To call my sister out on social media?

[GlummyMcGlummerson]

My sister has been very vocal on social media during the pandemic - posts nearly every day among the lines of STAY THE FUCK HOME and 'stop killing grannies'. Mostly posts about how her and her family "haven't so much as been for a walk in 5 months". Irks me because it's a lie, I went for a walk with her as soon as we were allowed to. Lots of blaming neighbours and a bit of mask bullying too. But her eldest (18) has, the whole time, been between hers, her dad's and her boyfriend's - because she can't bear to be without her boyfriend around her apparently

Anyway, sister has shared an article from the BBC about how there will be a spike in cases in January because of the relaxed Christmas rules. She's done a 5 paragraph rant about "irresponsible people making the sacrifices me and my family have made by staying home the whole time, worth nothing". And how her and her family aren't seeing a single person during the relaxation period, except for her MIL who is already in their bubble as a single person household.

WIBU to comment saying "Oh so I guess you don't want niece to come over Boxing Day as planned"?

For context: my kids are at their dads on Christmas Day and night. I'm picking them up mid-morning Boxing Day then on my way home i was gonna pick my niece up, she hasn't seen my kids since October and they all adore each other, so I thought a sleepover while we're allowed (and back home the next day before restrictions return to normal) would be nice. Sister bit my hand off at the offer! She knows that my kids will have been mixing with ex's family the day before and that I also will have had lunch with our aunty/uncle and grandad. So lots of mixing, she's knows this. I'm fine with it as it's kept within the rules, assumed she was too. But this attempt at virtue signalling makes me want to call her out as she's either full of shit or she's changed her mind and not told me.

*I vow never

Just step away from social media.

OP “I do believe seeing someone calling other people names that who want to mix households at Christmas, could be very upsetting.”

I’d tell her that

But also, the lockdown lovers on social media influence the government- if she doesn’t mean what she says, why say it? Do these numpties want endless lockdown?

Don’t do it. You shouldn’t and you know you shouldn’t and nothing good will come if it. Speak to her face to face.

Its 🎄 hurrah. And what's Christmas without a good old Eastenders style family row? Do it. Ruin it for everyone, why not?

No I wouldn't bother. If the DC haven't seen each other in months I wouldn't cause the agro.
Tbf most of her friends will eye roll at you pair acting out on SM.

Why publicly humiliate your sister? Keep it behind closed doors as any respectable family would do. By all means, have a private chat with her, in a light-hearted way, and call her our for 'blatant lying'... but if you were to publicly shame her, that imo would be a very nasty thing to do.

I have a friend who separated from her DH and she has health issues, physical and mental. I gladly helped her with shopping and a few other things. Lockdown happened and she started posting about being lonely and not being able to get out etc. She didn't mention she'd got back with her DH (which she'd told me about in person) She was still posting on SM about loneliness and asking for help. I simply 'privately' messaged her and said ask xxxxx. We didn't fall out. She stopped SM posting though!

So, if I were you, I'd link her SM message in a private msg and say, so on the back of that, DN isn't coming round here then?

Just call her out on it. But in private.

100% do it and update us with results

You don't want to tell her in private because she will cry but you are happy to pull her up in public? You don't think that will upset her?

OP updated about five hours ago. Why do people not read the updates and just carry on with their irrelevant advice 😳.

Airing dirty laundry makes you look so much worse. The only reason you would do this publicly is to take something out on her. Why wouldn't you just privately message her if you were that concerned about her lying.

@JillofTrades

Airing dirty laundry makes you look so much worse. The only reason you would do this publicly is to take something out on her. Why wouldn't you just privately message her if you were that concerned about her lying.

She did and updated, about eight hours ago

The fact that OP even considered doing this is bad enough. You shouldn't need strangers on an internet forum to tell you that humiliating your sister publicly is a) not a good look and b) a nasty thing to do.

Glad you've come to your senses.

I hereby accept, with dignity and grace, the very large arse that has been handed to me on this occasion. I deserve it. My only excuse is that I had a crummy weekend, topped off with my hypocritical car prang (which luckily has done no damage to the other car), couple with last day of term emotions (I'm a teacher)...all of which resulted in my brain deciding to look at my (still a hypocrite) sister, and a little devil on my shoulder whispered "this seems to be a good medium to take your frustration out on. Oh and by the way, post on MN, you won't regret it"

@GlummyMcGlummerson It happens to us all 🤣 thankfully you came on to ask before you called your sister out.
I'd mute her.