Spitting blinding RAGE

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I am seriously worried about the level of my PMS rage. I dont get any other symptoms except mildly tender breasts.

Yesterday I saw my cat has worms, also a friend pissed me off. So I was in a pretty bad mood anyway this morning. Got my bike ready, couldn't find my keys (needed them for bike lock). I was full of rage, not anger but actual rage. I was stomping through the house throwing things across the room looking for my keys, I couldn't find them and started sobbing from anger.

Finally found them and set off. All the way to the vets (10 min cycle) my mind was just spiralling into overdrive like a mad woman, I was extrapolating how fucked off I was, it turned into hating my DP, hating my house, basically just chuntering on and on in my head really violently.

Got to the vets and one of my contacts started playing up, so painful and weeping eye. Got the pills came back outside and just felt so angry I kicked my bike hard and hurt my foot. It took everything I had not to pick the bike up and throw it into the road, I'm serious.

Got back home, cat refusing pill even in sardines, butter, cheese, wet food. Carried on being really gentle with her but then as soon as she went back outside (not pilled) completely lost my shit again, fuming at waste of money, crying and feeling rage at everything and everyone.

This kind of thing happens every month, just for one day before my period and it really scares me. It's almost like I literally see red. I hate how it makes my DP feel. How can I get this under control? Does anybody else get this rage?

@RubyFakeLips
I really enjoyed reading your post.
A man knocked into me with his shopping basket, quite gently, during this phase last month. I had to immediately abandon my full trolley and go sit in the car, because I wanted to embed said basket in his skull. I ended up crying with sheer fury. Ranting away in my head about fucking awful people were, thinking how I hate everything and everyone
So completely relatable!

@FippertyGibbett
I’ve often wondered how many women, sat in prison, have done their crime while under the influence of PMT

It would be fascinating to find out. I reckon the percentage would be huge.

Words can do more damage than physical things sometimes and you should perhaps choose yours more carefully.

@StoppinBy I stand by them. Would you excuse men who harm other people due to an excess of testosterone?

I would hope not.

All we can do is try to help ourselves. Hormones affect every part of our lives, clearly. But they are not an excuse for abusive behaviour. Ever.

GP's can prescribe an SSRI (antidepressant) to take only in the second half of your cycle for severe PMT/PMDD.

@StoppinBy to be fair to PP, they’re right that hormones absolutely aren’t an excuse for bad behaviour and it does sound like you were fairly abusive when you were like that. Glad you got help

I can’t help with the symptoms, they sound incredibly shit to have to go through which would infuriate me on its own I would recommend pill pockets for things you can’t get a spot on for. We have a dog who eats around tablets hidden in food, but now begs for us to give her the medicine because she loves those treats so much.

Hello my lovely I have this too but I get it from roughly ovulation.
I'm seeing a therapist at the moment who thinks I have bpd not officially diagnosed but I'm ok the rest of the month just the run up to my period I hate my family I hate my life my house who I am everything. I personally think I have pmdd which is severe PMS google and see if it ties up with what your describing also I'd suggest keeping a mood and symptoms diary to take to gp. big hugs it's awful to live with xxx

Yes, me OP. I am a completely different person leading up to and during my period. I HATE everyone. Not just a bit of irritation but raging fury and hatred.

I really feel for you. Why you're describing isn't normal PMS, not if it's every/most months.

Given it's only 1 day, I guess you should have a little think about what you'd like before visiting the GP. For example, can you take that day off each month and just wollow in bed? Or would you prefer medication?

Do you also have endometriosis? My friend has it and also has terrible PMS rage. I do sympathise, it must feel so horrible being that angry 💐

I used to get like this too. Almost got myself killed running into traffic in the dark and rain in a complete rage once. That frightened me.

I was living in Vietnam at the time and I knew someone who was training to be an acupuncturist. I went to her and had a few sessions. Afterwards I had the most painful period I had ever had and since then the PMS rages went away.

I would definitely recommend trying it.

