To spend Christmas with in laws ? Are we selfish if we do ?

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We are a family of three. DH, DD (1 ) and I.

We see my in-laws and their adult children who live at home and work from home occasionally. So they're kind of in our support bubble. MIL has been in hospital due to an operation but got out yesterday.

Would you spend Christmas with them and stay at their house ?

Your MIL has had an operation - do you really think she should be hosting Christmas?!

It was ambulatory and we would do the cooking etc.

i dont know , do you work from home?
how old is mil?

How is MILs health and strength? Can you visit rather than stay? What are your current Covid risks?

Yup. Work from home, but MIL doesn't, neither does DH or FIL. They go out to work. MIL is in 50s.

Let me caveat this by saying they'll be offended if we DONT go. Hahah MIL health is fine. Operation was a day thing. No overnight stay.

Support bubble? That's only if you're a single adult household. You don't have a support bubble, you just go against guidelines

@worriedandannoyed nope. Look it up www.gov.uk/guidance/making-a-support-bubble-with-another-household we are not going against guidelines...

If you can quarantine till then it should be okay.
I'm in a similar position but 4 families meeting we'll go after dinner for 2 hours max.

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You can also have one if you have a baby who was under 1 on 2nd December, a child under 5 with a disability, or are an adult carer for someone with dementia. They changed the rules starting 2nd December.

Which bit of the support bubble regulations do you think you come under OP? It's not clear from your posts.

@Camomila thank you. Yes. This just shows how ill informed and judgemental people are. We aren't breaking any rules at all by seeing them occasionally and having help. Our baby isn't even one yet- but not far off.

@thetoughhaveleft your household includes a child who is under the age of one or was under that age on 2 December 2020

Maybe you should read the section of your link about who can be in a support bubble - from your OP you or your in laws do not fall under any of the categories

@Womencanlift Who can make a support bubble
Not everybody can form a support bubble. However, on 2 December the rules changed to widen eligibility for forming one.
You can form a support bubble with another household of any size if:
• you live by yourself – even if carers visit you to provide support
• you are the only adult in your household who does not need continuous care as a result of a disability
• your household includes a child who is under the age of one or was under that age on 2 December 2020
• your household includes a child with a disability who requires continuous care and is under the age of 5, or was under that age on 2 December 2020
• you are aged 16 or 17 living with others of the same age and without any adults
• you are a single adult living with one or more children who are under the age of 18 or were under that age on 12 June 2020
You should not form a support bubble with a household that is part of another support bubble.

Our child is under the age of 1. So what's wrong here ?

You said your DD was 1 and now she isn't.

She's about to turn one, I don't like to be too specific on here.. so just gave a ballpark. I didn't think this post would be about whether we are breaking the rules of the support bubble. We really are not.

You said in your OP that your baby was 1 - people are picking up on that. I know you did it for shorthand but that’s why.

Anyway - I’d go. If you all WFH then you’re not high-risk to them, and it’s their choice as the more vulnerable, and they’d choose to see you.

How old is your child?

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I have a 10.5m old I feel a bit worried every time I go inside DMs house, as the change wasn't very well publicised.

@Camomila yes that's true. It was not very well publicised but I'm so grateful for the change. It makes a big difference when you have a baby.

You are going to go anyway. Why do you need MN to agree that is ok

@Ymlaen honestly I wanted to know what people think. Just curious

Ok you have now clarified your child’s age so you are now not breaking the rules.

However multiple adults in one support people is not only risky - particularly if one is vulnerable - it also goes against why these were set up (to support single people who were on their own) but guess the government have changed that along with everything else

Your OP says your child is 1? Is that not the case?