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I am and I don’t care

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Sexnotgender · 20/12/2020 17:46

I know I’m being unreasonable but I’m so fucked off.

I’m 6 months pregnant and have been ill and just wanted a little time to myself after Christmas and now the fucking nursery is shut.

I know so many people are worse off but I was so looking forward to a week for me.

Fuck fuck fuck it all.

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wishfull888 · 20/12/2020 20:41

Feel for you but far better it shuts now & this thing gets under control than when you have the baby...

Pootle40 · 20/12/2020 20:44

@wishfull888

It hadn't been brought under control in 9 months....

honkytonkheroe · 20/12/2020 20:47

I’ve said you are NBU because although you probably are a little, if you’re pregnant I think this negates it. Smile

ColourMeExhausted · 20/12/2020 21:06

Not at all! I totally get you. Me and DH were so looking forward to the few work and child free days we had planned for early Jan. And not happening now. Instead two further weeks of keeping DC 3 and 5 amused. In January. Bloody brilliant.

I get why it's happening, I get why it needs to happen...but it's really a kick in the teeth after a constant year of full on childcare (no family nearby). Flowers for you OP. Being 6 months pregnant with a toddler is exhausting...

ColourMeExhausted · 20/12/2020 21:09

Oh and I'm in Scotland too. So we are waiting to hear from our nursery but can't see why it would be able to stay open. And for those asking about wfh with children...isn't that what most of us did during the first lockdown? Me and DH split the days, only way that works for us.

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mopphead · 20/12/2020 21:15

Same here OP. I was stoic through the Christmas news, and the border closure news, and the lockdown news (we'd planned to visit family down south). When I read that nurseries were closed until the 18th there were actual tears. It's knowing that I'll be right back to trying to entertain my poor boy indoors with no where to visit while also trying to work. He'll be away from nursery for too long and I worry about him settling back in. I'm already under pressure at work. It's going to be carnage.

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Crunchymum · 20/12/2020 21:16

Scotland haven't been told to close childcare settings? Have they? Shock

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Sexnotgender · 20/12/2020 21:26

@Crunchymum

Scotland haven't been told to close childcare settings? Have they? Shock
Yes.
I am and I don’t care
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caringcarer · 20/12/2020 21:36

Do you have someone who can take your child out to park or for a walk for you at all? If so do not be afraid to ask for a bit of help.

MotherExtraordinaire · 20/12/2020 22:02

@Sexnotgender

I know I’m being unreasonable but I’m so fucked off.

I’m 6 months pregnant and have been ill and just wanted a little time to myself after Christmas and now the fucking nursery is shut.

I know so many people are worse off but I was so looking forward to a week for me.

Fuck fuck fuck it all.

God forbid a parent who may actually have to care for their own preschool age child. Why are you having a second child when you quite obviously don't want to actually do any of the parenting? Why not just stay childless and do as you please rather than having to pay to palm them off?
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Sexnotgender · 20/12/2020 22:10

Don’t be a cunt @MotherExtraordinaire there’s a dear.

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MindyStClaire · 20/12/2020 22:48

I not only choose to work and send DC to nursery when DH's salary would be enough, I have continued to send my two year old to nursery, which she loves, five days a week while I'm on maternity leave with DD2.

I must be a really really terrible mother. Ho hum.

MotherExtraordinaire · 20/12/2020 22:55

@Sexnotgender

Don’t be a cunt *@MotherExtraordinaire* there’s a dear.
You're the one devastated because the child you chose to have cannot go to childcare during the holidays.

Seriously, you should be cherishing this time, not wantingto get rid at the first opportunity.

ATieLikeRichardGere · 20/12/2020 23:24

I guess MotherExtraordinaire is also having a nervous breakdown but just in a slightly different way to the rest of us.

YANBU OP. That sucks.

My husband is about to start chemo and just a few days ago the consultant gave us the go ahead to keep DD in nursery. I almost wept with joy. Then this.

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Sexnotgender · 21/12/2020 06:34

@ATieLikeRichardGere

I guess MotherExtraordinaire is also having a nervous breakdown but just in a slightly different way to the rest of us.

YANBU OP. That sucks.

My husband is about to start chemo and just a few days ago the consultant gave us the go ahead to keep DD in nursery. I almost wept with joy. Then this.

I hope your husbands chemotherapy goes well. What a stressful time for you all Flowers
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sophiathefirst1 · 21/12/2020 06:52

@Aahotep

Pregnant women are never unreasonable imho.
This. 🙌🏼
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Sexnotgender · 21/12/2020 07:20

I do cherish the time with my child, he’s amazing.

I’m ALSO allowed to want a little time to myself after an incredibly difficult year. I’ve recently been in hospital and I’m tired.

God forbid I want to recharge my batteries a little Confused

Anyway. We can’t all be as perfect as the mother extraordinaire up thread can we.

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Lollyneenah · 21/12/2020 07:27

You're an absolute legend OP. Pregnant 2 year old and you work as well? Yanbu at all!!!

ProperVexed · 21/12/2020 07:50

@Sexnotgender

Don’t be a cunt *@MotherExtraordinaire* there’s a dear.
Brilliant!
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Sexnotgender · 21/12/2020 08:29

@Handsoffstrikesagain

mother why the nastiness? Do you feel good for it? Has kicking someone when they feel down made you feel all smug and superior?
Thank you.

I can’t imagine the smug superior attitude that sees a pregnant woman who needs some time to herself after illness and a really difficult year and thinks... I’m going to try and make her feel bad about that! It’s just beyond me, but whatever makes them feel better about themselves.

I don’t feel bad though. I know I’m a better mother when I’m able to have some time for me too.

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