To call my sister out on social media?

[GlummyMcGlummerson]

My sister has been very vocal on social media during the pandemic - posts nearly every day among the lines of STAY THE FUCK HOME and 'stop killing grannies'. Mostly posts about how her and her family "haven't so much as been for a walk in 5 months". Irks me because it's a lie, I went for a walk with her as soon as we were allowed to. Lots of blaming neighbours and a bit of mask bullying too. But her eldest (18) has, the whole time, been between hers, her dad's and her boyfriend's - because she can't bear to be without her boyfriend around her apparently

Anyway, sister has shared an article from the BBC about how there will be a spike in cases in January because of the relaxed Christmas rules. She's done a 5 paragraph rant about "irresponsible people making the sacrifices me and my family have made by staying home the whole time, worth nothing". And how her and her family aren't seeing a single person during the relaxation period, except for her MIL who is already in their bubble as a single person household.

WIBU to comment saying "Oh so I guess you don't want niece to come over Boxing Day as planned"?

For context: my kids are at their dads on Christmas Day and night. I'm picking them up mid-morning Boxing Day then on my way home i was gonna pick my niece up, she hasn't seen my kids since October and they all adore each other, so I thought a sleepover while we're allowed (and back home the next day before restrictions return to normal) would be nice. Sister bit my hand off at the offer! She knows that my kids will have been mixing with ex's family the day before and that I also will have had lunch with our aunty/uncle and grandad. So lots of mixing, she's knows this. I'm fine with it as it's kept within the rules, assumed she was too. But this attempt at virtue signalling makes me want to call her out as she's either full of shit or she's changed her mind and not told me.

If it were me I would just unfollow/ pause her social media posts for a while, take a deep breath and remember what I love about her as my sister.

Don't say anything. Social media does more damage than it's worth sometimes. If not for that you wouldn't know nor care what she was saying to other people.

If it was my sister I would. But we are close and she would get over it eventually. Would serve her right for being a dick. Reminds me I did actually call a relative out who was going on about how all the immigrants come over and take our jobs when all our people are furloughed.

Ooh, I would be very tempted to do that, although it's not the best option I would certainly be satisfying.

I knew YWBU from just reading the thread title. Don't be so childish as to "call her out" on social media, irritating though her posts are. Ignore it and get on with your own life.

If she puts this on social media, never speak to her again.

This is actually a good demonstration of where people like her have got us

mobile.twitter.com/CllrEjiofor/status/1338903582855278593

Just give it the "Wow" reaction and don't say anything.

Call her out, but privately. Not online, not in front of anyone else. But have a word

@PinkiOcelot

I think I’d privately message her saying god you post some shit on FB!

Soooo tempting to call her out, but I’d do ^ this instead!

Are you 13?

Adults don't 'call each other out' on social media.

I would

I could say to her privately "stop posting bollocks" but she would cry and tell mum on me

She'd do that if you did it in public too though wouldn't she?

Say nothing. Do nothing. It would be vulgar if you ‘called her out’ in public.
If she starts telling you off for whatever, then privately ask her to stop.

my own little soap opera... the only place I go to lots is Post Office. The Qs are getting longer, more & more people waiting outside, and increasingly crowded indoors (forget 2m) even when weather is nice & we could easily wait outside. Crowding indoors doesn't get you served faster.

Guess what, some of the people crowding the door started having a shared moan today about, you guessed it, people not wearing masks right or otherwise observing soc-distancing well enough. Just WTAF do they think they're doing. I'm not afraid of the virus yet apparently they are so then they... Oh well.

I would post that since she feels that way you will meet to cancel the visit with niece since there is so mixing going on

@GlummyMcGlummerson

I suppose I'm a grumpy arse today (I'm a teacher and pranged a parent's Range Rover at home time FFS) but also I'm conscious that her posts will make a lot of people feel like shit and maybe being called out will make her STFU with her lies. I could say to her privately "stop posting bollocks" but she would cry and tell mum on me

Oh I missed this

She’d cry and tell your mum? How old is she?

Sounds like she needs to be told or she’ll never grow up.

Just ignore it. It’ll stress you out if you confront her. Other people probably think she sounds stupid too.

Didn’t you post about your sister getting your mum to have her baby on the same day as your son earlier and had that thread deleted?

How many of her friends are your friends on an?

Could you’ innocently’ post a photo of you and her put on a walk and tag her in it?

I wouldn't do it on Facebook for all the reasons listed. COVID has triggered some very weird behaviour in a lot of people and for some its their only outlet. I wouldn't do it and your DSIS's rants sound exhausting but if you call her on it publicly in front of friends it won't end well.

I'd call her and say "you do realise where this leaves us re DNiece" etc and maybe gently point out that some of the stuff she posts is quite inflammatory. Then leave it.

I wouldn't make any major decisions about a family member at the moment: people are so overwrought and in such weird headspaces that you can't really make long-term judgements. But I would point out anything which is blatantly hypocritical or which is likely to come back and bite her on the arse.

I know how you feel OP, sometimes it’s hard not to say anything. I have a friend who was posting all the “stay the fuck at home” memes on Facebook and now they are texting me telling me how they are travelling miles to stay with family for Christmas (possibly into a tier 3 area), most of the family are going, more than 3 households 😐.

I haven't laughed this much since the first lockdown. Get a life OP.

i hate hypocrites i wold say somethng privately

Just roll your eyes till they nearly fall out and think to yourself "bloody hell, my sister is a right bellend".

Anyone who knows her in the real world who reads it will already know it's bollocks and anyone who is just a SM acquaintance won't give a shit because they've seen a load of fake Covid posturing bullshit already.

Not worth starting a family feud over.

Get a brain, get a life. Honestly FB has a lot to answer for, well particularly for those who use it. Feel somewhat sorry for the ranters and those who foment anger.

Ditch the SM and you will be far better off. But I suppose some will fear losing out on gossip and trends, that is what FB wants. So go for it then and keep your rants to yourselves!

Tell her directly, privately