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What is an instant turn off to you?

282 replies

shitinmyhandsandclap · 22/12/2020 14:56

Following on from the instant turn on thread, what're your turn offs? Mine are:

Smokers
Dirty nails
Bad teeth
Black, shiny, pointy shoes with jeans (or slip ons)

OP posts:
carlaCox · 22/12/2020 16:31

Many of the above but I'd also add shaved legs/armpits/chest. No thanks.

Tigger85 · 22/12/2020 16:33

Smoker
Drug taking
Excessive drinking/down the pub all the time
Laddish
Tattoos
Over weight
Poor hygiene
Vain
Tight
Misogynistic
Long term unemployed
Non driver
Lives with parents
Arrogance
Religious- just won't be compatible with me
Lack of resilience

shitinmyhandsandclap · 22/12/2020 16:33

Oh yeah, weed smokers - ex smoked weed most days, I just thought there was something very sad and pathetic about a 52 year old man smoking weed every day

OP posts:
daisychain01 · 22/12/2020 16:35

Being a tight-wad. Can't stand meanness - they're normally the ones with the 6 figure salary, share options and final salary pension.

ghostmous3 · 22/12/2020 16:40

Smoker
Bad breath
Cant drive
Smelly feet
Inward outlook on life
When men shave armpits and chest etc. No thanks
Long untidy scraggly hair urghhhhh

chasingmytail4 · 22/12/2020 16:40

Ponytails (on men). Doesn't matter how good looking he is, I can't do a ponytail.

DonnaQuixotedelaManchester · 22/12/2020 16:41

@Valeatqueave

Sounds good to me too. If anything, my ideal man might be described as nerdy/geeky/bookish

Yep.

Djouce · 22/12/2020 16:41

@TheSilentStars

That weird inverted triangle body shape that gym rats get. Are we supposed to fawn over them? It makes them look like they've got an American football shoulder pad shirt on. Or one of Krystal Carrington's frocks.
Yes, this. I mean, you want to stroll up and ask them whether one of the rationales for their workouts are to render themselves physically repulsive. Those real musclebound types can hardly walk and look as if their skin might be about to explode because it's too tight.

My turnoffs are wearing jogging bottoms unless engaged in actual athletic activity and being inarticulate. You may well have a knife-sharp brain and a heart of gold, but if your conversation consists of 'Err' and 'bantz', I won't hang around to discover it.

LongDistanceClaret · 22/12/2020 16:45

Inability to laugh at himself.
Arrogance.
Spending more than 5 mins to do a poo.
Long nails, esp toe nails [boke]

patchworkpals20 · 22/12/2020 16:45

Men who behave like children - can't do the basics for themselves and especially those who don't want to learn/grow in any way.

Dramatic illness. My own DH is rarely ill so thankfully this is a rarity. When he does get the flu he's a shocker though. He also sneezes and coughs so loudly, followed by groaning and sighing. He also does "the voice" so we all know what a brave little soldier he is. Meanwhile everybody else, children included put a brave face on their illness and just get on with life as best as possible.

Lank hair.

Sexism/misogyny.

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 22/12/2020 16:46

OK. Just send the flashy, pretty boy smokers in my direction Blush

Macaroni46 · 22/12/2020 16:46

Where to start! Loving this thread!
Long nails
Unkempt toe nails
Dirty clothes
Being miserable
Being negative
Being boring
Having no interests other than drinking
Using phrases like 'The Mrs'
Being late or unreliable
Trying to be too nice
I could go on ...

Macaroni46 · 22/12/2020 16:48

Being obsessed with fitness and don't get me started about middle aged men in Lycra - no, I'm not impressed nor do I find your scrawny Lycra clad body astride a bike sexy 😂

MariaK91 · 22/12/2020 16:50

poor hygiene & grooming
bad breath
macho arrogant laddy
racists & homophobes
people who blag knowing about things who are actually clueless
people who know everything about everything

Gwenhwyfar · 22/12/2020 16:50

I'm a vegetarian with bad teeth feeling quite sorry for myself now Sad

LadyJaye · 22/12/2020 16:52

Meanness.
Rude to retail/hospitality workers.

Gwenhwyfar · 22/12/2020 16:52

"Is religious (especially Muslim or Christian. Cultural/athiestic jew ok)"

Why is it OK to be a Cultural Jew, but not a cultural Christian or Muslim?

Astrabelle · 22/12/2020 16:55

Bad teeth
Poor manners
Squeaky voices
Stinginess
Sexist / racist views

pilates · 22/12/2020 16:56

Poor personal hygiene, especially plaquey teeth
Arrogance
Smokers
Laziness

user1471565182 · 22/12/2020 16:56

Finally thought of some for women- they wear what I call teacher perfume (it reminds me of the smell of what my teacher worse at infant school). Over the top tanning of some sort- I think most people suit their natural tone, when they start messing about with it it just doesnt work. Childlike body frames, Into conspiracy theories/MLMs/gossip about crap (in one section because they're always linked). Are 'conservative for the lifestyle'.

user1471565182 · 22/12/2020 16:59

ohh one other one-goes on about Magic Mike like its not possible to just google good looking men or something and by watching that dross is the only way they can experience this

NoProblem123 · 22/12/2020 17:03

Piss poor & over keen.

Ughh.

DonnaQuixotedelaManchester · 22/12/2020 17:06

@NoProblem123

Ah! You are tough!

SunscreenCentral · 22/12/2020 17:07

Dismissive to shop/waiter staff
Soap dodgers
Mean/stingy
Thoughtlessness
Thinks Farage might have a point
Bald but holding onto remains

NoProblem123 · 22/12/2020 17:12

@DonnaQuixotedelaManchester unless they happen to have strong, tanned forearms with rolled up shirt sleeves (turn ON post) Grin