What is an instant turn on to you?

[Heavenly44]

Can be anything

Can't lie a six pack

@goldielockdown2
I agree but only If they know what to do with it , no point in having a Lamborghini and driving it like a steam roller

@PolkadotGiraffe

Kindness, intelligence, wit, lack of arrogance, being tall and strong, independence, insight and understanding about things and people and the ability to speak eloquently about things that matter so that we can have interesting conversations.

YES!!! Gosh, that's a long shopping list now I think about it. Certainly, I've never found it :(

A sense of humour

Rugby players thighs, a (previously) broken nose and the ability to reverse a silage trailer into the clamp without having the conversation he’s having at the time. So niche...

essentialhummus your DH sounds great!! 🤣

Forearms
Tan (the kind you get from working outdoors, not a spray tan!)
Manual job

I'm a sucker for a good toolbelt!

Good shoulders in a white shirt . Lovely suits like the men in Milan. Got to smell good . A good sense of humour and twinkly eyes.

Humility. I like my men to be fucking grateful

A brain. Way sexier than any booty.

Competence. I work with a couple of surgeons who are so damn good in a calm, controlled, fuss free manner it makes me go weak at the knees.

Competency at anything but especially just being a decent grown up!

And a dry sense of humour. I remember inviting a friend and her new very dull boyfriend over for dinner once and as we were chatting he suddenly said something incredibly dry and funny. I've thought he was sexy ever since.

Shoulders. Broad shoulders in a tight T-shirt and I’m mush.

Slightly grungy guys wearing oversized jumpers that go over their hands a la Kurt Cobain. No idea why but I love it.

Looking hard and manly on the outside whilst being gentle and caring on the inside

Belfast accent
Confident and comfortable in own skin
Long eye lashes
Amazing father
Smells clean and fresh all the time
Brings me tea in bed:
DH

Oh and intelligence and wit. He has a maths degree and makes me laugh every day.
I know those 2 things don't seem linked, but it does it for me....

Cannot resist a big lumberjack type: muscly forearms, flat stomach, strong thighs, a check shirt and a beard...

Very few of my ex's have looked like this....

A strong sense of self. A leader not a follower.

...oh and the V muscles a PP was talking about...!

My bf does housework better than me, and just cracks on with it unprompted. I love his back, shoulders and chest, his smile and laugh. His voice is deep, quiet and gentle, but he is quick and says hilarious things that you only catch if you listen carefully. He smiles and winks at me, and I melt into a pile of goo and want him there and then.

Strong regional accents. Anything except Bristol but especially scouse, glaswegian, geordie!

Nothing is instant theses days. Like my coffee, I prefer it that way.

The smell of coal tar soap though......Sadly, he doesn’t use it anymore.

@blubberball
You've described that really well: my DH also has the deep voice and smiles and winks that are only meant for me and let me know we have this bond.
Argh....

Already mentioned upthread but Jewish! More precisely, New York Jewish. Not Hassidic just regular New York lawyer type, as featured in tons of films.

I did once see the hottest priest ever on a street in Rome. Young, sexy, curly black hair, Ray Bans, walked with a swagger. I do hope he wasn't going to fancy dress party.

My DH has a Roman nose. He thinks it's awful but I find it sexy and masculine. Also his peachy bum and his tanned muscular but not too bulky arms. Basically everything about my DH.

Curly hair. I don't know why

I don't want a relationship but I'm attracted to "the 80s man". No six packs, no leg shaving, no metrosexuals. Someone who can tinker with a car engine, owns a jar of Swarfega and enjoys a steak and kidney pie! Oh and kindness.