Pregnancy Announcement

[Barmyfarmy]

I've just found out I'm pregnant again! This will be my fifth child- quite unexpected but a very happy surprise.

I've never done big announcements with babies before but as I'm 11, nearly 12 weeks gone I'm ready to let people know. Thinking of announcing it on Christmas day, we have a group video call thing set up with my parents, Dh's parents and lots of family so it's an ideal time to tell them.

Any ideas as to how? I was thinking holding up a babygrow or something but DS4 is 10 months old so it might be a bit confusing. No bump yet either.

My issue is my SIL told me yesterday that she's going to be announcing her moving in with her boyfriend on Christmas during the call and I don't want to step on toes or ruin their news. I know she'll be thrilled for us but this is her first bit of big news as all her siblings are married and have babies.

YABU= Announce on Christmas day, SIL won't mind
YANBU=Announce seperately, SIL will mind

Agree with PPs that a New Year announcement would be better. If she has already told you she’s going to make the announcement at Christmas it must be a big deal for her.
What about two pictures, one with all of you saying “It was a crazy 2020..” then another pic with you holding the scan pic/newborn baby grow etc “And we can’t wait for 2021!”?

I'm also about the moving in announcement. When I moved in with now-DH it involved finding a new job and moving to a city on the other side of the country but I didn't announce it, I just did it and told my parents what I was doing as a matter of course!

However, I agree with pps that you should announce your pregnancy at NYE and let her have this if it's important to her.

Moving in seriously?

New Years sounds like a good time for you to announce your lovely baby.

My sister was pregnant with her first at Christmas when I had found out that I was pregnant with my 3rd. Although we all knew she was pregnant and had announced it long before I wanted her to just have a lovely Christmas feeling special. I later told family nearer to new years day. Let her be excited for moving in with her boyfriend.

If you don't usually do a big announcement, then don't this time either!

Phone/message individually.

If you've never done a big announcement before then doing it when your SIL has told you her plans stinks of trying to one-up her.

@Womencanlift

Agree with pp that if you have never done this before and suddenly having the big reveal with your 5th on the same day as your SIL has happy news to share it does scream as thunder stealing and she will be pissed

I agree. If you had always been a big 'announcer' perhaps you could get away with it, but as it would be out of character it does smack of thunder stealing, even if you don't mean it to be. Let SIL have her exciting news share first

Wont the BBC put it on the evening news for you?

Yeah let your SIL have her moment. If you upstage her it might ruin your relationship.

@WillSantaBeComingToTown

Wont the BBC put it on the evening news for you?

🤣🤣🤣🤣

This. It just stinks of jealousy from your side to be honest. You’ve had 5 announcements already let someone else shine. I’d be so pissed if my sister did this to me.

Any ideas as to how? I was thinking holding up a babygrow or something but DS4 is 10 months old so it might be a bit confusing. No bump yet either.

Ooh, I don't know - how about with words?

😬 I would wait.. you may be disappointed by reactions to a fifth announcement anyway? Its not exactly unexpected for people at this point (I say that as a mum of 4). If you've never announced before then it will look like you do just want to get the spotlight back to you.

If you don't normally do a big announcement, as others have said, it just totally looks like you're stealing your SIL's thunder.

Let her have this.

Is it too late to post a present? With DD2 I found out I was pregnant on 22nd December. I wrapped up a pregnancy test for my parents and put it under the tree. My mum cried (in a good way!) You could maybe do that and write on it “not to be opened until our video call on Christmas Day”?

A "moving in with your boyfriend" announcement is now a thing??

@LassFromLeedsWithALustForLife

Is it too late to post a present? With DD2 I found out I was pregnant on 22nd December. I wrapped up a pregnancy test for my parents and put it under the tree. My mum cried (in a good way!) You could maybe do that and write on it “not to be opened until our video call on Christmas Day”?

A pissy stick. Who says the spirit of Christmas is dead?

I agree with the Pps who have suggested new years.

Sil has already told you she wants to make an announcement so just let her have her moment.

I love the Callander idea posted up thread, I'll definitely be stealing that one for my new years announcement!

You may not get the reaction you want especially after people have had a couple of drinks in them. Many people aren’t bothered after baby number 1. Number 5 definitely doesn’t require an announcement.

Definately announce it separately. Let her have her time.

Definitely let your SIL have her moment if she's already mentioned she wants to make her 'announcement' on Christmas Day.
Personally I think both 'announcements' sound totally naff .... and I have say that I wouldn't get over excited about someone telling me about a fifth pregnancy....

Why are people sharing their wee sticks with their families?!

Omg at the people wrapping up piss-soaked sticks and putting pics of them on calendars. Gross! Keep your urine to yourself!

@Nunoftheother

Any ideas as to how? I was thinking holding up a babygrow or something but DS4 is 10 months old so it might be a bit confusing. No bump yet either.

Ooh, I don't know - how about with words?

This. Cut the theatricals and just tell them you have some news, you are expecting another baby. Do it on NYE preferably.

@Bitcherama

Omg at the people wrapping up piss-soaked sticks and putting pics of them on calendars. Gross! Keep your urine to yourself!

What happened to just telling people.