Pregnancy Announcement

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I've just found out I'm pregnant again! This will be my fifth child- quite unexpected but a very happy surprise.

I've never done big announcements with babies before but as I'm 11, nearly 12 weeks gone I'm ready to let people know. Thinking of announcing it on Christmas day, we have a group video call thing set up with my parents, Dh's parents and lots of family so it's an ideal time to tell them.

Any ideas as to how? I was thinking holding up a babygrow or something but DS4 is 10 months old so it might be a bit confusing. No bump yet either.

My issue is my SIL told me yesterday that she's going to be announcing her moving in with her boyfriend on Christmas during the call and I don't want to step on toes or ruin their news. I know she'll be thrilled for us but this is her first bit of big news as all her siblings are married and have babies.

YABU= Announce on Christmas day, SIL won't mind
YANBU=Announce seperately, SIL will mind

I'd announce it separately, let SIL have Christmas Day. Could you do it at New Years maybe? Tell them you're finishing this year as a family of six and can't wait to see what 2021 brings for the seven of you then see how long it takes them to twig.

Announce separately, let your SIL have this moment.

You could ask SIL? IF not just wait

I like Foxy's idea above.

We are announcing on nye With similar ‘message’ as foxy suggested and can add in it’s a boy as we had NIPt test . Our anomaly nye so works nicely . I definitely think let your sister have her moment or speak to her first xx

100% let SIL have Christmas Day. You've shared baby news four times before, whereas you've said yourself this is her first bit of real news to share. I cant fathom why you would even be considering pushing in on her announcement?

You say you've never done "big announcements" before for the previous four pregnancies, so the fact you have decided you must do it this time just stinks of stealing her thunder.

Wait until New Years, like someone else has mentioned and stop being petty/selfish.

Objectively, your news is probably more exciting. Immediate family is likely going to be more interested in a new person than who lives with whom.

Generally I'd say the more good news the better, but I really think yours would dwarf hers.

I'd definitely let your SIL share her news, you haven't made an announcement before so I'd keep it low key with a new years message similar to Foxys.

Let her have her moment. No rush, you’ll be pregnant for many more months to come. I like the NYE idea.

Let her have the moment and as other posters have said, share it over the new year, perhaps arrange another zoom call and have the scan picture on the wall behind. See who notices! Perhaps she wouldn't think twice about the fact that you were sharing news too and would be thrilled for you, but I'm sure she will appreciate that you held off. Congratulations!

Agree with pp that if you have never done this before and suddenly having the big reveal with your 5th on the same day as your SIL has happy news to share it does scream as thunder stealing and she will be pissed

Do people ‘announce’ they are moving in with someone? Misses point

I think a Christmas Day announcement or any announcement about moving in together seems OTT. However she wants to do it, has told you about it and you have n er ma a big pregnancy announcement before. So I would definitely leave her to have her moment or it will look like you are trying to trump her news.

*never made a big pregnancy announcement before

@HeyChubbee it's no different to 'announcing' any other random news I guess.

I've never really felt the need to announce anything about my life tbh as I hate the attention but some people do I suppose.

I found out I was pregnant the day before BILs wedding.

Due to a ridiculous mix up with shopping bags at the hotel (thanks DH!!) they obviously twigged and asked outright so I confirmed that I was indeed pregnant but we had no intention of letting it overshadow their big day.

That evening we had a big family dinner and my SIL said to my MIL "so you must be excited about becoming a Granny then?"

Cue much confusion and red faces

Let your SIL have her day and, as others have suggested, do it at New Year.

Let your sister have the day with her announcement. I’m sure you can wait till new year then announce it

I didn’t realise people announced moving in with someone... I’d announce it on Christmas Day personally.

Definitely wait, let her announce her news.

My issue is my SIL told me yesterday that she's going to be announcing her moving in with her boyfriend on Christmas during the call

Christ. That one would have a strong element of anti climax in my family (didn't realise announcing moving in together was a 'thing'!) but I suppose she knows her family...

Unless of course she's still living at home and her parents want her room back in which case it might be champers all round. 🎈🍾🎉👯🥳

Congratulations OP! How exciting.

I'd go with Foxy's post above. Your SIL has confided in you, and if I were her I wouldn't take you stealing her thunder very well.

Most people aren’t in the habit of announcing things generally but that’s not the point. This is happy news for the SIL, it’s been a shocking year, and it means enough to her that she gets to enjoy sharing it with her loved ones to have told OP in advance.

It might not seem that major, I’ve never done something like that either, but it is to her and OP is right to be considerate.

How about announcing yours at New Year?

I'm not sure why either of you need to "announce" rather than just let people know, but if that's your bag, go for it. It doesn't really matter if it's on the same day, it's all happy news. Can't have too much of that.

Agree with PPs, let her have her moment. It’s obviously important to her to announce it in this way else she wouldn’t have mentioned it.

Congratulations on your pregnancy OP.