Spitting blinding RAGE

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I am seriously worried about the level of my PMS rage. I dont get any other symptoms except mildly tender breasts.

Yesterday I saw my cat has worms, also a friend pissed me off. So I was in a pretty bad mood anyway this morning. Got my bike ready, couldn't find my keys (needed them for bike lock). I was full of rage, not anger but actual rage. I was stomping through the house throwing things across the room looking for my keys, I couldn't find them and started sobbing from anger.

Finally found them and set off. All the way to the vets (10 min cycle) my mind was just spiralling into overdrive like a mad woman, I was extrapolating how fucked off I was, it turned into hating my DP, hating my house, basically just chuntering on and on in my head really violently.

Got to the vets and one of my contacts started playing up, so painful and weeping eye. Got the pills came back outside and just felt so angry I kicked my bike hard and hurt my foot. It took everything I had not to pick the bike up and throw it into the road, I'm serious.

Got back home, cat refusing pill even in sardines, butter, cheese, wet food. Carried on being really gentle with her but then as soon as she went back outside (not pilled) completely lost my shit again, fuming at waste of money, crying and feeling rage at everything and everyone.

This kind of thing happens every month, just for one day before my period and it really scares me. It's almost like I literally see red. I hate how it makes my DP feel. How can I get this under control? Does anybody else get this rage?

Following too. On the brink of divorce, just absolute hate for my DH. Period a week away and the rage has started again.

Relieved to find this post, although every sympathy to you op💐

I’m having a dilemma currently as don’t know whether to bite the bullet and try an anti anxiety med, from hearing some success stories on here I think maybe I need to suck it up and go for it...

Although during the last couple of wks I’ve been on a cocktail of vitamins and high protein breakfasts and I’m certain I feel better, so I definitely think it’s worth trying some vits first.

I’d really like some advice on what magnesium supplement I should purchase if anyone has any recommendations?

@FluffyMcWuffy

Following too. On the brink of divorce, just absolute hate for my DH. Period a week away and the rage has started again.

It’s awful waiting isn’t it...and the relief when it finally comes is unreal!

I get this rage. It's horrible. Then my period comes and it's like the tension flows out. My periods has always been irregular though so I can't plan for it. I've had it when I was on the pill/ off the pill / breast feeding etc I have the mirena coil fitted but I think it's just me

I started the progesterone only pill in the summer to help with my hormonal rages. I still get grumpy, but feel it's a more appropriate level now. Definitely speak to GP

I recommend trying Magnesium OK supplement, it’s available at Boots. I used to get monthly unreasonable anger, crying and I felt really low. I’ve been taking the Magnesium supplement for many years and it’s made a huge difference.

I get a bit like this around my period.

If it's only one day I'd put up with it, and try to minimise what you have on then.

The only thing the GP will be able to offer you is an ssri, which you will have to take every day. Personally I would absolutely not choose to alter my brain chemistry and suffer likely side effects for the sake of one day a month.

Following because I have a very similar problem.

I get those too op. I dumped my partner last month but he forgave me thank god. It's like I'm in an angry bubble full of rage.

@TheStoic until you actually go through something like this you have no idea what it's like.

You have no idea of how quickly and uncontrollably it comes on.

No I do not think it's ok to behave in that way but to say it's an excuse to say 'hormones made me behave this way' is far from the truth.

People should seek help and people around them would ideally recognise the need to encourage the person to do so but to simply stand in judgment with things like 'I hope your behaviour doesn't effect other people' is rubbish.

Damn straight it effects other people, it effects our partners, our children and ourselves. I once told my daughter when she was 6 that I wanted to run away from her, that her behaviour was so terrible that I wanted to run out of the door and never come back when getting her ready for school one morning. Is that something that I am proud of, no, it's something that I will regret for the rest of my life and it was also the day I rang lifeline, again feeling suicidal and believing my children would be better off without the terrible Mother that I was, but unless and until you have this happen you will not be able to understand it.

It took a long time for me to recognise the pattern and then a shorter amount of time trying to control it before I went to my doctor and in the mean time I was without a doubt a horrible, impatient and downright unlikeable person for 1 to 2 weeks before my period.

It's like depression, anxiety and anger all hit you at once, month after month and until you connect the dots it takes you by surprise every single time.

You can stand by your words all you like but it doesn't make you helpful to anyone who is going through something like this.

Yes see your GP OP.

I had this really badly. I'm ashamed of some of the things I've said to DH on my 'bad day'. Like probably the type of thing he'd be told to LTB for on here. The rest of the month I'd never speak to him or anyone like that but I could literally hate him on those days (and others).

I took ADs during my cycle in the end. It helped.

Do speak to them.

I don't get why people say things like 'hormones are just an excuse'.

Well yeah... And a good one actually. Do you not realise how much an imbalance of hormones can affect someone?

Fuck me, when I was pregnant I used to cry all the time, over nothing. Genuine sobbing to DH daily. No idea why, no trigger just...hormones dun dun dunnnn.

And yes, my rage was definitely linked to hormones from PMS recognised by my GP at the time. It's horrible and it absolutely does feel uncontrollable at the time.

I had the rage and it started taking up most of the month. I was just angry and low. It was awful.

Went to the doctor and nothing helped until the consultant prescribed zoladex. Could only have this for 9 months but it was a game changer. I felt like a different person. When the treatment stopped I plunged off a cliff.

As I'd had my children and reacted well to the treatment I took the decision to have a full hysterectomy. I'm in HRT tablets and I am now calm and happy the majority of the time.

Unfortunately this all took time and my marriage failed due to my anger.

If medication doesn't work, I'd suggest trying to burn it off in the morning before your day starts with a kickboxing session and a fast run.
I felt similar to this during pre-menopause. It wasn't a particular day, it was if anything set me off.

Someone recommended St John's Wort supplements to me and its been a game changer! I'm now able to live in a house full of teenagers without feeling like murdering them all once a month.. so relief all round 😅

*a note of caution with the St John's wort tho, it must not be mixed with anti depressants or contraception medication

... and St John’s worth doesn’t Agee with everybody, it can make things worse for some people even if you are not taking any medicines.

This is not about the rage, but feeding your cat pills - try pate. Prepare 3 little pats of pate, 2 with nothing in it, 1 with the pill. Feed her the first 2 with nothing in them and by the third she may have stopped being suspicious and will eat the pate down no trouble. This worked with my very suspicious lurcher :)