Once I hacked my fringe off in a rage
Right before a big business trip abroad
Has to wear some Sloaney headband

I looked like a dick

GoogleDr Maryon Stewart - she has a Programme. I followed it and my PMT went away. It’s nutrition, exercise and supplements. It balances your hormones. Took three months for the effect to work but PMs totally gone. Pm me if you want more information

@Dillydally2020 yes, be wary of therapists, psychiatrists etc. who try to make psychiatric diagnoses - they often don’t have specialist knowledge of how the endocrine system/disorders can impact mental health.

Especially if you have the two good weeks, then symptoms in the body such as headaches in the run up to your period.

OP I completely understand what you're saying, I've been there and it's really bad. What fixed me was a Mirena (I got it for torrential periods but it sorted the Rage too). Please talk to a GP who specialises in womens things, if you get no joy try another one, there are quite a few medical options available, don't waste your time with evening primrose oil and that sort of thing

@strugglingwithlife

I think you should look into some of the suggestions that have worked for people. It's not normal but it can change.

I am frequently amazed how we didn't divorce - there was utter hatred for him but that has all gone.

If your plan doesn't work, I would really recommend vitex agnus castus. It's a herbal supplement to balance hormones, and it really worked for me, although I understand herbs don't work for everyone. IMO it would be better to give that a go before going down the pharmaceutical route, but whatever you prefer is right for you.

If you do give the herbs a go, start them about two weeks before your period is due. Take them every day for several months. You might have some weird changes to your period for the first few months, but I guess this is just the hormones readjusting.

After a few months, mine were generally far better-behaved - they stopped pulling those pranks on me - and I felt much more emotionally 'in control' during those days.

This thread is fascinating, I don't know how you all cope every month. I've been on the depo for 14 years, not had a period or PMT in that time I can barely remember what a period is like. You would think medicine could solve all this by now wouldn't you?

I could have written your post Op and I I totally identify with your experience of the rage release when the bleeding starts. Various things do make an enormous difference to me, v low carb diet, very high intensity exercise, cutting sugar and caffeine. Alcohol a definite no go.
But one thing i noticed recently and this was strange, I believe that calcium supplements massively relieved my pmt. don’t know why? Wonder if anyone else knows the reason?
Also . You may not want to hear it , but I arrange my whole life around my menstrual cycles because i can’t seem to manage simple tasks with pmt ( everything I cook turns to shit, I can’t listen to music, can’t work efficiently) . I’m lucky enough to be self employed so try and max out my productivity for the other three weeks. In this time I also declutter stuff because clutter and pmt is a combo I can’t handle. I fill my freezer, align my finances etc. Because for the week before my period all I can do is mull over my (ridiculous) grievances, cry in bed, stress about insignificant things, and make extravagant and unnecessary purchases which I later regret.

Thank you CoRhona

@Buzzthedragon I also can't cope with simple tasks during the run up to a period. It really is miserable

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EPO has helped me. Also much improved after stopping hormonal contraception- love my copper coil.

I had the same issue, just all consuming rage and logically I could tell my response was disproportionate but my god, the red mist came down. I've been on Citalopram for anxiety and depression and it has almost completely disappeared.

I’ve had a few moments like that with peri menopause pmt. I was particularly bad last year while my husband was extremely ill in hospital- perhaps the extra stress topped it up. I actually went to the dr for something else and mentioned it. The (young female) Doctor actually laughed and mumbled about oil of evening primrose. Didn’t take it seriously at all. I felt like crying when I came out. I gave up sugar and processed food for a few months and noticed a big improvement.

I used to get this and it was horrible. It coincided with being on the pill - pretty sure it was Microgynon - and as soon as I noticed the connection I stopped taking the pill and haven't had to go through any debilitating rages since. That was 12 years ago. Whatever was in that pill wasn't helping my moods.

I hope you can get to the bottom of it because it was horrible. Like I'd been possessed. The looks people would give me and the way they'd tiptoe round me when I was being unreasonable...

Oh and never attempt anything tricky involving animals if you're in a crap mood! It NEVER works! They either make your mood 10 times worse, or run away / lose their trust for you. Not worth it. Wait for a better day.