political views
Woke
No ambition
Needy
Unintelligent

And this last one is not an actual turn off, but not having been to university is a minus. Not that there's anything wrong with it, but I've always had better relationships with women who have been.

AlwaysLatte · 23/12/2020 01:49

Racism
Clicky heels
Too self obsessed (gym/looks)
Bald
Short
No sense of humour
Unintelligent
Cockney
I've met people who are all of the above. Just no!

AdultHumanFemale · 23/12/2020 01:49

Pettiness
Pedantry
Martyrdom
One-up-manship
Vindictiveness
Tightness
Lack of empathy

SingleWhiteFemail · 23/12/2020 01:49

Whats a denim skirt ever done to you?! Very random 😂 what if shes really hot though??

AlwaysLatte · 23/12/2020 01:50

Oh yes, definitely bad breath/poor hygiene!!

Seren85 · 23/12/2020 01:51

I've realised that I have a type. It's long hair and beaded. But they're always sweet guys. My biker bearded mates would do anything for anyone. And they're soft as shit.

SingleWhiteFemail · 23/12/2020 01:52

When you cant see any dick bulge or outline
When the calves are skinny and weak
Hard round pot belly
Moobs
Patchy beards
Long beards
Plays guitar or fiddle
Under 5ft8 or over 6ft4

London1987 · 23/12/2020 01:56

Toe nail fungus
Bad breath
Dirty and/ or long fingernails
Mansplainer

ginandwineandbaileys · 23/12/2020 02:05

@SingleWhiteFemail

When you cant see any dick bulge or outline When the calves are skinny and weak Hard round pot belly Moobs Patchy beards Long beards Plays guitar or fiddle Under 5ft8 or over 6ft4
I'd forgotten about lack of dick bulge 😂
ginandwineandbaileys · 23/12/2020 02:06

Jeans with rips, and frayed hems. Wtf is that about?

SingleWhiteFemail · 23/12/2020 02:07

I cant be the only one!Grin Its nice when you see it there..like hey im a man dontcha know. If his trousers or lycra is so flat id not want to take it further despite the curiousity.

Blacktothepink · 23/12/2020 02:07

Tory voters
Right wingers
Brexiteers

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