To call my sister out on social media?

[GlummyMcGlummerson]

My sister has been very vocal on social media during the pandemic - posts nearly every day among the lines of STAY THE FUCK HOME and 'stop killing grannies'. Mostly posts about how her and her family "haven't so much as been for a walk in 5 months". Irks me because it's a lie, I went for a walk with her as soon as we were allowed to. Lots of blaming neighbours and a bit of mask bullying too. But her eldest (18) has, the whole time, been between hers, her dad's and her boyfriend's - because she can't bear to be without her boyfriend around her apparently

Anyway, sister has shared an article from the BBC about how there will be a spike in cases in January because of the relaxed Christmas rules. She's done a 5 paragraph rant about "irresponsible people making the sacrifices me and my family have made by staying home the whole time, worth nothing". And how her and her family aren't seeing a single person during the relaxation period, except for her MIL who is already in their bubble as a single person household.

WIBU to comment saying "Oh so I guess you don't want niece to come over Boxing Day as planned"?

For context: my kids are at their dads on Christmas Day and night. I'm picking them up mid-morning Boxing Day then on my way home i was gonna pick my niece up, she hasn't seen my kids since October and they all adore each other, so I thought a sleepover while we're allowed (and back home the next day before restrictions return to normal) would be nice. Sister bit my hand off at the offer! She knows that my kids will have been mixing with ex's family the day before and that I also will have had lunch with our aunty/uncle and grandad. So lots of mixing, she's knows this. I'm fine with it as it's kept within the rules, assumed she was too. But this attempt at virtue signalling makes me want to call her out as she's either full of shit or she's changed her mind and not told me.

@RedpencilBluepen

Didn’t you post about your sister getting your mum to have her baby on the same day as your son earlier and had that thread deleted?

No that wasn't me, my mum lives abroad and so it would be a long way to drop kids off

Private message her and call her out. I think that is acceptable to do but not on social media; she is family.

No thanks @veeeeh I like having social media, why would I be "far better off"? Better off from what?

Aaah I was hoping you'd all tell me to go for it then if it went tits up I could inwardly tell myself it's not my fault it's MN I will message her privately though as actually she may want to cancel the visit and just hasn't told me.

I don't usually bite but my head is so far up my area about the prang. The worst of it is, the parent whose car I pranged, I've just sent them their DD's report and in it I said she really lacks concentration it seems hypocrisy runs in the family ey 😂

*arse bit area

If she'd cry and tell your mum on you about you challenging her bs in private, imagine how long your mum is going to have to ground you if you do it in public on Facebook.

People like that are so frustrating. I have a friend who is a member of the self-appointed Covid police, both on and off social media, and she’s just told me she’s ‘stretching’ the Christmas bubble rules to include.... six households. But as others have said, no good ever comes from confronting people on social media!

Nah just leave it , people like your sis make me chuckle.
A friend of mine does similar, when we had to queue for our non essentials earlier on in the first lockdown she would also queue but comment on SM all these people can't be shopping for essentials .
Today she had a rant that we were in tier 3 but people still not following the rules , sigh I don't know what was up I just ignored and went about my day as what you should do op .
I think in time people are going to be very embarrassed about how they have behaved or they should be anyway .

As others have said it’s not worth the hassle the confrontation will cause. But I would mute her on FB so you don’t see her batshit posts anymore.

@category12

If she'd cry and tell your mum on you about you challenging her bs in private, imagine how long your mum is going to have to ground you if you do it in public on Facebook.

It really is like being kids again. Example: Several years ago she got pregnant with the niece in question - but baby wasn't her husbands (they hadn't had sex in a year so she couldn't even claim it was) - she'd been shagging her colleague so she left her husband for the new man, lots of upset from her kids, and the new man (who in fairness is still around) moved in fairly quickly. Obviously her ex was devastated, made worse by the fact that he suffered from depression. I have a flat that I normally rent out but my tenant had just left and my sister asked me as a favour to let her husband stay for free so he could be out her way but still have money to pay bills (he'd been signed off work over it all). And I obliged. So one day, the gas man was coming to inspect the fire but he called to say there was no answer. BIL wasn't picking up the phone and I panicked and called sister saying have you heard from him (he'd been suicidal before)? She said "oh for fucks sake He'll probably be having a lie in, all he does is sleep since he got his own place and was signed off, the lazy bastard.". It was 9am. I told her not to be so insensitive, that he'd been through a lot and if DH had got another woman pregnant while married to me I think I'd probably fancy a lie in too.

