What is an instant turn off to you?

[shitinmyhandsandclap]

Following on from the instant turn on thread, what're your turn offs? Mine are:

Smokers
Dirty nails
Bad teeth
Black, shiny, pointy shoes with jeans (or slip ons)

Nicely kept nails - can’t stand it if men have manicured rather than bitten nails
Weak chins
Skinny jeans
Too sweary

Small hands with tapered fingers

Admirably specific

Physically: beards make me gag. BO (obviously) Not keen on big chins.
Personality: Self pity, lack of intelligence (not the same as lack of education - don't care if they have no GCSEs so long as they can think for themselves and have an interest in the world.)

@DillonPanthersTexas

Tory voters

How very mumsnet. Reminds me a thread a few years back when someone was anguished after finding out their otherwise good husband and father had voted Tory in a local election. People were honestly saying they would break up their families if they found out something similar. Bizarre

It is what is but I agree with you and everyone has their line in the sand. I am a life-long lefty married to a life long tory voter. Truthfully, we’re mostly centrists but he falls right on some issues, I fall left on some but the premise still stands. He is a good man, strong morals, the most loyal and loving man I’ve ever met. He cares about people. He doesn’t agree with every conservative policy (same as I don’t agree with every labour policy - especially these days ). Sometimes we disagree on political things and the occasional muscular debate ensues but the idea that we are incompatible because of it is weird. I could see it if I was a communist and he was a member of the BNP but we are absolutely bog standard, normal mainstream voters. MN is nuts on this topic.

@hazandduck, me too on the Alan P quotes. It’s a plus in my book. It has to be comedy I like though.

Things I’ll admit to:
Long nails
Bad breath
Meanness
Lack of curiosity

Things I’m a little ashamed of:
Height
Penis size

Smokers
Arrogance
Football obsessed
Poor hygiene
Bald
Tattoos (even more so if bald with it)
Poor fashion sense
Idiot drivers
Thin legs
Small hands
Short men under 5’9
Fully shaved men particularly down below. Yak.
Beards

Brown, scuffed square-toed loafers worn with stonewash boot cut jeans.

Fully shaved men particularly down below. Yak.

You mean men who have shaved their privates? I'm amazed that any do that.

Arrogance
Skinny legs
Waxed eyebrows
Wearing jewellery (except a watch and wedding ring)
The skinny jeans, no socks, slip on shoes combo
Wanting to be the centre of attention

@BadLad

Fully shaved men particularly down below. Yak.

You mean men who have shaved their privates? I'm amazed that any do that.

It makes things look bigger

(And rather like the last chicken in the butcher’s window but that’s by the by)

@Chimeraforce

Being noisy Dressing like rocco Richie Spittle when speaking Neglecting their kids Gamer

All do these but dressing like Rocco Ritchie really made me laugh

Bad teeth
Lack of hygiene generally
Smoking
Drugs
Swearing continually
Sexism
Racism
Extreme politics of any kind
Meanness
Expecting me to be a cordon bleu cook because I'm female.

Misogyny. And reading the thread, I notice a lot of people’s turn-offs, in one way or another, are fundamentally about misogyny.

I really agree with the poster who said quoting comedy, especially Alan Partridge. I actually broke up with someone years ago for being unable to have a conversation without quoting TV. If you’re quoting someone else’s comedy then you aren’t funny.

Sub-optimal hygiene
Unfaithful
Immoral
Poor table manners (or any other manners)
Lazy
Uneducated
Left wing
Piercings and tattoos
Unkind
Drugs
Mean

Misogyny makes the hottest person unsexy.

I was going to say being a man but I must control myself.
The main ones are bad breath and bad teeth.
Blokes who have dentures but don't wear them.
Comb overs or bald with ratty ponytail.
Any kind of strong smell - either BO or Brut type cheap sprays.
Fungal toe nails.
Any kind of sexist/rascist remark.

I was going to say being a man but I must control myself.*

🤣

There is saying in my community

“We (gay men) don’t like men, we’re just attracted to them”.

@SimonJT

I was going to say being a man but I must control myself.*

🤣

There is saying in my community

“We (gay men) don’t like men, we’re just attracted to them”.

As I straight woman, I think I feel the same!

@DillonPanthersTexas

Tory voters

How very mumsnet. Reminds me a thread a few years back when someone was anguished after finding out their otherwise good husband and father had voted Tory in a local election. People were honestly saying they would break up their families if they found out something similar. Bizarre

Left wingers have been mentioned too and one person didn't like anyone interested in politics at all. I'm really shocked at the attitude to vegetarians though (militant vegans I sort of get).

Also
Skinny hands and long thin fingers
Nostril hair
Ear hair, dirty ears
Short sleeved shirts
Too tight clothes
Plucked and shaped eyebrows
Body piercings

Declaring themselves feminists
Mansplaining
Heavy drinkers
Smokers of tobacco and weed

Those who stay in bed until afternoon
Laziness
Gluttony

A whiny, self-pitying tone of voice
Trousers which sag at the arse
Humour heavy with sexual innuendo