To call my sister out on social media?

[GlummyMcGlummerson]

My sister has been very vocal on social media during the pandemic - posts nearly every day among the lines of STAY THE FUCK HOME and 'stop killing grannies'. Mostly posts about how her and her family "haven't so much as been for a walk in 5 months". Irks me because it's a lie, I went for a walk with her as soon as we were allowed to. Lots of blaming neighbours and a bit of mask bullying too. But her eldest (18) has, the whole time, been between hers, her dad's and her boyfriend's - because she can't bear to be without her boyfriend around her apparently

Anyway, sister has shared an article from the BBC about how there will be a spike in cases in January because of the relaxed Christmas rules. She's done a 5 paragraph rant about "irresponsible people making the sacrifices me and my family have made by staying home the whole time, worth nothing". And how her and her family aren't seeing a single person during the relaxation period, except for her MIL who is already in their bubble as a single person household.

WIBU to comment saying "Oh so I guess you don't want niece to come over Boxing Day as planned"?

For context: my kids are at their dads on Christmas Day and night. I'm picking them up mid-morning Boxing Day then on my way home i was gonna pick my niece up, she hasn't seen my kids since October and they all adore each other, so I thought a sleepover while we're allowed (and back home the next day before restrictions return to normal) would be nice. Sister bit my hand off at the offer! She knows that my kids will have been mixing with ex's family the day before and that I also will have had lunch with our aunty/uncle and grandad. So lots of mixing, she's knows this. I'm fine with it as it's kept within the rules, assumed she was too. But this attempt at virtue signalling makes me want to call her out as she's either full of shit or she's changed her mind and not told me.

If you call her out on SM there will be a shitstorm and it will damage the relationship with her and your Niece. Say something in private, if you have to.

No, don’t do it in public. But do say something. I have that kind of relationship with my siblings where I’d be able to say “what on earth are you posting this for you daft wazzock”. I’m not sure why you wouldn’t, unless you’d throw full flounce and never speak to you again or something else that you didn’t mention in the OP

Don’t air dirty laundry in public - you’ll just escalate things to a massive row. Say something in private instead.

I agree - don't call her out on FB but do it in private.

Send her a message "Just seen your FB post (screenshot) - does this mean I shouldn't bring niece over on Boxing Day?"

Grow up and ignore it.

How annoying. Yes, I agree with KittenCalledBob's advice.

I suppose I'm a grumpy arse today (I'm a teacher and pranged a parent's Range Rover at home time FFS) but also I'm conscious that her posts will make a lot of people feel like shit and maybe being called out will make her STFU with her lies. I could say to her privately "stop posting bollocks" but she would cry and tell mum on me

I wouldn't do it, but these people going crazy on social media over Covid do make my blood boil.

That includes anti vaxer conspiracy theorists and those that believe you should yourself in your house forever.

It is pretty odd, but I do find Covid Policing seriously grating. The phrase 'virtue signalling' does seem to be the best descriptive for what she's doing, particularly because it's so often the case that the signalling is coming from a place that's less than virtuous!

I'd talk to her directly on the phone, not via text or messenger. A conversation can be kept light whereas text is quite easy to misconstrue (and is there as a permanent reminder)!

Mute her on sm for a bit, you’ll feel better

Do it!!! Haha - in the minority but I hate virtue signalling. Call her out!!

I’m going to buck the trend and say yes, do.

Don’t do it! You will only end up the ‘bad guy’. I’d still call her up and take the Mickey!

You seem to be having so many issues with your sister lately.

Send her a message saying ‘Just seen your post, doesn’t that mean x isn’t allowed to come on Boxing Day’?

@RedpencilBluepen

You seem to be having so many issues with your sister lately.

This is the only issue about her I think I've ever posted

You probably shouldn't call her out on it in public, but let her know privately that you've clocked her nonsense and she's a hypocrite (among other things).

That's the sensible-me advice.

The current, fed up of social media shit like that from people like that-me, says yes, call her out on it, do it now, and let us know what happens.

😬

@Omeara

Send her a message saying ‘Just seen your post, doesn’t that mean x isn’t allowed to come on Boxing Day’?

Better still, say it’s not happening because of the shit she posts

I can't think of a single situation where confronting someone on Social Media helps.

I think I’d privately message her saying god you post some shit on FB!

Meh I’d rather block her and stop seeing her posts and move on with my life

What’s the point in wasting your time getting involved in an argument

I don't think any good will come from doing this publically on Facebook. But yes, ask her if she now doesn't want you to have her daughter after seeing her Facebook post. That can then lead to a conversation about why she's such a bellend on Facebook.

@Omeara

Send her a message saying ‘Just seen your post, doesn’t that mean x isn’t allowed to come on Boxing Day’?

This - why do you care about what people think about her FB posts ?

Tempting. But no I wouldn't do it. I'd tell her to her face to stop being such a hypocrite first.

Definitely do not call her out on SM, that is a disaster waiting to happen. Do feel free to call her and tell her she's being a total hypocrite in private though.