Well, Merry hell broke loose. She started screaming and crying down the phone then apparently called an ambulance because she couldn't breath because of what I'd said. She told my mum who declared she (mum) wouldn't speak to me until I apologised to Sister which I did to keep the peace, but I stick by what I said. And then she said she "needed time to think" if she was gonna forgive me or not. Never mind that I was out of pocket helping her husband after her affair, I was the bad guy. Mum still refers to it as "the time Glummy put Sister in the hospital" 🙄 luckily I have an amazing brother who balances out the weirdos in the family

BIL was in the shower BTW 🙄 poor bugger wasn't even having a lie in

Just ignore her, I think it's really immature to call out on SM. Personally, I'd distance myself and unfriend/mute on SM to reduce the drama.

In the interest of family harmony and goodwill to all men/women this Christmas, it's probably best not to wash your dirty linen in public. Tell her she is a hypocrite in private.

call her out in private. And warn her, if she keeps up the fake virtue signalling on publiuc media, you could do the same there.

Privately message her asking why she’s so vocal on this topic when she doesn’t follow what she preaches. She needs to stop being a hypocrite and shaming others. There are too many people like your sister.

Will you actually do it though? Because from your previous threads you won’t call your mum out on her toxic and abusive behaviour even when it’s affecting your children, yet you claim you are going to call your sister out for something as trivial as posting something silly on facebook 🤔🤔

@Funkyfriends who said I hadn't called my mum out? I didn't at any point say I wouldn't. Besides the relationship with the my mum and sister are very different - mum is a narc whereas sister is a good person for the most part she's just sometimes thoughtless

Meh.
For me, that last post doesn't do what I'm sure it was supposed to. Depressed husband, no sex for a year yet you seem more pleased than anything else.
I DON'T think cheating is ok, I really don't but if it were my sister living such an unhappy life, I like to think my go to wouldn't be righteous judgement.
You just seem like you want to put her in her place in the most humiliating way you can. An immature attitude to take to SM and it would absolutely go balls up for you

@CJsGoldfish I wasn't pleased she had an affair though everyone is fine and happy now and has been for some time. But that was an extremely insensitive comment to make, and if a woman had come on MN saying her husband had kicked her out after getting his mistress pregnant then moved said mistress in with the kids, then called her lazy for having a lie in, he'd be absolutely crucified and rightly so.

A family member called me out on fb for using an f word on my own page. Apparently I was an embarrassment!
I didn’t reply to the comment but it really hurt that someone felt they could tell me how to behave.
I’ve blocked the person and I don’t intend having contact again.
Showing people up in front of their friend’s because you are being a sanctimonious prick will not go well.

So I messaged Sis saying "Do you still want me to have Annabelle on Boxing Day?"

She said "Of course!" Then "Unless you can't anymore?"

😂😂

I've gently said I wondered if you didn't as your status said you weren't mixing family.
I shall wait with baited breath! I'm not going to cancel it as the kids are really looking forward to it.

Eeeee unless you want to have a massive falling out i'd bite your tongue, just unfollow her posts for a while

No good can ever come of getting into personal disagreements on social media.

Besides which I suspect that after tomorrow it won’t be an issue any more if the government change the stance on relaxation over Christmas....

Will other people be being stressed by your idiot sister's rants - really?

More fool them in that case.

I could have written this about my sister! Answer is ignore it, it’s not worth it but it is difficult!

@GlummyMcGlummerson

So I messaged Sis saying "Do you still want me to have Annabelle on Boxing Day?"

She said "Of course!" Then "Unless you can't anymore?"

😂😂

I've gently said I wondered if you didn't as your status said you weren't mixing family.
I shall wait with baited breath! I'm not going to cancel it as the kids are really looking forward to it.

Good for you!

@Schehezarade I think people's sensitivities are heightened dramatically at the moment and yes I do believe seeing someone calling other people names that who want to mix households at Christmas, could be very upsetting.

Anyhow she replied, and said she is still happy for niece to come over, the status was mainly for her ex's family who by all accounts have been taking the piss with restrictions a little. I said "Ok give me a heads up next time you're fake not-mixing 🤣🤣" and she replied with laughing faces. So all good. I shall eat humble pie from my earlier tantrum and I've never to get in a social media spat maybe I just wanted to take the heat off my hypocritical car accident 😂