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Pregnancy Announcement

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Barmyfarmy · 18/12/2020 14:13

I've just found out I'm pregnant again! This will be my fifth child- quite unexpected but a very happy surprise.

I've never done big announcements with babies before but as I'm 11, nearly 12 weeks gone I'm ready to let people know. Thinking of announcing it on Christmas day, we have a group video call thing set up with my parents, Dh's parents and lots of family so it's an ideal time to tell them.

Any ideas as to how? I was thinking holding up a babygrow or something but DS4 is 10 months old so it might be a bit confusing. No bump yet either.

My issue is my SIL told me yesterday that she's going to be announcing her moving in with her boyfriend on Christmas during the call and I don't want to step on toes or ruin their news. I know she'll be thrilled for us but this is her first bit of big news as all her siblings are married and have babies.

YABU= Announce on Christmas day, SIL won't mind
YANBU=Announce seperately, SIL will mind

OP posts:
Candyfloss99 · 18/12/2020 18:14

I don't think a 5th baby needs any kind of announcement.

GlummyMcGlummerson · 18/12/2020 18:15

@FoxyTheFox

I'd announce it separately, let SIL have Christmas Day. Could you do it at New Years maybe? Tell them you're finishing this year as a family of six and can't wait to see what 2021 brings for the seven of you then see how long it takes them to twig.
Do this! Your SIL got there first with her idea and any announcement would be massively stealing her thunder
EssentialHummus · 18/12/2020 18:15

Hey OP, congratulations. If you didn't make a big announcement with DC1-4 this seems a bit odd imo. I'd leave it for a bit, as others said, and maybe do whatever you did for the previous "announcements"? Why did you want to do this one differently?

I'm another one who is Confused at pregnancy tests as xmas presents. Just tell people, they'll be delighted (or not), no need for props.

AnneLovesGilbert · 18/12/2020 18:15

Has anyone asked you if you have a tv yet OP? Grin

FoxyTheFox · 18/12/2020 18:16

Why? Its no less loved or special than the other four.

I have four DC, I was just as excited about number four as I was about number one.

GlummyMcGlummerson · 18/12/2020 18:16

Oh and PS CONGRATULATIONS! 🎉

WillSantaBeComingToTown · 18/12/2020 18:18

@MissBaskinIfYoureNasty

Why are people sharing their wee sticks with their families?! Confused
Drama llamas

It is Christmas Day- the day belongs to either Santa or Jesus- not your day

GlummyMcGlummerson · 18/12/2020 18:19

I don't think a 5th baby needs any kind of announcement

You're absolutely right, OP should just buy a Cloak Of Shame to wear for nine months and let people think she's getting fat until they see her with a baby and say "er why didn't you tell me you were pregnant" and she says "well it's the 5th baby therefore irrelevant" Hmm

FWIW I don't get people who are seemingly triggered by quirky birth announcements. It's not my thing, but FFS being that much of a miser and judgmental about other people's choices is no way to live. I really do wonder if people go "Well I wouldn't have done it that way therefore it's WRONG"

Weirdos

GlummyMcGlummerson · 18/12/2020 18:21

@UniversalAunt

Think Meghan at Eugenie’s wedding... so just don’t on Christmas Day. Your news can wait until the New Year & be a lovely start to 2021.
And what about Harry, it was his family, seemingly he doesn't get blamed though what with being a Penis Person
FoxyTheFox · 18/12/2020 18:23

And what about Harry, it was his family, seemingly he doesn't get blamed though what with being a Penis Person

Men never get the blame. No man in that situation is ever the instigator or the decision maker, the poor little lambs all manage to somehow marry a manipulative puppet master of a wife.

MariaHairy · 18/12/2020 18:25

what is a moving in announcement? Confused

GlummyMcGlummerson · 18/12/2020 18:26

@MariaHairy announcing you're moving someone in. Funnily enough

nannybeach · 18/12/2020 18:27

Cannot understand the concept of "unexpectedly pregnant"

GlummyMcGlummerson · 18/12/2020 18:30

Is the stress of Christmas getting to some of you?

There's more utterly pointless and mean comments on this thread than there are actual answers to the OP. People like to stick the boot in when a woman deigns to have more than the middle class standard of 2.4 children don't they? Sometimes I think MN is really lefty and liberal and all of a sudden one thread about 5 children/benefits/being skint and everyone's a jolly fucking Tory

lynsey91 · 18/12/2020 18:34

@nannybeach

Cannot understand the concept of "unexpectedly pregnant"
Especially when she already has 4!
Funatish · 18/12/2020 18:44

Shock at wrapping up peed on sticks

I just told my family. With words from my mouth

MariaHairy · 18/12/2020 18:51

[quote GlummyMcGlummerson]@MariaHairy announcing you're moving someone in. Funnily enough
[/quote]
I get that. Just didn't know it was done by way of a big announcement. first time I read about it is on this thread. Maybe I am odd. Smile

Sally872 · 18/12/2020 18:54

@MariaHairy I think it is just the time when they plan to tell people as they are altogether. I don't think it is like a baby shower or gender reveal.

Coconut2010 · 18/12/2020 18:59

What is it about letting her “have her moment”, “be in the limelight”, “feel special” for something so normal as “moving in” with a boyfriend. I must live in a different world.

Coconut2010 · 18/12/2020 19:03

I also don’t see why making so much fuss about a pregnancy announcement.
Maybe I’m too old but “in my times” we would just tell people (although I admit for the first one we sent a book to the grand parents), there was no such thing as a “gender reveal” party etc

category12 · 18/12/2020 19:08

@Coconut2010

What is it about letting her “have her moment”, “be in the limelight”, “feel special” for something so normal as “moving in” with a boyfriend. I must live in a different world.
It's the fact SIL wants to make it an announcement and it's important to her - doesn't matter if other people don't think it's worthy of being announced as news. I think "hey, we're moving in together!" is quite a big deal really, and why not indulge someone when they've made it clear they want to?
GlummyMcGlummerson · 18/12/2020 19:34

It's the fact SIL wants to make it an announcement and it's important to her - doesn't matter if other people don't think it's worthy of being announced as news. I think "hey, we're moving in together!" is quite a big deal really, and why not indulge someone when they've made it clear they want to?

Exactly.
Rather worrying that people can't grasp the concept that some things mean something different to different people.

FoxyTheFox · 18/12/2020 20:05

Cannot understand the concept of "unexpectedly pregnant"

I bet if you tried you could.

Here's an example: I was using the contraceptive injection to prevent pregnancy therefore it was very unexpected to find out I was pregnant.

GlummyMcGlummerson · 18/12/2020 21:44

@FoxyTheFox they understand perfectly but they need another way to stick the boot in so a passive aggressive post says what they need to say.

Underadesk · 18/12/2020 22:06

Announce seperately. To be the last one to do anything sucks, and to have that then taken over by something that is in most people’s eyes bigger, must be crap